Breakups
How To
How to Get Over a Breakup When YOU Did the Dumping

by Chelli Pumphrey for YourTango Don’t beat yourself up over breaking up! Sometimes a breakup can be a slow, shaky, untangling of two lives, like a sticky cobweb wrapped around your fingers. You just can’t shake it off. Sometimes a breakup is a quick, deep cut, and you’re left reeling from the sudden pain and […]

Confessions
8 Tips for Getting Over a Breakup from the Inside Out

Reader Sam said the following in response to our post, “How to Get Over a Breakup (in 10 Easy Steps)”: I’m going through an awful breakup — years of addictive patterning, back and forth etc etc. I think tackling it as a physical, spiritual and emotional issue works best. 1) Immediately find a grief and […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Boyfriend Is Always Too Tired for Sex

To ask Em & Lo your own advice question, click here. Dear Em and Lo, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. A few months ago we took a break and I moved out. I was really having a great time, but he showed up with roses and tears promising everything […]

Websites
What Our Google Searches Tell Us About Our Exes

We’ve always been fascinated by the Google searches that bring people to EMandLO.com. You have no idea how many different ways it’s possible to spell penis. And don’t even get us started on masturbation! This week while browsing, we noticed just how many people out there are obsessed with their exes. In particular, exes and […]

How To
6 Reasons to Stay Single After a Breakup

When you’re deep in the doldrums of a recent breakup, it’s tempting to jump head-first into your next relationship. You might find yourself wanting to replicate the intimacy and comfort of that lost relationship. You might even find yourself trying to spoon a one-night stand! Here are six reasons why you should allow yourself a […]

Confessions
Why Online Dating Is Much Rougher on Men Than Women

MVP reader Johnny said the following in response to our post, “New App: Online Dating Protection” (he was responding in particular to a concern we voiced that, rather than protect women, this app would just make it harder for jerk guys to disappear): Ahem. I have to disagree with your math on who’s going to […]

Your Call
Your Call: When Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I love my boyfriend: […]

Personal Essays
I Fell for an Online Con Artist…And It Still Feels Like Love

by Dori Hartley for YourTango I fell so deeply in love with the character she pretended to be that I lost myself. Once upon a time there was a lonely woman named Teresa Carter who lived in a small town in Southeastern Kentucky. She was an imaginative person and not without a brain; however, she […]

Dear Em & Lo
Why You Should Dump Someone Who’s Perfect for You

Dear Em & Lo, I am 23 years old and A, my boyfriend of four years, and I are currently four months into a long-distance relationship until I graduate from my university this summer and move across the country to be with him. I recently connected with J, a guy that I was seeing five […]

Your Call
Your Call: Why Did He Break Up with Me?

The “beyond my control” breakup scene in the film Dangerous Liasons We get a lot of questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to respond to a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your thoughts in […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Downgrade a Booty Call to Friend (No Benefits)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been reading […]

How To
How to Organize Your Ex Out of Your Life

The two of us basically share a brain when it comes to this blog, and we are one hundred percent united on all the important issues in life, love, and dating: safe sex, orgasms for everyone, the superiority of flat-front pants, etc. But every now and then we have to resort to the first-person singular […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: DTMFA!

Reader Inness channeled her inner Dan Savage this week (DTMFA — look it up) with a heartfelt response to the post, “Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship.” Now what we want to know is: How can we ensure that our snappy acronyms make it into the Urban Dictionary? DTMFA. This guy is shaming […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Your Breakup Advice Sucks!

This week, reader Ultraviolet took us to task for our “ten easy steps” break-up advice in response to a post, “Your Call: How Do You Get Over Long-Term Heartbreak?” Consider her words a cautionary tale about holding onto bitterness and regret, living in the past… and not listening to yours truly, Em & Lo! Yeah, three years […]

Uncategorized
Comment of the Week: Communicate or Cut Him Loose!

photo via Flickr This week,  our favorite comment came from TK in response to the “Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much.” We love it when our readers deliver tough love so eloquently!: Most people who write in to advice columnists “know” the answer already. You may love this guy to […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]