Breakups
Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (The Breakup Edition)

Ouch. We find Des to be a bit of a matzah bachelorette (flat and bland), but even we felt really, really bad for her last night. Getting dumped is hard, but it’s at least twenty-five times harder when it’s televised nationally. And what are the odds: you’ve got 25 potential suitors and you fall for […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Always Chooses Masturbation Over Me

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I have been dating my man for over 6 years. For the past 4 yrs, our intercourse has gone from 2x/wk to once every 2 months. He explained to me it’s because he’s tired, he wants to […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Like My Co-Worker More Than My Boyfriend

Dear Em & Lo, I have a bf of 6 years, but I am crushing on my coworker who is very different than my man. I have been with my now bf on and off for maybe 6 years. I love him, but we don’t get to see each other very often. Probably like once […]

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Your Call: We’re in Love, So Why Does the Sex Feel Mechanical?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

Pop Culture
An Interview with This Week’s “Modern Love” Writer, Laurie Sandell

photo by Alexandra DeFurio Our good friend, colleague, and fellow shameless Bachelor  fan, Laurie Sandell, is a successful freelance magazine writer (Marie Claire, New York, In Style), graphic memoirist (The Impostor’s Daughter), nonfiction book author (Truth and Consequences: Life Inside the Madoff Family) and coffee shop dweller (18th Street Coffee Shop in Santa Monica). This past […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Re-Enter the Dating Pool?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

How To
How to Let Someone Down Easy

photo via Real Simple Each month, Real Simple magazine runs an expertise column in which 5 experts give their best advice on a particular subject. This month, we had the honor of being one of those experts. The topic this month was how to reject someone nicely (necessary info for a lot of people during […]

Pop Culture
How Strangers Reached Out to Help One Lonely Guy

Last October, when Jeff Ragsdale, an out-of-work actor and stand-up comedian, got dumped by his girlfriend — the kind of breakup that puts your heart through the blender — he decided to crowd-source his loneliness. He posted flyers all around Lower Manhattan that read, “If anyone wants to talk about anything, call me. . . […]

Personal Essays
Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Three years ago, our then intern Kristine deGuzman, who was a junior at UC Berkeley at the time, wrote a Confession for this site about how she and her boyfriend were taking a break from each other while she studied abroad. Kristine is now a Cal grad and a Senior Social Media Specialist at a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Deal with Bad Breakups?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Pop culture is filled with examples of how women deal with breakups. How do most guys deal with really bad breakups?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): This depends of course entirely […]

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Your Call: How Can I Live with My Ex?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I wrote to you about three […]

News
The Museum of Broken Relationships Will Take Your Crap

Donated exhibit at the Museum of Broken Relationships The Museum of Broken Relationships sounds like a catchy name for a blog or something Carrie Bradshaw might muse about in one of her deep, metaphor-heavy voice-overs. But it’s way more awesome than that: It’s an actual museum. In Croatia. See? Totally awesome. We wrote about the […]

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Your Call: Do I Need to Sleep with Someone New to Get Over My Ex?

photo by Morning_theft We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Can I Sleep with Ex’s Roomie?

photo by balinto Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend of seven months just broke up with me. He felt (and I agree totally) that we are more like friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. We were both sad, but it ended amicably, and we intend to stay friends. Here’s my dilemma: over the past couple of months, I’ve […]

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Your Call: Should He Try to Win Her Back?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Personal Essays
Confession: My Top 10 Songs for a Yearning Heart

photo by Philippe Put Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses her heartbreak soundtrack: I had been living with my boyfriend for two months. We paid bills and grocery shopped and made animal noises at weird hours in the night. And then he left. He had to go […]