Communication
Personal Essays
Comment of the Week: The Older Men Get, the Less They Talk Sex w/Friends

This week, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Know Whether Their Male Friends Are Circumcised?” reader Johnny said: The older men get, the less we discuss sex with each other. Whether it’s because we’re more mature, we’re pretending we’re more mature, or because we’re more experienced and there are fewer questions and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Know When They’re in Love?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys know when they’re in love?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Colin Adamo of Hooking Up & Staying Hooked): Not always. I think we spend a lot of time debating and […]

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Dear Em & Lo: My Fiance Doesn’t Care About My Orgasm

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New*PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, My fiance and I have been together for three years and have a one-year-old son. Although to most people we would seem to be a relatively happy couple, we do have our problems. Half of the problems […]

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Your Call: Is His Kink Normal?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Is my kink normal? About 12 years ago a woman I […]

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Wise Guys: What Will Men NEVER Tell Their Partner?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What are some sex-related things a guy will NEVER tell the person he’s dating?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook):  What he really wants to do. Openness is the key to any […]

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Dear Em & Lo: Did I Ruin Things By Sleeping with Him Too Soon?

photo via flickr G’day mates (yep I’m Australian), Okay, the scenario: Met a guy on a Friday at a shop. Swapped numbers and he asked me out. I couldn’t that weekend cause I was busy with my bday party. He texted me Saturday night to ask how the party was going and mentioned he was close by. […]

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Your Call: In a Casual Relationship, What’s the Diff Btwn Honesty & TMI?

photo via Flickr  We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  So, I have been having a casual sexual […]

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Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Dirty Talk?

photo by db*photography Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s your opinion of dirty talk?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): I’m not categorically opposed to dirty talk, as long as my sexual soup de jour isn’t a complete moron. Which […]

Websites
We Wish We Lived in a World Where People Sent These Cards

“Concessions to Romance” card via WrongCards.com “Where would be without romance?” writes the blogger responsible for the awesome (and free!) e-card site WrongCards.com. “Probably living less dramatic lives with more compatible people and much more realistic expectations.” If that sounds like the kind of guy you want writing your greeting cards, then you need to […]

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Wise Guys: What Do Men Really Think About Cuddling?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do men really think about cuddling?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Cuddling is the most amazing thing in the world to do after you’ve come — after having a cigarette […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Improve Your Partner’s Body Image

photo via flickr My friend’s boyfriend would always tell her he loved her body but she never believed him (they never do) — so he bought her a donut everyday till she believed him. Sounds strange, but it worked. — ciara, responding to the (oldie-but-goodie) post “Your Call: How Can I Convince My Girlfriend I […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Why It’s Okay to Ask, Did You Come?

In response to our post “The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed,” reader Walt Whitman wrote the following. And we have to say: he makes an excellent point! I take minor issue with #10. [“Did you come?”] I think it’s a bit romantic to presume that one’s partner will simply know whether the […]

How To
The Ten Worst Things You Can Say in Bed

photo via flickr If we had to distill our entire body of sex advice into one word, it would probably be this: communicate. Before sex, during sex, after sex — speak up, people! It’s the only way to get what you need and want, and to make sure that your partner is getting what they […]

Research
Toward a 2012 Treaty in the Battle of the Sexes

As you may have noticed (we’re not exactly subtle on this point), we don’t buy the idea that men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and shuttles between the two are infrequent at best. We tend to think that women and men are a lot more alike than rumor (or headline) has it — […]

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How to Understand His Porn Habit

photo via flickr Is masturbating to porn cheating? Readers are always asking us this question, and the masturbator in question is pretty much always a man. Sometimes his female partner writes to us, asking if she’s right to feel cheated on. Other times the man himself writes to us, asking why his partner can’t understand […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I Told BF Sex Was Just Alright

photo by db*photography Dear Em & Lo, When my boyfriend and I first got together and started having sex he asked me how I thought it was. I told him it was alright. Well, he took it as a negative thing and now he doesn’t want to have sex with me because he thinks I […]