photo by Carlos Madrigal In a world of Facebook “likes” and online dating questionnaires that seem to narrow down the soul-mate search to a simple (and yet oh so witty!) checklist of wants and needs, it’s easy to focus on the superficial ways in which we do or don’t connect with each other. And granted, […]
Got a dinner date planned for this weekend? These 10 rules should help. Remember, you should be an animal in the bedroom, not the dining room. 1. Never sit next to each other on one side of a table unless you’re being filmed for a reality TV show. Be adults and sit facing each other. […]
photo by paris_corrupted The blind date is alive and well, thanks to online dating and well-intentioned grandmothers. But what if your blind date turns out to be a loud talker with halitosis and a goiter? Given the odds, it’s amazing that otherwise intelligent beings ever agree to a blind date. Call it hope triumphing over […]
photo by maureen lunn Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: The man I have feelings for is an officer; I am enlisted in the military, so a relationship is […]
image via OKTrends Regular readers of this blog will know that we are mildly obsessed with the dating research blog OKTrends (it’s attached to the dating site OKCupid) — check out our past coverage of OKTrends on the myth of gay evangelism, the (consistent, predictable) way we lie online, misconceptions about online profile photos, and the […]
photo by greenfaerietree Before a hot date, you (hopefully) shower, put on clean underwear, dress up nicely and generally get gussied up. If there’s any chance you’ll end up back at your place, then your bedroom deserves the same sort of preparation and attention. Here are ten steps to turning your bedroom into a genuine […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]
photo by Orin_Zebest Conversation is an art form. The simplest advice is to ask questions… and actually listen to the answers. Nothing says “I’m an asshole” quite like gazing absentmindedly at some hottie shooting pool in the back of the bar while your date tells you how she ate her lunch in the bathroom during […]
photo by greeblie Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I don’t have a problem meeting guys, but I do seem to have a problem keeping them around long enough […]
Given how much it takes out of a person simply to approach a stranger at a bar, let alone get their number or ask them out, it seems unfair that you’ve then got to plan the perfect date, too. Unfortunately going to Disneyland isn’t usually a viable option — and neither’s Dollywood, which is too […]
photo by chelseagirl We have long repeated the adage that confidence — whether real or faked — leads to success on the pick-up scene and in the dating world. But a new study by a psychology professor at Queens College in New York suggests the exact opposite: insecure people try harder in the dating world, […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s the ideal New Year’s Eve for a single straight guy/straight married guy/gay committed or single guy?” Straight Single Guy (Max): New Years, much like birthdays, should be fool-proof fun. Good friends, tasty beverages, and maybe something cuddly to look forward to. […]
photo by Orin_Zebest Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a junior English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her seventh installment: A few months ago, I was interviewing a relationship doctor for an online women’s magazine I […]
Fake Calls is an iPhone app that lets you receive a fake call on your phone — you can either tap the icon on your home screen (discreetly labeled FC) and your phone will ring in ten seconds, or else you can schedule a call in advance. Your phone will look and sound exactly like […]
photo by rick As a general rule, the only pickup line we officially endorse is “Hi, my name is [your name here].” You can then embellish this intro with a situation-specific line such as “Can I buy you a drink?” or “Would you like to dance?” or “Please, go ahead of me, I actually enjoy […]
photo by david.nikonvscanon Dear Em & Lo, I met this guy, D., about 4 months ago. We have done very simple meetings, basically coffee talking. We exchange text messages several times a day, some are sexual in nature. We talk a couple times a day on the phone. We both have said we feel a […]
