Dating
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

photo by galateadia Dear Em & Lo, I have been seeing this guy for a year and a half now, he is my best friend, we do everything together. I am in love with him. He refuses to commit or even give us the title of “boyfriend/girlfriend.” Which in turn makes me insecure, jealous, and […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: A Great Date Mistaken for Emasculation

photo by Albany Tim We couldn’t believe this crazy story from BCofUIMhere in response to our Wise Guys Post “Can’t Women Ask Men Out?” It made us so thankful that we live in more enlightened times. Which then got us thinking, Do we really? The last time I asked a guy out was probably before […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can't Women Ask Men Out?

photo by rick Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Why do some guys get freaked out if a woman asks them out, and act like she’s desperate? Is it because they feel like they have to say yes? Or does it actually make a woman seem less attractive […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Connect with Someone Before Sex?

photo from Summit Entertainment Hello Ladies! I am a single thirty-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in a year. The problem isn’t that I couldn’t be having sex, I’ve got prospects, the issue is my desire to avoid the same patterns my relationships have followed thus far. I am genuinely sexually adventurous but I have […]

TV
Confessions of a "Millionaire Matchmaker" Millionaire

One of our Wise Guys, Tyler Barnett, recently went on Bravo’s reality show, “The Millionaire Matchmaker” (his episode re-airs next Tuesday, March 16th at 5pm — set your TiVos; you can watch a clip above). So we just had to give him the third degree: Why, oh why, would you ever go on this show? […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: When HE Puts Out Too Soon

photo by e.esders Just to prove that it’s not only women who fall hard on a first date, get swept up by their libido, and never hear from said date again… I met this beautiful gal on a dating website. We had a second date, had a great time, spent the entire day together. At […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Tell If He Wants More Than Sex?

photo by sinabeet Dear Em & Lo, I have a male friend whose company I enjoy very much (I’ve known him for about 3 months). He’s very much attracted to me (or he just wants sex) and we hang out when we can and talk on the phone almost everyday. We are both single at the moment and […]

Websites
The Search for the Worst Date in America

photo by CarbonNYC In honor of Valentine’s Day, MyVeryWorstDate.com is holding a contest for the most cringe-worthy, laugh-out-loud, WTF! dating story in the country. The winner, who’ll be announced on February 14th, will receive 1000 bucks cash to help pay for the PTSD therapy sessions. Here are the basic rules (click here for the fine […]

How To
How to Buy (or Accept) a Drink

photo by Southern_Foodways_Alliance Sending a hottie a drink is an old stand-by among pick-up artists. However, this move may be interpreted as “cheesy” rather than “kitschy” in certain irony-free zones — Idaho, perhaps, or Long Island — or by women who are frequently sent “Slippery Nipples.” Thus, we can only recommend this maneuver in good […]

How To
A Woman’s Handbag Is a Relationship Litmus Test

photo by *clairity* For a single woman on the make, a purse doubles as an overnight kit: Her Fendi baguette will easily hold condoms, lube, toothbrush, spare undies, lipstick, business cards, gum, cellphone, and, if she was once a Girl Scout, a penis ring (“Be prepared!”). And, of course, if she’s out with a group […]

How To
Econ 101 for the Pickup Scene

image from nDevilTV Economies of Scale is a “theory of seduction” positing that the more you put yourself out there, the better you’ll do. Duh, you say. But, like the greatest economic theories, it gets better as you unpack it. Say you spy the woman/man of your dreams sipping a green-tea latte at the Soy […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Start from Scratch with an Ex?

Zazzle T-shirt Dear Em & Lo, I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago, due to some problems with the relationship and some awful things that were going on in my personal life — it was just too much stress. I still have feelings for my ex, however, and recently we started talking […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Romance, Schromance

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I lost my virginity beside a pool with a guy whose age was less than the number of people he had slept with. Before penetration he said, “I don’t want anything serious, okay?” I nodded. […]

Personal Essays
Confession: The Drawbacks of Long-Distance Dating

photo by mtkopone Our contributor Ryan, who blogs at Student Loans for Beer Money, has a confession to make: Most summers I look forward to an endless string of parties at which I usually get hammered and hook up with some stranger. I’m a 19-year-old guy — how else am I supposed to pass the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Who Should Pay on a First Date?

photo by emdot Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Who should pay on a first date? Gay Committed Guy (Terence): A general rule that you can’t go wrong with: whoever asked their date out should pay. Real simple, eh? Now if you want  to be real smooth, then […]