How To
Why You Should Never Fake an Orgasm (Except in This One Case)

Faking, Defined Every woman has faked an O at least once in her lifetime. Pretending to climax is a theatrical art — one that even thespian Keanu Reeves would find challenging to pull off convincingly. There’s a healthy dose of heavy breathing with much melodramatic “oohing” and “ahhing” sprinkled throughout (all informed by porn and “When […]

Wise Guys
What Does Bad Sex Look Like (According to Guys)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the definition of bad sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): Good sex is a function of the physical and the mental. For women, the mental part may be much more about nurturing and safety, or so I’ve read. For men, I would […]

Wise Guys
Yes, Guys Fake Orgasms Too — Here’s How to Tell

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer, quite diversely, the following: Do guys fake orgasms? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Of course! We probably don’t faux the Big O as much as women do, but every now and then the circumstances might call for us to fake. If our endurance is flagging […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think About Your Small Boobs

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “I think my boobs are too small — slightly pudgy guys have bigger boobs than me! Should I get a boob job?” Gay Committed Guy (Mark): It really depends on how you feel. Even though god knows how many Americans have some […]

How To
5 Good Reasons Not to Fake Your Orgasm

by Amanda Chatel for YourTango You’re really not as good at it as you may think you are. It has long been one of those discussions that comes up both in and out of the bedroom: are you faking it or not? Faking an orgasm, that is. Sadly there are actually those out there who end […]

Dear Em & Lo
4 Ways to Tell a Guy You’ve Been Faking

Are you a liar, liar, whose pants, unfortunately, are not on fire at all? If you’ve been faking orgasms with your boyfriend or husband, you need to fess up — after all, the only way to get orgasms is to be honest about what does and doesn’t work for you. You know all this, right? […]

Comment of the Week: Advice to Fakers from Someone Who Feels Your Pain

I totally feel your pain. I have never been able to orgasm with my boyfriend of over a year (the only guy I’ve slept with) or on my own. It can be very disheartening. One thing that is especially irritating is the way so much advice is worded. “You know you’ve gotten to the big […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I’ve Been Faking Orgasms with BF for Years

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]

Getting By with a Little Help from a Sportsgasm

photo by Todd Huffman When Craig Venezia, the man behind the Faking a Sportsgasm blog, wrote to us suggesting that our sites had a lot in common, we were wary. On the one hand, we love that he makes fun of macho dudes who slobber and moan over balls and hard pucks. But on the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Should I Tell My BF I’ve Been Faking?

photo of Katz’s Deli, where Meg Ryan famously faked an orgasm, by Aaron_M Dear Em & Lo, I am a college student, and have been with this guy for six months. The sex is absolutely amazing, we do it about four times a day average, but he has never made me orgasm through intercourse. My […]