Lelo cuffs Today we are going to talk about “sensual bondage.” This is a kinder, gentler BDSM that just focuses on the simple wrist restraint of a partner who gives you their permission to do so first. Anything more complicated and you’ll need to school yourself thoroughly in the safety aspects of bondage, either with […]
photo via Flickr Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun. But it’s not all fun and games like naked Slip n’ Slide — there […]
photo from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica Conventional wisdom would have us believe that all women need extended foreplay — at least 30 minutes’ worth — to get anywhere near an orgasm, which may be one reason why quickies aren’t embraced more. The thinking goes that women, on average, take a lot longer to […]
Steven, commenting on the post “Dating on Craigslist Is a Crap Shoot” CL is Crap. Period. Folks, 99% of what you read in [their] personal sections–including under ‘Platonic’–is spam from dating site affiliates. And here’s the way to spot them: 1) No contractions or contractions without apostrophes, e.g., ‘I am,’ or ‘Im,’ etc. 2) No […]
photo via CollegeCandy.com We constantly hear how we should avoid getting into a sexual rut and keep trying new things. But just as important is to develop some good sexual habits — things that you should be engaging in on a regular basis with your partner (whatever regular means to you) — now and always. […]
photo by ValtheKid In the first book the two of us wrote together, a sex manual called The Big Bang, we included the throwaway line “multiple orgasms for men — sorry, that’s a whole ‘nother book.” (What can we say, we only had a few hundred pages to work with, and it seemed to us […]
photo via Flickr Sneaking into the unoccupied conference room on your lunch break…leaving dirty Polaroids under each other’s keyboards…doing it on your boss’s desk while he or she is in the Hamptons. Dipping your pen in the company inkwell may not be exactly encouraged in the modern workplace, but most of us have dipped at […]
photo via Flickr We’ve all been there: you reach the bottom of your grande iced decaf soy mocha and you know, in your heart of hearts, that you’d rather see Oprah and Jerry Springer thumb-wrestling naked than go on a second date with this person. How do you end things before they’ve even really officially […]
photo by hyku After more than a decade in the sex writing biz, we have seen our share of sexual gimmicks come and go, many of them vastly overrated. Below are the top ten sexual acts that, while they may be more substantial than gimmicks, continue to get more accolades than they deserve. Also, check […]
photo by Carlos Madrigal In a world of Facebook “likes” and online dating questionnaires that seem to narrow down the soul-mate search to a simple (and yet oh so witty!) checklist of wants and needs, it’s easy to focus on the superficial ways in which we do or don’t connect with each other. And granted, […]
photo via UCLA’s bench tales To “bench” someone, romantically speaking, is to put them in relationship limbo without telling them. Let’s say you have a sneaky feeling that you might want to break up with your partner soon, but you’re not 100 percent sure, and in the meantime you don’t want to screw things up […]
Got a dinner date planned for this weekend? These 10 rules should help. Remember, you should be an animal in the bedroom, not the dining room. 1. Never sit next to each other on one side of a table unless you’re being filmed for a reality TV show. Be adults and sit facing each other. […]
There comes a time in every guy’s life when he wants to pull out and impersonate Old Faithful, just for the visual. Or perhaps there come many times. Women, too, may appreciate the visual — just like the hickey, it’s a spectacle (though hopefully not one that your co-workers will spot the next morning). Facials, […]
photo by paris_corrupted The blind date is alive and well, thanks to online dating and well-intentioned grandmothers. But what if your blind date turns out to be a loud talker with halitosis and a goiter? Given the odds, it’s amazing that otherwise intelligent beings ever agree to a blind date. Call it hope triumphing over […]
photo by greenfaerietree Before a hot date, you (hopefully) shower, put on clean underwear, dress up nicely and generally get gussied up. If there’s any chance you’ll end up back at your place, then your bedroom deserves the same sort of preparation and attention. Here are ten steps to turning your bedroom into a genuine […]
photo still from MGM’s When Harry Met Salley As many as ten percent of women have never had an orgasm, and many more than that have never had an orgasm with a partner. And the more women fake, the worse these statistics will get. It’s time to take your orgasms into your own hands—quite literally, […]
