Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Should I Worry If He Masturbates More Than We Have Sex?

photo by Tavallai Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If he masturbates more often than he has (or wants) sex with me, his wife, should I be worried?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I realize that some of my […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call – Does Bad Sex Have to Be a Deal-Breaker?

photo by M31. Can sexual compatibility improve over time in a relationship — or does it need to be there from the start for the relationship to work? Is bad sex necessarily a deal-breaker? Read the letter below and then advise “Underwhelmed” in the feedback section below. Dear Em & Lo, I’ve always been a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Sex?

photo by fhwrdh Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy? Or will men generally be up for it whenever it’s offered/available?” Gay Single Guy (Daniel): THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH SEX for a guy. […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa: Any Medical Libido Booster for Gals?

photo by Tiago Ribeiro Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, Is there a safe, medical way to improve my libido? Is there a […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Love Sex! Does That Make Me a Slut?

Dear Em & Lo, Lately, my need for sex has been UNQUENCHABLE. It’s reached the point where I’ve roped two booty calls into alternating nights. Am I a slut for doing this? I’m worried that I’m becoming addicted to sex — and I’m only 23! I’ve always had a high sex drive but I’ve never […]

Sexual Health
Turns Out There IS Such a Thing as Too Many Orgasms

photos via When we first saw the headlines this past week about a woman who has 300 orgasms a day finally meeting the man of her dreams — i.e. a man who could keep up with her libido — we assumed the story would be about Marrena Lindberg, whom we interviewed last year for […]

Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. We typically fight such Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus stereotypes, but we’ve heard too much anecdotal evidence to ignore this one. It’s not that watching […]

Pop Culture
10 Good Reasons Why Women Have Sex

Why Women Have Sex by Cindy Meston and David Buss is on sale now It seems like everyone right now is talking about that new book Why Women Have Sex, by Cindy Meston and David Buss. Apparently lots of women reported having sex to keep the peace, to stave off boredom, to relieve a headache, […]

In Sleep vs. Sex Battle, the Winner is…Mattresses, Pills and PDAs

photo by audreyjm529 It seems like every few years, someone comes out with a study about what percentage of the population would choose a good night’s sleep over sex. The studies are usually sponsored by a mattress company, or a pharmaceutical firm developing non-addictive (riiiiight) sleeping pills, or — as in the most recent case […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Weight Gain Killed My Sex Life

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… There’s something about the heat of the summer sun that makes everyone a little more frisky, a little more excited, a little more promiscuous — it’s the season of bathing suits, little clothing, late-night dates, sex on […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Have Zero Sex Drive. What’s Wrong with Me?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup:  I have very little sex drive.  I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or if he’s got […]

10 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Asexuality

An article by the director of a new documentary about asexuality reminded us that “asexual” is one of those terms that gets thrown around in casual conversation so much that it’s easy to forget what it really means (kind of like “passive-aggressive”). So here’s a brief primer for you. 1. Asexuality is not a choice. Celibacy […]

Poll: What's Your Ultimate Dealbreaker?

<a href =”” >What would be the biggest relationship deal-breaker for you…?</a> <br/> <span style=”font-size:9px;” mce_style=”font-size:9px;”> (<a href =””> surveys</a>)</span> If you can’t see the poll, click here to take it.

What Do Women Want? Yes.

Check out the NYTimes Magazine getting all hot & heavy with their article pics! That famous Freud quote “What do women want?” is just like the question “How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Pop?” because the answer’s the same: “The world may never know.” That’s pretty […]

Yogis Do It Mindfully

photo by Daniel Sandoval Okay, so we know we’re fond of saying that our sex advice requires neither a yoga mat nor a devotion to ’90s Sting. It’s not that we have anything against yogis, we just think that the ability to wrap one’s legs around one’s head isn’t necessarily the answer to everyone’s sex […]