Painful Sex
Personal Essays
Confession: I Was Allergic to Sex

I started having intercourse at 15. Besides the perpetual awkwardness of budding teenage sexuality and the occasional urinary tract infection (UTI), my first few casual sex experiences in high school were fun, comfortable and safe — what I would call “healthy.”  Sophomore year, I entered a long distance relationship, and soon noticed that after my […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: 4 Ways to Alleviate Post-Intercourse Cramps

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have deep penetration with my boyfriend and after intercourse I get  mild […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: How Can I Make Sex Less Painful?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, Since I started having sex (4 years ago, I’m 20 now) I’ve never […]

Your Call
My Boyfriend’s Penis Is So Big I Can’t Orgasm…Should We Break Up?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My boyfriend’s penis is too big, he’s really tall […]

How To
11 Ways to Make Intercourse More Comfortable for Your Vagina

For a lot of women, intercourse is not always like pizza: i.e. even when it’s bad it’s good. Nope: when intercourse is bad due to pain, it’s really bad. There are many reasons why intercourse can hurt: an infection, an STD, vaginitis, vulvodynia, PTSD (perhaps due to a previous sexual assault)… But if you’ve ruled these […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Penis Is Too Big for Sex

Dear Em & Lo, I will cut to the chase: I’m not bragging here but I have a much larger than average penis (it’s almost 11 inches) and it’s ruining my sex life. Every ex-girlfriend I have had has said it hurts them and one even just turned around and said no way and broke […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Tell Your Husband It’s Okay to Ravish You (a Little)

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m just about as […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Enjoy Sex When I Was Taught Not To?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Expect Pleasure If My Wife Is in Pain?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Why Does My G-Spot Feel So Good… Then Hurt So Bad?

photo by liz_noise Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, When my partner stimulates my G-spot, it starts off feeling incredible. I then slowly feel how it becomes more and more sensitive (even while becoming more sensitive it feels nice), however I eventually come to a point […]

Books
You Are Not Alone: Healing Painful Sex

The following is an excerpt from the introduction of the book “Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain” by Deborah Coady, MD, and Nancy Fish, MSW. If you have ever felt pain during or because of sex, you are not alone. It’s estimated that 16 to 20 percent of […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Ways to Make Sex with the Well-Endowed More Comfortable

Dear Em and Lo, I have recently found that mythical man that every woman wants and movies portray. He’s financially stable, no ex drama, gorgeous (holy crap is he!), very sexy, and very tall (approx 6′ 3″-4″). The latter part of his good qualities is what’s the issue — he’s TALL. Meaning that everything else […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I Can’t Have Intercourse, Should I Let Him Sleep Around?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate, My G-Spot Gives Me Cramps, Nausea and Pain!

photo via Flickr Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions every few weeks on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Every time my boyfriend tries to give me a G-spot orgasm, it feels really […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Vaginismus Is God’s Method of Population Control

Not every Comment of the Week is chosen for its thoughtfulness, insight and eloquence. No, sometimes we get a comment that is so insane and earnest and downright creepy, that we can’t help but highlight it, if for no other reason than its entertainment value. Sure, it might be a joke. Either way, it’ll make […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Ex Punches Me in the Nose

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: My cousin and I go over to […]