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The Key to Understanding Bad Boys: They’re Narcissists

Bad boys — and bad girls — are sexy, alluring, intense, and challenging. They draw you in, and then inevitably push you away. Trying to earn their love and approval can become addictive. But it’s a losing game. Because, according to Dr. Craig Malkin, they’re often unhealthy narcissists who, by definition, can’t — or at […]

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I Love My Fiance and Still Think He’s Hot. So Where Did My Libido Go?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I am a 23 year old woman and […]

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My Boyfriend Is Always Too Tired for Sex

To ask Em & Lo your own advice question, click here. Dear Em and Lo, My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. A few months ago we took a break and I moved out. I was really having a great time, but he showed up with roses and tears promising everything […]

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The 5 Bad Words You Can’t Say in a Relationship

by Julie Orlav for YourTango Words are POWERFUL. Words can cut you, heal you and even inspire you. Learning the language of relationships and marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage. Here are five words that are destined to damage your relationship: 1. “Never” Never implies a sense […]

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10 Things to Say to Your Partner Instead of “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check […]

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7 Ways to Keep the Magic After You Move In Together

When you move in together, what you lose in mystery you make up for in intimacy. But lack of mystery can kill romance and passion. So here are 7 steps to make sure living together doesn’t ruin good lovin’. 1. Be courteous. People often assume that manners are meant to govern the interactions of strangers […]

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10 Considerations for Adult Virgins Who Date

We often get advice questions from virgins (usually straight and female) asking how long they can make a guy wait, if it’s realistic to hold out for the right person, and whether or not there are straight non-virgin guys out there who are willing to wait. To them, we offer these 10 inquisitive ruminations on virginity […]

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How Do You Make Sure a Threeway Doesn’t Ruin Your Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been on […]

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8 Steps to Convincing Your Straight Boyfriend to Let You Peg Him

Approaching anal sex for the first time — whether you’re the giver or the receiver, whether you’re straight or gay — is not something to wing or take lightly. Not only is it a psychologically loaded act, but it’s one of the few sexual acts that can be done “wrong.” The anus is not self-lubricating […]

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Your Call: When Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I love my boyfriend: […]

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8 Rules for Shooting Naughty Videos with Your Partner

Thinking of playing a little very candid camera with your other half? Engaging in your own sexual shoot, whether as the star or the director or both, can automatically make things more dramatic and theatrical, even if you end up keeping most of your clothes on or refuse to make any cliched “orgasm faces.” But, without thinking things […]

Pop Culture
6 Ways Technology Has Altered Your Love Life

by Kylie M. for YourTango Behold, the wonders of the Internet – changing your love life one social network, dating site and app at a time. Communicating with partners is more instant than ever before – but possibly also more complicated. According to our recent Dating In The Digital Age survey, 75% of you have […]

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Your Call: Why Won’t He Get to Know Me?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This woman asked her question in the comments section of the post How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? Tell it […]

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How Cheating May Actually Improve Your Relationship

by Sarah Harrison for YourTango We didn’t believe it at first either … Unless you’re inclined toward polyamory, extramarital relations are generally frowned upon. Marriages accept and expect monogamy; infidelity is harmful! Right? Not so fast, says Michael J. Formica, a Psychology Today blogger. In a post on the “Enlightened Living” blog, Formica makes the case that thinking about cheating—and even stepping […]

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5 Signs Your Jealousy Is Out of Control

Kim Olver for Your Tango | Photo via Flickr Extreme jealousy is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Engaging in jealous behaviors and suspicions is not cute. It does not let your significant other know you really care. And it definitely will not strengthen your relationship. An occasional, mildly jealous episode might actually heighten the […]

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Wedding Gift Idea: Intimate Art Kit

This has been around for a few years, but the unique product launching site The Grommet just re-featured it in a recent newsletter: The Love Is Art Kit — a way for couples to make abstract art with their naked bodies while they get it on. Jeremy Brown, the South African-born artist who’s created the kit, has been […]