6/13/12
Your Call: In a Casual Relationship, What’s the Diff Btwn Honesty & TMI?

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We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. 

So, I have been having a casual sexual realtionship with this guy.  I really like hanging out with him but neither of us are looking for a relationship so it’s basically just friends with benefits.  We see each other more or less once a week.  Recently, I have had some health issues (a cyst) that have prevented me from having sex.  All told, I’ll probably be out of the saddle for about 3 weeks total.  Well, I’ve been kind of making excuses about why I can’t have sex with this guy, (I have my period, I’m sick, etc) but he is starting to think I’m avoiding him.  I’m just embaressed to tell him about this gross cyst but I don’t know what to tell him. How much info should I give him?  I don’t want him to be turned off by TMI but also don’t want him to think I’m blowing him off!  Help!