We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. 

Dear Em & Lo,

I love my boyfriend: we share the same values and the same tastes. We’re totally attracted to each other. But we fight all the time. Over little things: like cleaning up (I’m messy), choice of words (his are often not PC), extended family (we both aren’t crazy about the each other’s), indecision (he never has an opinion), etc.  We’ve only been together a little over a year (living together for half that), so it seems premature to consider  couples’ counseling, though I can’t imagine breaking up with him any time soon. I also can’t imagine spending my life with us fighting like this.  At what point do you decide to try therapy and when do you just break up? 

— Ninja Girlfriend

What should N.G. do? Let her know in the comments below.