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2016: The Year in Bad Sex

This year sucked — and not in a good, consensual, non-transactional, mutually satisfying way. Here are the top 10 worst sex- and gender-related events, trends, crimes and tragedies of 2016. Good riddance! 1. Trump Admits to Sexual Assault on Tape, Still Gets Elected:   2. The New Jared: Glee Star Indicted on Child Porn Charges:   […]

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Merry Everything!

We hope you have a great holiday! Here’s hoping there’s something saucy and battery-operated in your stocking…or at least a nice new pair of undies. Thank you for reading our humble little sex advice site. The best present you could give us is signing up for our weekly newsletter, The Em & Lo Down, if […]

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Which One of the 4 Categories of Relationships Are YOU In?

by Merethe Najjar for YourTango Find out where you fall. Personality quizzes abound all over the internet, and it seems that everyone is looking for a simple way to answer carefully selected questions and find out secrets about themselves. Even more persistent are articles and quizzes designed to mystically let you in on the potential for a […]

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Special Thanksgiving Issue: Love in the Time of Turkey

However distasteful it may sound, there are a lot of similarities between cooking turkey and having sex: prepping naked skin, heating things up, getting stuffed, being done — and when you really think about it, they’re both kind of gross…

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CONTEST: How Do You Light Your Fire? Let Us Know & You Could Win Big!

*THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED* Our new friends at Wildfire want to make a you a deal: tell us your surefire way to ignite your love life and they’ll give the 5 of you with the best suggestions a Wildfire Love Pack worth over $200! The Details: In the form below, please describe your best tip(s) for spicing up your […]

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Why Donald Trump, America’s Abusive Boyfriend, Won the Election

How did the least qualified person ever to run for the presidency of the United States manage to win? In large part, by negging us. Negging is one of the pick-up artist community’s cynical and manipulative strategies for seducing women. A man deliberately delivers backhanded compliments and other sly insults to his “target” in order to […]

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Why Your Sex Life Wants You to Vote for Hillz on Tue!

Last week, we sent out “The Em & Lo Down” newsletter (which you should totally sign up for!) with the following: WHY HILLARY IS THE BEST PRESIDENTIAL CANDIDATE FOR YOUR LOVE LIFE! Supreme Court Justices that won’t overturn Roe v. Wade Support of Planned Parenthood Improvements to Obamacare, which covers birth control, testing for HPV, […]

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5 Quick, Easy & Impactful Ways to Celebrate Planned Parenthood’s 100th Birthday!

Planned Parenthood’s Centennial is here — Saturday, October 16th — so get on the party bus to show your support for the organization that does so much to support women’s health and reproductive rights. 1.  Change your profile picture. Make sure your friends and family know you proudly support Planned Parenthood yesterday, today, and the next 100 years. Add […]

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Happy Indigenous People Day!

We’ve signed the petition to turn Columbus Day into Indigenous Peoples’ Day (and you should too!). In honor of the holiday, we’re spending this Monday rereading Eduardo Galeano’s Memory of Fire. Tune in tomorrow for new fun stuff.

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LELO’s Revolutionary Condom Is Now Available at…TARGET!

LELO, the award-winning Swedish designer of luxury pleasure objects, has done it again — it’s brought style and innovation to the bedroom, this time with a revolutionary new condom that maximizes sensation without sacrificing safety called the HEX. And now it’s at your favorite neighborhood TarJay. The crowdfunding campaign of the re-engineered condom outstripped all expectations: […]

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What Do You Call a Trans Man Who Gives Birth and Nurses?

Lucky! Time Magazine recently ran an article entitled “My Brother’s Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family” by Jessi Hempel about a transgender man getting pregnant, having a baby and nursing his child (which introduced us to our new favorite term, “chest-feeding”): Pregnancies like Evan’s—and the many that are likely to follow—will stretch our cultural perceptions […]

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Happy Labor Day Weekend!

Writing about sex and relationships is hard work: all the Eyes Wide Shut balls we’re required to attend, all the whips and chains we need to inspect, all the pillow fights in our lingerie we have to have. It’s exhausting! So we’re taking the long weekend off (and hope you are too!). We’ll be back on […]

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Freezing Your Eggs: Could It Be Right for You?

Women have many more choices in contemporary society than in years past. This is especially true when it comes to when to start a family. Unlike our parents’ generation, who tended to have children earlier, women of today don’t have to be in such a rush to beat their biological clock. There are many more […]

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The 4 Physical Traits Found Most Attractive in Online Daters

We all have preferences for people we are attracted to, right? But have you ever wondered why certain types of people are just attractive and almost everyone’s type? In the world of online dating, especially, you are connected to various types of potential dates, yet there are some users who get more attention than others. The world’s largest […]

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In Memoriam: Joani Blank, Founder of Good Vibrations

by Dr. Carol Queen (pictured below with Blank) Joani Blank, who founded Good Vibrations in 1977, has died. She was 79 and had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer just over two months before. True to form for a woman who promoted her business with the phrase “If you want something done right, do it yourself,” Joani […]

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Want Better Self-Esteem? Science Says “STOP Using Tinder!”

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango It’s time for a group sob session, methinks. When Tinder first hit the scene I swore I would never try it. The idea of swiping to the right based solely on appearances reminded me way too much of a website with a similar premise that had tormented me in middle school. […]