Dating
Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of […]

How To
5 Ways to Find a Relationship Right for YOU

James Michael Sama is an award winning Boston based blogger on the topics of dating and relationships, having amassed over 30 million readers in just a year and a half. Here he writes about how to make sure you get a relationship right for you.   Relationships are perhaps our most valuable asset in life, besides time. And […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Attractive Women ARE Hard to Get

Johnny had some pick-up-artistry knowledge to drop on the recent article “Do Men Play Hard to Get?” in which the author argued that the popular girls in high school play that particular game, well, hard: I don’t think those popular girls were “playing.” Up there at the top of the pile, they ARE hard to […]

Personal Essays
Do Men Play Hard to Get?

Rebecca Jane Stokes asked a bunch of guys, “Do men play hard to get?” Some of their answers will surprise you. When I first started dating I ached to be one of those girls who could play hard to get.  I couldn’t believe how cool and collected and seemingly not-interested the popular girls were in the […]

Advice
You Might THINK You Know What You Want in a Man, But You’d Be WRONG

What you want in a man should not be set in stone.  Relationships are confusing and knowing what we actually want out of one is even more confusing. It’s kind of a sad truth, at least for myself, that I can’t even trust myself to know what I like sometimes. And, I really don’t think that […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Sex on a 1st Date Really Ruin Your Chances at a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m a 25-year-old woman who enjoys sex. I […]

Research
Nice Guys DON’T Finish Last in Online Dating (or in Life)

Learn their secrets! Know that whole “nice guys finish last” thing? Yeah, turns out it is total garbage. According to a study conducting by the dating site Zoosk (which I have never tried because I do not use dating sites whose names sound like a noise a large human might make getting the wind knocked […]

How To
The 8 Rules of Dating a Single Dad

Not too long ago I read an article titled “How to Love a Single Mom.” The author wrote that the intention of her piece was to support “the man interested in a woman with children. To offer him a peek inside her life, to help him understand her better.” And then she listed 5 tips: Be […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, I Love Him But He’s Already Got a Girlfriend

Hi, I would like advice. I am single mother and I met someone on a dating website. When we met he told me he didn’t have a girlfriend. After a while, we were emailing each other every day. After 6 months, I finally met him face to face and we liked each other. But then he started telling […]

How To
How to Use Tinder — A Complete Guide

There’s always a first time for everything. Tinder is a popular (if not the most popular) dating app that matches adults based on their Facebook profiles and locations, allowing mutually interested parties to chat anonymously (until, perhaps, they decide to exchange phone numbers and/or meet up for coffee or casual sex). Though it’s often criticized as […]

Personal Essays
Confession: A Man 20 Years Younger Offered Me $300 to Sleep with Him

by Marcelle Karp for Barb Magazine *** “I already want to marry you.” The banter is going well, as well as dating-app badinage goes. It’s 11am, I’m sitting in Irving Farm, ostensibly here as I am on most days, working on my vampire detective novel, and I’m Tinder-texting with a 34-year-old mail carrier who is somewhere in […]

How To
How to Deal with Late-Life Virginity

The following advice has been updated: Get yourself a therapist. If you do nothing else, do this. You’ve got some issues that you need to work through — trying to resolve them on internet forums won’t work. If you’re insurance covers therapy, then you’ve got no excuse — carve out the time and commit to this. […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Dated a Trump Supporter

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.    When I met my ex-boyfriend as a freshman in college, he was tall, funny, and bought me a taco. We did improv together and laughed at the […]

How To
A Buttload of Romantic Valentine’s Ideas That Won’t Break the Bank (Or Crush Your Soul)

Denis and Emma Merkas are the founding couple of Melt: Massage for Couples. As a massage therapist since 2000, Denis has taught more than 15,000 couples the art of a great back rub. Between now and Valentine’s day, you’ll get their Foot Massage Tutorial FREE when you buy their video massage guide — the perfect Valentine’s Day Gift! It may […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Whipped Cream)

It’s tempting to turn this Bachelor column into an ongoing tutorial on how not to be an adult-baby like Corinne. For instance: don’t brag about being a 24-year-old with your own personal live-in nanny*; don’t have a nanny, period; don’t make fantastic claims about the happiness of those in the service industry (especially those paid to serve you); master […]