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5 Essential Hookup Items to Bring with You

If you’ve managed to successfully navigate some of the pitfalls of swipe-based apps and found someone you’d like to hookup with, congratulations! You’ve succeeded where many have failed. But making a “date” is only half the battle. Coming prepared (no pun intended) is essential. You’ve got to think about what to wear, what hookup items […]

How To
Why Do Men Masturbate? How Do Men Masturbate Well?

Despite centuries of demonization through shame and accusations of mental infirmity (as well as some fairly inventive purported outcomes, from hairy palms to blindness), we now accept that men masturbate and that not only is it normal, it’s actually healthy for you. And while sex educators are helping break down the stigma around self-pleasure, there are many […]

How To
How to Put on a Condom (A 12-Point Refresher Course with Video)

  April is STD Awareness Month! Consistent and correct condom use reduces the risk of HIV transmission by as much as 10,000 times (the studies that reported the HIV virus leaking through latex were done using particles 100 million times smaller than the HIV found in semen). And while condoms admittedly do not cover all […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Sex Is Suddenly a Tight Squeeze — and It Hurts!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have been having sex for about four years and for the past […]

How To
8 Ways to Be a More Touchy-Feely (and Therefore Healthy & Happy) Couple

Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]

Toys
CONTEST: How Do You Light Your Fire? Let Us Know & You Could Win Big!

*THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED* Our new friends at Wildfire want to make a you a deal: tell us your surefire way to ignite your love life and they’ll give the 5 of you with the best suggestions a Wildfire Love Pack worth over $200! The Details: In the form below, please describe your best tip(s) for spicing up your […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: How Can I Make Sex Less Painful?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, Since I started having sex (4 years ago, I’m 20 now) I’ve never […]

Dear Em & Lo
“Help, I Don’t Have Enough Natural Lubrication for Intercourse!”

Dear Em & Lo, My bf and I have sex and it feels so amazing, but after at least 7 to 10 minutes later it begins to hurt and burn. I try using spit to help with the lubrication but that just seems to make matters worst. So how can I use lube during sex […]

Sex Poetry
And the Winner of Our Masturbation Month Haiku Contest Is . . .

THE WINNER: Kids at last asleep My wife went out to Costco A break from laundry — Carol R. Congratulations to Carol, who will soon be the proud owner of a luxury Ina Wave pleasure object from LELO.com (worth $200). With so many fantastic entries to choose from, it was a tough call to make, […]

How To
11 Ways to Make Intercourse More Comfortable for Your Vagina

For a lot of women, intercourse is not always like pizza: i.e. even when it’s bad it’s good. Nope: when intercourse is bad due to pain, it’s really bad. There are many reasons why intercourse can hurt: an infection, an STD, vaginitis, vulvodynia, PTSD (perhaps due to a previous sexual assault)… But if you’ve ruled these […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Penis Is Too Big for Sex

Dear Em & Lo, I will cut to the chase: I’m not bragging here but I have a much larger than average penis (it’s almost 11 inches) and it’s ruining my sex life. Every ex-girlfriend I have had has said it hurts them and one even just turned around and said no way and broke […]

Toys
An Antidote for Feeling Fifty Shades of Blah in the Bedroom

If the upcoming Fifty Shades movie is making you feel like your own sex life is a little drab in comparison — just a single shade of grey, as it were — then we are prescribing you a dose of the video above, “50 Shades of Pleasure,” made by Trojan with our hilarious director friend Laura Murphy, […]

How To
Top 5 Rules of Engagement for Backdoor Toys

We’re always thrilled to hear about people opening themselves up — as it were — to new sensual experiences in the backdoor area. Unfortunately this particular region seems to encourage experimentation with D.I.Y. sex toys — and it’s the last place you should be going D.I.Y.! Our E.R. nurse friend confirms that those stories about […]

How To
6 Kinds of Lube & 6 Reasons to Use Them Every Time

LELO’s Personal Moisturizer (75 ml)  Lube gets a bad rap, so we’d like to clear its name here once and for all: Store-bought personal lubricant is not a “crutch” for people with faulty machinery. And reaching for the wet stuff doesn’t mean you’re “not into it,” “frigid” or “kinky.” It just means you like to […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Am I Wired Not to Orgasm?

Dr. Kate is Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston, and she answers your medical questions on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’m a sex-positive, reasonably experienced 27-year-old woman who enjoys sex and being sexual. But I’ve never experienced any pleasure from my […]