Manual Sex and Handjobs
How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

Confessions
“Stop Relying on Your Dick to Please a Woman”

Apologies if we seem to be beating off a dead horse here: our last Comment of the Week was related to penis size, as well. But we can’t help it! This topic gets some of the best, most thoughtful and helpful responses from our amazingly enlightened readers. Behold,  RodR‘s smart reconceptualization of sex: I think […]

How To
11 NEW Ways to Touch Her Vagina!!!

This week, the Men’s Health’s newsletter reached an epic low in shameless click baiting with their lead article “16 New Ways to Touch Her Vagina.” We tried to imagine how new these moves could possibly be, since Men’s Health sends this kind of email out three to four times a week! Here are the fruits […]

How To
What Is the PS-Spot and How Can I Enjoy It?

photo via flickr Unless you’ve been living in a cave, you know exactly what the G-spot is, and you probably know where it is, too — an area on the front wall of the vagina a few inches in that, when stimulated, can result in extreme pleasure, explosive orgasms, and even female ejaculation…well, at least […]

Dear Em & Lo
Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been dating my […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Appreciate a Handjob?

photo via flickr Advice from four of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: I’ve heard that it’s not worth giving a guy a handjob because he can just do it better himself. Is that true? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): Sadly, yes.  But I think the problem is just one of misconception on […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Route to Orgasm Is Too Complicated for Husband

Antique map via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below — for this question in particular, we thought that […]

Advice
Wise Guys: Do You Like a Helping Handjob, Or Is Solo Better?

photo via flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “s a handjob better than nothing for most guys, or would they rather just do the job themselves in that case?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): This question is silly. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Does Manual Sex Feel Amazing, Then Too Much?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been with […]

How To
5 Ways to Reconceptualize SEX

  We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again: Sex is not intercourse. So stop using the two words interchangeably! When we as a society do this over and over again, it gets into the collective unconscious and starts limiting how we imagine the possibilities of pleasure, especially for women. A majority of women (that’s […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Is It Normal to Bleed After Intense Manual Sex?

photo by stepheye Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, My husband sometimes likes to make me “squirt” (the female equivalent of ejaculation). He does […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Doesn’t Oral or Manual Feel Like My Rabbit?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call – How Can I Enjoy My Sex Life As Much As My Sex Toy?

photo by ValtheKid We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Don’t Do Handjobs

photo by permanently scatterbrained Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I consider myself a sexual adventurer. As a bisexual who has posed naked for photographers, enjoys threesomes, and has a collection of vibrators, I think I deserve the label. However, there […]

Vids
Video: Let’s Get Physical

We’re not sure which is more disturbing: this video, or the 1,396 (and counting) comments that make us fear for the future of sex (and humanity), including such gems as: It’s like my penis! Save your money ladies you can get lean toned(lol) arms for free! You’ll be slapping away that arm flab in no […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Have Shower Sex, Not Shower Intercourse

photo by turydddu We don’t recommend attempting intercourse in the shower — there are just too many possibilities for water-related injuries! Plus, you could be setting yourself up for failure — it’s often impossible to get in the right positions for pleasurable penetration, considering the cramped spaces and slippery surfaces. But we do understand that […]