Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re Having Regular Sex?

photo via flickr Wise Guys is a regular column offering advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable […]

How Fantasizing Can Improve Your Sex Life

Tracey Cox author photo by Daniel Annett The fabulous and funny Tracey Cox from the U.K. is one of our favorite sex writers out there. We’re thrilled to present the following excerpt from her new book, Dare: What Happens When Fantasies Come True, which is available now on Amazon for your Kindle. Tracey’s Dare product range […]

Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Always Chooses Masturbation Over Me

photo via flickr Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I have been dating my man for over 6 years. For the past 4 yrs, our intercourse has gone from 2x/wk to once every 2 months. He explained to me it’s because he’s tired, he wants to […]

Dear Em & Lo: I Can’t Keep Up with My Girlfriend’s Libido

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and we love each other very much, but she is way more into sex than I am. I try to match her libido but she is still too […]

Dream Interpretation: I Buy a Vibe, Hide It, and Then Don’t Use It

Siri by Lelo Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Last night I had a dream I was at work, talking […]

Dear Em & Lo, Are Rape Fantasies Normal…If I’m a Rape Survivor?

Close up of the 17th century painting “The Rape of the Sabine Women” by Cortona  Dear Em & Lo, I’m not sure if I’m going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him […]

Comment of the Week: I Finally Made My Vibrator Obsolete!

photo via Flickr We love a success story. Here’s Anne, in response to “10 Steps to Orgasming Without a Vibrator”: I have been going electric since I discovered any sort of sex in my teens. You would be surprised how many household items vibrate. My first orgasm was with vibration and I had never had […]

And the LELO for the Best Self-Love Haiku Goes To…

The INA 2 by LELO Thank you for all your inspired entries in our Self Love Haiku Contest. Rabbit imagery seemed to be a big theme, which makes sense considering the prize up for grabs is a Rabbit-style vibe (one that’s waterproof, body-safe, powerful and quiet). And there were a lot of hilarious haikus that […]

Top 10 Haikus About Self-Love (A Contest!)

***THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED*** We guess we should really title this post “Top 10 Haikus About Self Love That Em and Lo Just Came Up With.” We figured it’s a Friday, so what better time to celebrate the wonders of onanism!  In honor of this joyous occasion, we’d like to give away one INA 2 […]

Your Call: How Much Is Too Much Self Love?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  Dear Em & Lo, I’m worried about how […]