Naked News: DADT! DADT! DADT! Also, Chloe Sevigny Took Off Her Pants

photo via OMG DADT!!! Senate repeals the ban on gays serving openly in the military. About fucking time. New online-dating detectives can help you sort the Mr./Ms. Rights from the Mr./Ms. Convicted Felons, just in case your crim-dar is not working. Human Rights Campaign leases Harvey Milk’s former shop — and not everyone is […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Man Crushes Really Exist?

photo by permanently_scatterbrained Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do straight guys ever have innocent “crushes” on other guys, like girls sometimes do with other girls?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I don’t understand straight men […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Loving Boyfriend Beats Me Up

photo by the half-blood prince Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’m in a fulfilling and happy long-distance relationship of several years. We see each other every weekend and […]

Playing with Google’s New Tool (Heh)

We’re totally hooked on Google’s new book search tool, which lets you search and graph the frequency of words in millions of books from 1800 to today. You can even compare and contrast two words or phrases to see how they fare in print over the years. It’s intended for scholars, but it’s free for anyone […]

Blog Snog: Christmas Presents That Won't Get You Laid

TheFrisky: 19 Christmas presents that won’t get you laid. YourTango: Living with my parents helped my marriage. CollegeCandy: The five majors you should date before graduation. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Is the handjob out of vogue? LemonDrop: A single person’s guide to handling the holidays. TresSugar: 10 first date pet peeves. TomFoolery: 27 weirdest sex stories of […]

Naked News: DADT, Plus Scientists Prove the Obvious

photo by MrsMinifig Don’t Ask Don’t Tell repeal passes in the house! Because sometimes we need scientists to tell us the obvious: Indiana University study finds that women who regularly use lube have higher levels of sexual satisfaction. More obvious from the ivory towers: Study shows sex helps neurotic people relax. Apparently, “You have beautiful […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Dump Him Before or After Xmas?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been […]

Pop Culture

Our friends, Em & Nora (who we like to call “Em & No”), recently launched a site for grown-ups about young adult literature called*, since (according to the New York Times) more and more people 18-and-over are enjoying books originally intended for the 18-and-under set. Of course, books about teens, the most hormonal among […]

How To
Sensual Holiday Gifts for That Special Someone

Boa Pleasure Ties from With a love interest, socks just won’t cut it when it comes to holiday gift-giving; it’s nice to give a present that shows you consider them a sex god/goddess. But don’t give something that’s obviously a present to yourself, like polyester butt-floss lingerie that may look good to you but […]

Audio Erotica for Women: Because Oscar Wilde Said So

This post is sponsored by Oscar Wilde once said, “Men love with their eyes, women love with their ears,” and the folks over at have taken this sentiment to heart (amongst other organs) — it’s even posted on their site as a mission statement of sorts. They offer sensual and sexy audio stories for […]

Comment of the Week: Don't Go Chasing Orgasms

photo by The World According to Marty Best snarky indictment ever [in the post “A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette”]: “He approaches handwork like weeding (‘Must. Dig Up. Orgasm!’)” I used to be so obsessed with “giving” my partners orgasms. And while I’m pretty good at it (the upside of obsession) I also turned a lot […]

The Best Sex and Love News of 2010

photo by WTL photos Yesterday we told you about the sex and love news from 2010 that most pissed us off and/or depressed us — dubious studies, dubious reporting, and rampant STDs, et al. Today we hope to put a smile back on your face with some of the love and sex news that most […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Do Men Suffer More from Heartbreak Than Women?

photo by KellyB Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “People always assume that women are the emotional ones in relationships. However, one fairly recent study showed that the male broken heart may be worse off. What do you think?” Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): The results of this […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Fiance Keeps Getting a Stiffy in Public

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I keep dreaming that my fiancé has a hard-on while he is in public and when confronted by me it seems like he […]

The Worst Sex and Love News of 2010

photo by tibchris Every week, all year long, we tell you all about what’s going on in the world of sex and love. Well, not quite all — you might notice that we steer clear of stories about sex crimes (because that’s not the kind of sex this site is about) and stories about teachers […]

Blog Snog: Flirt Like a Nerd

photo by Markcooz TheFrisky: How to flirt like a nerd. YourTango: 9 ways to enjoy being single at the holidays. CollegeCandy: Why you should never date the life of the party. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Married with sex toys. LemonDrop: When should you go back for a relationship do-over? TresSugar: 10 underrated women in history. TomFoolery: When […]