Dream Interpretation: My Fiance Keeps Getting a Stiffy in Public

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I keep dreaming that my fiancé has a hard-on while he is in public and when confronted by me it seems like he is hiding it from me. Don’t know why I dream that because we have a great sex life.

Lauri: The fact that you keep dreaming this means it’s about something that is on your mind quite a bit lately… and whatever it is, it’s not necessarily your fiancé’s stiffy! You see, genitalia in dreams is rarely about our little bits and pieces at all. Instead it is more about the male or female energy it — or they — represents. So whenever your fiancé’s in full salute in a dream, it may in fact be more about his assertiveness, or “firmness” in waking life.

He’s also hiding it from you in the dream, which is interesting. Are you discovering that he is more stern or more of a hard-ass now than he was in the beginning? Is he revealing “a part of himself” lately that you didn’t know was there? Or has he been “standing up” for himself in some way that you are only just now discovering? Perhaps there is something he gets “excited” about that he’s afraid you’ll make fun of him for if you knew. Or perhaps he has been behaving differently in public with you than he does in private.

Whatever the case, it’s not likely about sex, but rather something you feel he doesn’t want you to know. Perhaps it’s time for a waking life discussion rather than confrontation. Your dream seems to be showing you that if you come at him with blame, you aren’t going to get anywhere.

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  1. Bear in mind that dream interpretation is not science–It’s silly stupid fun like a horoscope or reality t.v. God help you if you take any of this seriously.
    That being said, here’s a less sex-negative
    interpretation of your dream:
    From Dreammoods.com: “To see a penis in your dream, signifies sexual energy, power and fertility. To see an exceptionally large penis, suggests doubts and anxieties about your sexual drive and libido.”

    Your dream symbolizes that you’re afraid that you won’t be able to keep up with your fiances’ sex drive once you’re married–The fact that he’s sporting an erection large enough that it’s publicly visible would indicate that it’s “exceptionally large,” which means you’re having doubts about your own drive and libido.
    The fact that you feel you must “confront” your fiance about his sexuality (and he feels that he needs to hide it) reinforces this idea.
    I’d recommend you address this now–Your fiance, as well intentioned as he may be, won’t be able to repress his libido forever.
    In the long run he will either be miserable or cheat on you if you don’t work this out. Your dream indicates that you’re subconsciously aware of this, so be proactive and negotiate NOW how you two will deal with your disparate libidos throughout the course of your marriage.

  2. I’m really beginning to wonder about these people that have recurring dreams. Are their minds so ‘one tracked’ during their awake hours?

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