Advice
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is No Oral a Relationship Dealbreaker?

Vintage illustration via Foxtongue Dear Em & Lo, My new boyfriend doesn’t like either giving or receiving head. I really enjoy giving head and so it’s a disappointment to me that he doesn’t like it, though not the end of the world. What might be the end of the world is that he doesn’t want […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Sex Hurts at First

photo by doug88888 Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now and we tried having sex. For […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Caught My BF with a Blonde

photo by zorilla Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Hi, I have been having this recurring dream about my boyfriend of seven years. The first one […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Love Bitches?

photo by Publicly_Scalped Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do men really love bitches? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Guys love a challenge. That’s why we’re always trying to fix cars, throw the perfect spiral, or look cool with really awful facial hair. If we’re ever with a bitch, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Ask Your Exes for Charitable Contributions?

photo by Daquella Manera Dear Em & Lo, In September I will participate in a charity event that depends on donations from people I know to raise money. In order to make my fundraising goal, I’m going to email everyone I know. Is it tasteless to include exes who may not really like me anymore […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and […]

Advice
Top 6 Casual Sex Bloopers

photo by demi-brooke Actually, the term we prefer is “play d’oh!” (exclamation mark optional). A few of our favorites: Bleating “I love you” on a one-night stand, right as you climax. Crying right after you climax (especially common after ex sex). Accidentally drunk-dialing your boss’s cellphone instead of your ex’s — and tuning out during […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: I Hate My Small Breasts!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dr. Kate, I am almost to the point of desperation with the small size of my breasts. For years I have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Hate Receiving BJs

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a guy and I hate getting blowjobs. Maybe it’s because I had a few too many bad teeth-to-johnson experiences or I’m just a little too sensitive down there, but when a girl starts kissing me all the way down, I grit my teeth and prepare for the worst. It’s finally […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: A Dolphin Couple Swam Under My Front Lawn

photo by Zest-pk Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a reader asks Lauri: A friend says that the dream I had was sexual because dolphins are the only other animal, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s the Deal with Blue Balls?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do blue-balls feel like… is it really that painful, or that big a deal? Is it even a real physical phenomenon?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Blue balls are the testicular equivalent of a migraine headache. They are very real and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Find Out If My Co-Worker Digs Me?

photo by mtkopone Dear Em & Lo, I like a guy that I work with (I’m an office assistant and he’s a mechanic) but I’m not 100% sure that he likes me back. I don’t get many opportunities to talk to him privately at work as other people are quite often around, including his mother […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Get Some Fiber in Your Diet

add a little psyllium husk powder to O.J. We guess this is probably more a “Do It This Morning!” kind of thing, since prunes go better with sunshine. But no matter what time of day you do it, adding fiber to your diet can improve your sex life. We shit you not. (Ba dum ching!) […]

Advice
5 Types to Avoid in Relationships

photo by Rob Gale Last week we told you about 5 Types to Avoid in Bed; here we present five types to avoid going steady with… The Umfriend: Someone who always introduces you as an acquaintance of nebulous status, as in, “This is my…um…friend.” Your companion may suddenly downgrade you from new girlfriend/boyfriend status to […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Should a Woman Pick Up a Man in a Bar?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What are the best ways for a woman to pick up a man in a bar? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Well, what kind of bar is it? If it’s a sports bar, talk about the game of course! I’m going out on […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Ex-Hookup Shows Up with a Huge Backpack

photo by kevindooley Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a woman asks Lauri: I hooked up with a guy at a party several months ago. We met through mutual friends […]