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Do It Tonight! Give Your Partner a Love Bite

photo by P. Baker Yes, we’re talking about the good old-fashioned hickey — that simple little expression of unbridled passion that can immediately take you back to your first few heady times of making out (oh, to be young again!). Of course, the love bite should not be administered (or accepted) willy-nilly. Only the hidden […]

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Do It Tonight! Make Your One-Night Stand a Little Naughtier

photo by Aoife city womanchile Next time you take a beautiful stranger back to your place for a one-night stand, use the opportunity to experiment with acts that you consider out of character. (And no, we don’t mean letting them tie you up — remember, kids: don’t stare at the sun, don’t run with scissors, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What If I'm Not Up for Going Down?

photo by Jon & Alison Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I really hate going down on guys. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. In fact, I loathe it. I feel bad about it, but if I don’t expect oral in return (I don’t), then why should […]

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Dear Em & Lo: What's a Good My First Vibrator?

photo via funfactory.de Hi Em & Lo, I recently turned twenty and for a few months now have been curiously debating getting a vibrator.  Thanks to a fairly conservative upbringing, my experiences with sex, masturbation, and just about anything conceivably related are virtually nil, and I have no idea how to go about finding what […]

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Do It Tonight! What to Say Next If Your Pick-up Line Actually Works

photo by hmk If your pick-up line — whether it’s “Hi my name is Pat” or “How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!” — actually turns into a conversation, don’t assume you’re on the home stretch. Nope, you could still screw things up royally. Like talking about the weather, for […]

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Do It Tonight! Shake Hands Like a Human Being

photo by Gemma Longman Knowing how to shake hands properly is not necessarily a sex- or relationship-related skill. However, it can certainly get a potential love or lust connection off to the wrong start — it could even squelch that potential entirely! So when you’re out tonight at a party, meeting new people and shaking […]

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Do It Tonight! Mix Up the Pick Up

photo by Andre Natta A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you have to do all the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, you turn around and call her “desperate.” (Er, who made off with your self-esteem, anyway?) Admittedly, you […]

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Do It Tonight! Upgrade Your Condom

photo by trec_lit In this economy, terms like “upgrade” and “luxury” and “premium” are almost four-letter words. But if we’re talking about a product that usually costs under a dollar, we’re hoping you can afford to invest just a few more cents in it. (Come on, all the cool kids know that a recession is […]

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Do It Tonight! Seduce Yourself

photo by strelitzia We know that masturbation feels like an easy lay, but just because you’re a sure thing, doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself that way. Ladies: Light some candles, dim the lights, take a long bath (with a dirty Ducky, perhaps), pour yourself a glass of wine, moisturize your entire body, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Thinks Porn-Viewing Is a Dealbreaker

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you do if your girlfriend, whom you love very much, doesn’t understand why you like and watch porn occasionally: she’s intellectually and viscerally opposed to it, thinks it is a horrible industry that exploits people and perpetuates sexism and misogyny, […]

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Dr. Kate: Does the NuvaRing Deserve Its Bad Press?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City who’ll be answering your medical questions here regularly: Dr. Kate, I’m writing you because I’m a bit confused about NuvaRing. I would like to try it and I’m fitted to do so (no weight, age, smoking issues…) but I […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo by carulmare Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not. I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And, thanks in large part to your articles and website, I have gained […]

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Do It Tonight!Sexify Your Gratitude Journal

photo by peregrine blue Lately everyone from Oprah to Real Simple to the guy at Harvard who teaches a class on happiness has been talking about gratitude journals — you know, every night you write down, say, five things you were grateful for that day. Could be big things (my wonderful supportive family) or small […]