Reader AndySea wrote the following in response to the post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” What do the rest of you think: Is it true that in a relationship of equals, “the sexual spark is never as strong”? (For the record, AndySea is speaking of any kind of power dynamic in […]
Okay, this isn’t a comment, it’s a private email we got this week, but it warmed the cockles of our hearts and stroked the nooks of our egos, so we just had to share. At first, upon cursory scan, we were afraid this might be some mildly creepy love letter from a reader with stalker […]
The following letter broke our hearts a little, while also making our week. In the spirit of the new year, we have both been attempting to catalog the things we are grateful for, and this letter made us grateful for the following things: 1) Readers who like us, who really like us! 2) Husbands and […]
Another incredibly eloquent proponent of the well-negotiated booty call: Typhimurium in response to our post, “Your Call: Will Ground Rules Scare Off My Booty Call?” So I recently had a really successful friend-with-benefits relationship, and if it’s all right I’d love to share what was key for me in building it. My friend and I were […]
At what point in a relationship is it acceptable to give a gift that is sex-related — a high-end toy, perhaps, or a saucy costume or, say, a beginner’s guide to kink* (to offer a completely random example…)? After you’ve met each other’s parents? After you’ve met each other’s a-holes? After you’ve shared last names? […]
Reader Dave posted the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call: I Want My Wife to Have an Affair; She Thinks I’m Nuts”: I think you need to tread very carefully here… just to give you my experience… My wife and I often talked about her being with another guy while we […]
photo via flickr Reader Kendra said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit.” We have to admit to a little mea culpa upon reading this. Yes, we do tend to tell female readers to find a way to compromise when it comes to their […]
Reader P warmed the cockles of our hearts when she said the following, in response to our post, “Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)”: The reason I found this site is because I was watching different types of porn to see if I could be stimulated and I found very few […]
photo via Flickr Sometimes you just need a bunch of total strangers to tell it to you straight. So far everyone agrees that the subject of this week’s “Your Call” query should end things once and for all with her deadbeat dude. Lisa Lisa’s was our favorite delivery of this tough love: Delete his number; […]
Reader Anathema said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” We’re pretty sure she’s the most well-adjusted friend-with-benefits we’ve ever heard of! I had a wonderful FWB thing with a guy for 2 1/2 years. He and I were both in open relationships (which is why […]
Reader Finikki said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” When someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, believe them. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that experiencing intimacy with someone (like cuddling and talking for hours) necessarily means they want a relationship. People […]
If you know us, you know that we are not averse to a little self promotion now and then, nor are we immune to flattery — in fact, it will get you everywhere. Hence, a little positive reinforcement of a short but sweet note we got recently validating all we do around these here […]
Amy Bronwen Zemser — “writer, squirrel hunter, breastfeeder, homosexual” — just launched her new, provocative blog, AmyBronwenZemser.com. We have the honor of publishing an abridged version of one of her recent hilarious posts about coming out, homophilia, and cases of mistaken sexual identity (read the unabridged version here). Enjoy! *** I’ll tell you a secret. I […]
Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]
When Miley Cyrus said her “Wrecking Ball” video (in which she cries into the camera, before getting it on with a wrecking ball and a sledgehammer) was inspired by Sinead O’Connor‘s classic and subtle “Nothing Compares 2 U” video (that title is pre-texting!), O’Conner wrote an open letter to Miley, warning her that’s she’s being […]
photo via Flickr Reader Tony offers the following answer to the post question “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” : I would try as much as possible to stay with a response that is both kind and honest. As a man, if my partner is trying to stick to those two principles I […]
Reader AndySea wrote the following in response to the post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” What do the rest of you think: Is it true that in a relationship of equals, “the sexual spark is never as strong”? (For the record, AndySea is speaking of any kind of power dynamic in […]
Okay, this isn’t a comment, it’s a private email we got this week, but it warmed the cockles of our hearts and stroked the nooks of our egos, so we just had to share. At first, upon cursory scan, we were afraid this might be some mildly creepy love letter from a reader with stalker […]
The following letter broke our hearts a little, while also making our week. In the spirit of the new year, we have both been attempting to catalog the things we are grateful for, and this letter made us grateful for the following things: 1) Readers who like us, who really like us! 2) Husbands and […]
Another incredibly eloquent proponent of the well-negotiated booty call: Typhimurium in response to our post, “Your Call: Will Ground Rules Scare Off My Booty Call?” So I recently had a really successful friend-with-benefits relationship, and if it’s all right I’d love to share what was key for me in building it. My friend and I were […]
At what point in a relationship is it acceptable to give a gift that is sex-related — a high-end toy, perhaps, or a saucy costume or, say, a beginner’s guide to kink* (to offer a completely random example…)? After you’ve met each other’s parents? After you’ve met each other’s a-holes? After you’ve shared last names? […]
Reader Dave posted the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call: I Want My Wife to Have an Affair; She Thinks I’m Nuts”: I think you need to tread very carefully here… just to give you my experience… My wife and I often talked about her being with another guy while we […]
photo via flickr Reader Kendra said the following in response to our post, “Comment of the Week: How to Get Past His Porn Habit.” We have to admit to a little mea culpa upon reading this. Yes, we do tend to tell female readers to find a way to compromise when it comes to their […]
Reader P warmed the cockles of our hearts when she said the following, in response to our post, “Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)”: The reason I found this site is because I was watching different types of porn to see if I could be stimulated and I found very few […]
photo via Flickr Sometimes you just need a bunch of total strangers to tell it to you straight. So far everyone agrees that the subject of this week’s “Your Call” query should end things once and for all with her deadbeat dude. Lisa Lisa’s was our favorite delivery of this tough love: Delete his number; […]
Reader Anathema said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” We’re pretty sure she’s the most well-adjusted friend-with-benefits we’ve ever heard of! I had a wonderful FWB thing with a guy for 2 1/2 years. He and I were both in open relationships (which is why […]
Reader Finikki said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?” When someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, believe them. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that experiencing intimacy with someone (like cuddling and talking for hours) necessarily means they want a relationship. People […]
If you know us, you know that we are not averse to a little self promotion now and then, nor are we immune to flattery — in fact, it will get you everywhere. Hence, a little positive reinforcement of a short but sweet note we got recently validating all we do around these here […]
Amy Bronwen Zemser — “writer, squirrel hunter, breastfeeder, homosexual” — just launched her new, provocative blog, AmyBronwenZemser.com. We have the honor of publishing an abridged version of one of her recent hilarious posts about coming out, homophilia, and cases of mistaken sexual identity (read the unabridged version here). Enjoy! *** I’ll tell you a secret. I […]
Sutra Chainlink Cuffs by LELO Reader sex_is_weird_thats_all said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” Despite the people who end up in the news, there is usually in any metropolitan area a very legit BDSM community. I have a group of friends that includes a sizable chunk […]
When Miley Cyrus said her “Wrecking Ball” video (in which she cries into the camera, before getting it on with a wrecking ball and a sledgehammer) was inspired by Sinead O’Connor‘s classic and subtle “Nothing Compares 2 U” video (that title is pre-texting!), O’Conner wrote an open letter to Miley, warning her that’s she’s being […]
photo via Flickr Reader Tony offers the following answer to the post question “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” : I would try as much as possible to stay with a response that is both kind and honest. As a man, if my partner is trying to stick to those two principles I […]