Confessions
Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love, Marriage and Strap-Ons

photo by brandi666 Just a Thought, commenting on the confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-on“: I wont post my “didn’t make it into Penthouse” story, promise. I will say that while discussing anal sex with my gf at the time, I made her a deal. She was unsure since I’m rather […]

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Comment of the Week: Who’s Impressed By Bedpost Notches?

A lot of females these days would make a lot of ASS-umptions about why a guy may not have dated at 22. I’m sure a lot of them would rather you had been with several women already perhaps? Some are too foolish to realize that alot of guys don’t run around f__king everything that moves […]

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Confession: Losing Your Virginity Ain’t No Big Thang

photo by mccun934 A college friend of ours who wishes to remain nameless has a confession to make: As a 21-year-old virgin I thought sex was going to be the most overwhelming, painful, awkward, terrible, awful experience ever.  Why did I think this?  Because friends, magazines, and blogs all over the place said so. Not so! Yes, cashing in […]

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Comment of the Week: Stop the Presses! Women Have Libidos!

photo by Ranjit Laxman Photography We got a lot of thoughtful, interesting responses to the Wise Guys column “What If Her Libido Is Higher Than His?” that yes, many women do have higher libidos than men and no, they’re not nymphos. We can’t post them all, so just go read the comments section. Below is […]

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Comment of the Week: Harmless Flirtation Is Like Harmless Drunk Driving

photo by Tjook Johnny had this to say in response to the post “Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Harmless Flirtation?” The sexual thrill I get from mutual flirtation is very real. It stirs my sanguine humors, you could say. You could say that this is harmless in itself, but once my sanguine […]

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Confession: Top 10 Ways I Disguise Love Noises

photo via Flickr A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, confesses her favorite ways to keep things under wraps, aurally speaking: One of my favorite quotes of all time is an uncharacteristically understated gem of advice from Kurt Vonnegut: “I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim […]

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Comment of the Week: More on the Orgasm Gap

image from nDevilTV Clandestine, commenting on a study that showed women orgasm about 80% as often as men do in close relationships but only 32% as often in first hookups: I’d suggest that a broader explanation [for the orgasm gap] may be that our definition of sex is very intercourse-focused, and we conventionally define sex […]

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Comment of the Week: Don’t Yuck My Yum

photo via flickr Yuck. — Erin, in response to the post “Confession: Top 10 Reasons I Don’t Own a Razor” I volunteer at my local teen health clinic, and during our training retreat, one of the first ground rules we all agreed to follow was “don’t yuck my yum.” This basically translates to “respect the […]

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Comment of the Week: An Open Letter to Strap-On Sex Enthusiasts

Thank you for visiting EMandLO.com. We understand that that this website is one of the few places that discusses issues around sex openly and honestly, without too many euphemisms or immature jokes, and no hardcore images. It’s probably the only truly female-friendly site where you can discuss strap-on sex maturely. This would account for the […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Top 10 Reasons I Don’t Own a Razor

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses her love for body hair: I am not going to judge silky-smooth-shaved ladies. But here are ten reasons I do NOT own a razor And yes, this means legs, pubic, and — gasp — armpit hair. I let myself run wild […]

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Comment of the Week: Oh, Bachmann

Michelle, in response to news about Michele Bachmann signing The Marriage Vow, a moral policing pledge that required her promise not to support porn, adultery, divorce, or marriage equality: I consider myself more conservative than liberal, in fact I’m a registered Republican. But damnit, Michelle Bachmann makes me want to give my vaigna and voter registration […]

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Confession: Top 10 Things I Learned from an Anti-Condom Boyfriend

A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I came into college and out of my first relationship ready to be single and to enjoy my new-found singledom with as many new people as possible. Generally, things went pretty well for me. I really enjoyed the free […]

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Comment of the Week: More Praise for IUDs

illus. of Paraguard IUD via Med.unc.edu Figleaf commenting on the post “Give Us an I, Give Us a U, Give Us a D!” It’s been, what, 45 years since sales of the infamous Dalkon Shield IUD were suspended. And virtually everything we “know” about how bad IUDs are comes from… the Dalkon Shield. It’s also […]

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Confession: Top 10 Worst Things About Studying Sexuality in College

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminist/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses the downside of her chosen field: Picture this: it’s a Sunday night. You’re lonely. However, instead of watching romantic comedies and listening to Joni Mitchell, you have to read about the beauty of the female orgasm. Reading about great sex is […]

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Comment of the Week: The Madonna/Whore Complex

photo via Flickr Johnny, commenting on “Your Call: Should I Lie to Virgin BF About My Body Count?”: Don’t lie. Also don’t frame it as “self-esteem issues that manifested as blah blah blah…” In my opinion that’s something women do to accomodate their own and their mens’ Madonna/whore complex: chalk it up to some Freudian […]

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Comment of the Week: Getting Your Libido Back After Babies

photo via Flickr MrsMuggs commenting on the post Your Call: She Wants to Want It But Doesn’t: I went through a period of hating sex after my kids were born. One thing I realized was that I never thought about sex except at bedtime and then it was “Oh, shit, he’s going to want to […]