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Personal Essays
Do Men Play Hard to Get?

Rebecca Jane Stokes asked a bunch of guys, “Do men play hard to get?” Some of their answers will surprise you. When I first started dating I ached to be one of those girls who could play hard to get.  I couldn’t believe how cool and collected and seemingly not-interested the popular girls were in the […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Can the NuvaRing Cause UTIs?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com — this week, it’s on “Can th NuvaRing cause UTIs?” To ask her your own med question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, Does the […]

Toys
Do It Tonight! Get Speakers for Your Sex Life

No, we’re not talking about broadcasting the dying-cow sound of your orgasm for all your neighbors to hear. We’re talking about getting some decent speakers for your sex life, i.e. to put in your bedroom so you can do it to decent-sounding music. If this is the effect a Subwoofer for Party Favor Talks has […]

Advice
You Might THINK You Know What You Want in a Man, But You’d Be WRONG

What you want in a man should not be set in stone.  Relationships are confusing and knowing what we actually want out of one is even more confusing. It’s kind of a sad truth, at least for myself, that I can’t even trust myself to know what I like sometimes. And, I really don’t think that […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Reasons Your “Ugly Vagina” Is Normal and Gorgeous

There’s no such thing as an “ugly vagina.” Here’s why… Dear Em & Lo, A male acquaintance recently started a conversation about “ugly” vaginas with my friends and me. He said that some vaginas resemble “kebabs” and that a lot of guys are really put off sex when they get a hot girl naked and […]

Your Call
Your Call: Why Is Her Husband Choosing Porn Over Sex?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband is choosing porn over sex — by leaving your […]

Personal Essays
“I Fought For Your Freedom to Hate Me” — A Trans Veteran Speaks Out

Thanks to President Trump, trans veteran Carla Lewis must endure a tragic case of déjà vu: Each morning when I wake, I hit social media and the news. Sharing something profound or humorous is how I like to start my day. Believe me when I tell you, I was in complete shock when I read […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Ex Is Over Me, But I’m Not Over My Ex — Help!

Dear Em and Lo, My ex boyfriend and I were together for a little over 4 years (I’m in my 20s). For the first three years I loved him so much. I put in so much effort. He was the most beautiful, funny and wonderful man. But then things got a little rocky. I felt […]

How To
5 Essential Hookup Items to Bring with You

If you’ve managed to successfully navigate some of the pitfalls of swipe-based apps and found someone you’d like to hookup with, congratulations! You’ve succeeded where many have failed. With this being said, if it took a bit too much time to find someone on Tinder or Bumble that just wanted a hookup and not a […]

Confessions
On Second Thought, When Men Ask About Their Size, Do THIS

A few weeks ago, Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post”If Men Ask About Their Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” His answer? Basically, “Yes, tell him the truth gently, with helpful tips thrown in.” Recently reader Dave took a wee exception to this:  Well you ONLY tell him […]

How To
In Honor of National Orgasm Day, 7 Simple Things You Can Do To Improve Yours!

July 31st is National Orgasm Day! While orgasms are like apples — one a day will keep the doctor away — it’s still nice to have one day of the year dedicated to their celebration. Especially if you’re not getting them as often as you’d like or as often as you should be. (Maybe it […]

Pop Culture
10 Predictions of Future Trump Policy Changes Via Twitter

On July 26th, 2017, President Trump announced a regressive and frankly hateful roll-back of an Obama administration policy which allowed trans service members to serve openly. The Trump policy announcement went like this: After consultation with my Generals and military experts, please be advised that the United States Government will not accept or allow…… — […]

How To
How Our Long Distance Relationship Makes Us a Better Couple

If you thought I was crazy to sign up for an extreme long distance relationship, you were wrong. I live in Orlando. He lives in Australia. At any given moment, there are 9,349 miles (plus, one hell of an expensive airplane ticket) separating me from my boyfriend. In fact, our time zones are so far […]

How To
The Do’s and Don’ts of Vacation Sex (Video)

Going on vacay with your partner? Here are 14 quick rules to follow to turn up the heat and make your tropical or summertime vacation sex great! Details are below the video: 1. Don’t stress about your bathing-suit body. You don’t go on vacation with the body you want, you go on vacation with the […]

TV
Will Eric Bigger Be The Next Bachelor? He Probably Should Be.

With hometown dates complete, we all said a sad goodbye to “Bachelorette” favorite Dean Unglert and wrapped our brains around the fact that one of the remaining men might be Rachel Lindsay’s future husband (or at least a temporary boyfriend). But more importantly (sorry Rach), one of the men will probably be the next “Bachelor.” Dean is out, since he’s slated […]

Dream Interpretation
My Girlfriend and I Had the Same Snake Dream on the Same Night!

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about a snake dream (or is it a penis dream?): My girlfriend has […]