Advice
Wise Guys
What Straight Guys Really Think About Backdoor Play

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can He Skip the Couples Costume This Halloween?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.   Dear Em & Lo, My girlfriend wants to do a couple’s costume for Halloween this year. I don’t. I think it’s cheesy […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Blow Jobs Aren’t an Inalienable Right

In an impassioned response to our post, “Your Call: She Doesn’t Like Going Down,” reader Sara doesn’t pull any punches when discussing those who prioritize sex acts over actual people. She really gets going in the fourth paragraph!: You know what makes it easier to like something? Being able to choose freely whether to do it […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Stay or Should She Go?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. We seem to be getting a lot of bad boyfriend letters lately — maybe these women just need to hear […]

How To
10 Reasons Why a Dirty House Is Good for Your Marriage

photo via flickr For the record, we both love a tidy house. We love a clean, well-lighted place in which to read a book or work on a hilarious and/or enlightening post for this blog. Dirty, messy houses can be annoying, stressful, and, yes, smelly. But sometimes, it simply can’t be helped. And when it […]

How To
How to Make Masturbation Feel More Intimate

photo via flickr We often hear women complain that masturbation just doesn’t do it for them, simply because there’s no man or woman attached to the end of the sex toy. In other words, they want masturbation to provide not just sex, but also intimacy. So, how do you make masturbation feel more intimate? Okay, […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Binge-Watching Saved My Marriage!

by YourTango  |  photo via flickr It didn’t matter what we were binge-watching; it just mattered that we were binge-watching together. I sat at my desk waiting for the clock to tick just close enough to 5:00 p.m. so that I could duck out early from work. My man was waiting for me at home, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

How To
How to Make Your Ravishment Fantasy Come True

There is perhaps no sexual fantasy that disturbs people more than the rape fantasy.  Even people in committed, loving relationships who have successfully navigated such a fantasy with massive amounts of communication and trust can feel weird about it. Readers often ask us, “What’s wrong with me that I’m into this?” Well, as we have […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think When a Woman Has Sex on the First Date

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, and we’re both horny?” Straight […]

Confessions
Telling People Not to Get Married Young Makes Them Narcissistic

Reader Joseph recently took us to task for our advice to a twenty-four-year-old woman who said she likes her co-worker more than her boyfriend, but feels like maybe she should stay with her boyfriend because they have a “solid” relationship and her friends and family adore him. Our advice, in a nutshell, was, “Be twenty-four.” Have […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband Won’t Give Me Oral

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Research
Men Don’t Skip Sex When Their Bodies Aren’t Perfect – Neither Should Women

by YourTango  |  photo via flickr The first time I saw Crazy, Stupid, Love and the completely unforgettable scene where Ryan Gosling‘s character takes off his shirt and Emma Stone’s character says, “It’s like you’re Photoshopped,” I cringed. It wasn’t just that, “OMG, are you effing kidding me,” that came with those abs, but because I just don’t get […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]

Wise Guys
How to Convince Two (Straight) Guys to Have a Threeway

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How can I can convince two hetero dudes to have a threeway with me?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): What you really need to do is figure out if the MMF threeway is a “Yes,” a “No,” or a “Maybe” for these guys. Yes? […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is It Fine for a Grown, Non-Religious Man to Be Celibate?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]