Advice
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, My Boyfriend Doesn't Care About My Orgasm

illustration via Foxtongue Dear Em & Lo, I love my boyfriend very much, but he comes so early on that I’m left hanging. Receiving oral sex ahead of time would sure get me that orgasm, but he doesn’t even do that! I NEVER orgasm, because as long as he gets his, it seems to not […]

How To
The Good, the Bad and the Better of Vacation Sex

The July issue of the UK edition of Marie Claire featured an article on vacation sex, for which we were asked for some insight. Since we can’t link to it online, we thought we’d give you our unabridged thoughts on the topic — hopefully you haven’t taken your summer vacay yet and can benefit from […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to Hosting a Sexy Sleepover

photo by SFBNess If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa, Did My Vibrator Give Me An Infection?

photo by Helga_Weber Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, Okay, so I have a very embarrassing question for you and wanted to check […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Do You Really Want to Know How Many Partners She's Had?

photo by Raissa Bandou Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When it comes to the number of sexual partners a woman has had, do guys want to know? Even if they say they do, are they lying?” Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): It’s the Information Age, and people […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Ex Stole My Car

photo by Donnaphoto Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love and sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Last night I had a dream where I was working at my mom’s job, I met this guy […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Dump Him If He Won't See Me?

photo by faster_panda_kill_kill Dear Em & Lo, So I have this guy friend who I met my freshmen year at college. We used to hang out a lot together and, well, I ended up liking him. The only problem was that he sometimes did not seem to feel the same way towards me. He would flirt back and […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Cohabitation Is No Honeymoon

Our contributor Chloë Browne, who’s pursuing an Honors Major in Gender and Sexuality Studies at at Swarthmore College, has a confession to make: About a month ago, tethered to my parents’ couch by a recent wisdom tooth surgery, I found myself in pursuit of life advice from my technological bestie, Google. I was about to […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love + Trust + Strap-On = Good Times for Everyone

a Starter Strap-On Kit Yep, the strap-on post continues to rake in the comments! Today’s featured comment is #210 out of a total of 214 (and counting) responses to the original post. (Only another 70 comments or so to go to catch up with the small penis post!) I asked the girlfriend to do this […]

Dear Em & Lo
And You Thought Your Ex Was the Biggest Sh*t on the Planet

Okay, we admit there isn’t exactly a lot to debate in this week’s edition of Your Call. Clearly this woman should leave her boyfriend, a.k.a. the Biggest Asshole Who Ever Lived. But we wanted to publish this letter anyway because (a) This poor woman needs a public record of all you telling her that she’s […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Guys Think of Au Naturel?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What do guys think when a woman doesn’t trim, shave or wax her pubic hair at all?“ Straight Single Guy (Max): My rule is simple: if I can get through the forest and perform certain acts without being inhibited, then I don’t […]

Pop Culture
Dating Advice for The Giving Tree's Abusive Relationship

How did we manage to miss this totally awesome quote from Ryan Gosling? In an interview with New York magazine about his upcoming movie BLUE VALENTINE (opening later this year, it’s a portrait of a marriage, co-starring Michelle Williams), he’s asked about his character’s tattoo of Shel Silverstein’s The Giving Tree on his arm, and […]

How To
Overnight Handbag Redux

photo by dunikowski A few weeks ago we did a post on the ideal contents of a woman’s purse, should she find herself suddenly having a casual sleepover. Well, you guys reamed us. Deservedly so in a few cases (we phoned some of it in); undeservedly, we thought, in a few others (especially considering we […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What's the Appeal of Giving Oral?

photo by Bogdan Suditu Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “For guys who like to give oral sex, what’s the appeal? What differentiates them from the guys who seem to hate giving it?” Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): From all the straight men that I’ve queried over this […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Woke Up with a Prostitute

photo by loveloveshine Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love and sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream where I woke up from a deep sleep to find a woman going down […]