Self-love won’t cure swine flu, but that’s pretty much the only shortcoming we can think of: Getting a grip on yourself helps teach you the pattern of your own sexual response: What you like, what you don’t like, and what you hate more than anything else in the whole wide world. Friggin’ your riggin’ helps […]
photo by SYD_Rahim Dear Em & Lo, I am interested in this man and I think he is interested in me. I will call him if I am in his area and ask him to grab a drink with me and my friends. This is usually last minute. The past two times he was busy […]
photo by mistress_f Hello Em & Lo, I’ve been in a relationship for 4 months and things are getting pretty serious: we spend almost every weekend together. But during the week we only talk to each other a maximum of 30 to 45 minutes every night right before we go to bed. Should I be […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What’s the deal with fantasizing about twins? (Coors Lite twins, etc.) How come the whole implied incest thing isn’t a turn-off? Straight Single Guy (Colin): I think, for some men, having a set of twins is the American Dream. An international friend […]
photo by bimurch Dear Em & Lo, I met a boy a few weeks ago and things have been fantastic. We had been talking occasionally in a coffee shop as friends, and one day we decided to be really spontaneous and take a road trip. We ended up discovering a lot of chemistry that night. […]
photo by House of Sims When it comes to revenge after a breakup (and if you’re the dumpee, you know you want it), there are two approaches: the high road and the low road. A breakover is all high road — it’s the kind of revenge that benefits you, rather than directly harming your ex, […]
photo by briannaorg We feel just awful that we can’t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, we’ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after […]
photo of Katz’s Deli, where Meg Ryan famously faked an orgasm, by Aaron_M Dear Em & Lo, I am a college student, and have been with this guy for six months. The sex is absolutely amazing, we do it about four times a day average, but he has never made me orgasm through intercourse. My […]
photo by independentman On a dinner date, always be courteous to the waitstaff. Never snap, clap, cry “Waiter,” or worse, “Garcon!” to get your attendant’s attention; wait until you catch your server’s eye, then simply nod, gently raise your eyebrows, or, as a last resort, raise your hand. Say please and thank you — never […]
photo via Google Earth This Saturday, March 28th, at 8:30pm local time all around the world, individuals, companies, historical landmarks, towns and countries have committed to turning off the lights for one hour to highlight the threat of climate change. According to Earthhour.org‘s Facebook page, Sydney turned off the lights in 2007 and cut their […]
photo by jacobms Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. A patient in my office last week confessed to me that she’s worried she’s hurt herself from too […]
photo by soundfromwayout Dear Em & Lo, I’m a student activist/organizer at my university, and I’m involved with a student peer-education group (Sexual Health Awareness Peer Educators), as well as Students for Choice. While I enjoy talking about sex, and many aspects of it, especially on a political basis (e.g. how can we support HR […]
photo by jswieringa Here’s a quick science lesson for you: Scented and colored candles often contain plasticizers, which make them burn much hotter, i.e., way too hot for your sweetie’s fleshy parts. Black candles and beeswax candles burn the hottest of all. (Besides, what are you doing with black candles anyway? That’s so Trenchcoat Brigade.) […]
photo by derekmoss Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does the average hetero guy really care if his girlfriend/wife has had sex with more people than he has? And if so, why? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I […]
photo by Marco_Gomes Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a straight woman asks Lauri: So, I had a dream a couple of nights ago that is really making me feel kind of awkward. […]
photo by psalms133 Who wants to paint the town red when you can stay home and paint each other? Playing with edible finger paints is like having a smokin’-hot Montessori teacher encourage you to “indulge your inner Picasso” while going down on you to help “unleash your creative juices.” (And if that just turned you […]
