Anal Play
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is Backdoor Play Gay?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. For a while now my girlfriend and I have been […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love, Marriage and Strap-Ons

photo by brandi666 Just a Thought, commenting on the confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-on“: I wont post my “didn’t make it into Penthouse” story, promise. I will say that while discussing anal sex with my gf at the time, I made her a deal. She was unsure since I’m rather […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: An Open Letter to Strap-On Sex Enthusiasts

Thank you for visiting EMandLO.com. We understand that that this website is one of the few places that discusses issues around sex openly and honestly, without too many euphemisms or immature jokes, and no hardcore images. It’s probably the only truly female-friendly site where you can discuss strap-on sex maturely. This would account for the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Are Most Men Amenable to Anal Play?

photo by rhys alton Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Finger up the bum during other amorous acts — yay or nay for most guys?” Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Well this is one situation in which the gay world veers off wildly from the straight norm. For […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: My Girlfriend Wants to Do Me with a Strap-On

This week, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, tackles the male version of EMandLO.com’s most popular post to date, the anonymous confession “I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” To ask Dr. Joe your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, My girlfriend is really into not just receiving, but giving anal […]

Research
Anal, Orgasms and Advertising

photo by rhys alton One of the most popular and commented-on posts is about strap-on sex. It’s not exactly a point of pride for us. We’re much more about the happy feel-good feminist relationship posts. And we worry that this prominent butt-sex mention is what keeps the advertisers away (of course, it could be the […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love + Trust + Strap-On = Good Times for Everyone

a Starter Strap-On Kit Yep, the strap-on post continues to rake in the comments! Today’s featured comment is #210 out of a total of 214 (and counting) responses to the original post. (Only another 70 comments or so to go to catch up with the small penis post!) I asked the girlfriend to do this […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa – My Boyf Accidentally Entered My Back Door

photo by Joe M500 Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions here. To ask her your own question, click here. A few days ago my boyfriend accidentally introduced his penis in my back hole (which, by […]

Toys
The Gentleman’s G-Spot Massager by Lelo

We’re suckers for a decent sex toy, especially if it’s made by Lelo, the Swedish “pleasure objects” company with impeccable taste and an eye for ergonomics. They’ve just come out with a new phthalate-free gizmo for guys — yes, guys — butchly named “Billy” and designed with men’s sensitive little prostate glands in mind. Your friendly […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Most Straight Guys Secretly Love Bum Play?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On

Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make. My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Help, My Boyfriend Got Intimate with His Travel Toothbrush!

photo by Joe M500 Dear Em and Lo, I have recently gotten my boyfriend interested in anal play (namely his, not mine) and while I think this is a good way to further explore different opportunities for pleasure, he seems to have gone about it in the wrong way. After experimenting with fingers with no […]