SEXUALITY DOES NOT DETERMINE INTEGRITY. PERIOD. And since faithfulness has it roots in integrity, sexuality doesn’t determine it any more than race, hair color, height, gender, etc. Each individual makes a CONSCIOUS decision as to whether or not they are going to be faithful. I’m straight and married to a bi-sexual, and I “hang” just […]
For the record, when we select a Comment of the Week, it’s not necessarily an endorsement of that commenter’s opinion — rather, it’s a comment that we feel is interesting for some reason: for the debate it sparks, perhaps, or the buttons it pushes. And it’s in that spirit that we present the following fairly […]
I, responding to the post (yes, the comments are still rolling in on this one!) “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me”: My boyfriend and I have sex often and he is about three inches. I orgasm mutiple times every time we have sex. I have been with a man […]
photo by The World According to Marty Best snarky indictment ever [in the post “A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette”]: “He approaches handwork like weeding (‘Must. Dig Up. Orgasm!’)” I used to be so obsessed with “giving” my partners orgasms. And while I’m pretty good at it (the upside of obsession) I also turned a lot […]
photo via IMDB In a recent “Your Call” post, a reader of our site oh-so-casually mentioned how she became multiply orgasmic in her forties, after a sexually unsatisfying marriage. Turns out she’s not the only one. After a rather boring sexually 13-year marriage, I have found a whole new world of sex. I love it […]
photo by hyperscholar Arguing sucks. Of course love is important but harmony and friendship should be equally desirable. Give it time, cool down. You always have a choice when you’re in a relationship: Do I still actually want to do this? Ask yourself that very seriously to check up with yourself. Are you happy? Go […]
photo by robbie_jim We were surprised by how many of our readers took offense at our Wise Guys’ response to the recent question, “Do Men Care What Labia Look Like?” To our mind, the guys were basically saying, “Love what you got, most men already do, porn ideals be damned.” But apparently that message didn’t […]
Last week we praised Dan Savage’s YouTube campaign “It Gets Better” to encourage and support gay teens, which sparked a indirect debate between this site and Femmephane: Angelika Says: October 10th, 2010 at 8:05 pm e as much as I agree on the importance of non-bullying and a truly sex-positive life-perspective, I have been feeling […]
photo by Philippe Put Of course you should compromise [about masturbation] with a reasonable partner — but you should never negotiate with a terrorist. A reasonable partner might say, “Please jerk off less because I’d like you to actually be horny when we’re together.” Or, “Please don’t cheat on me, because I don’t want syphilis.” A […]
photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]
photo by sergeant killjoy Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the […]
photo by Mangiu Our regular commenter/contributor Figleaf weighed in on the body image debate in last week’s Wise Guy installment: Based on quite a bit of personal sex-pundit research into people’s attitudes about their own self-images. People have an extraordinary eye for their own flaws. Even weirder, we have an unbelievable tendency to fret about […]
photo by Leandro Martinez We’re not taking sides on this debate (yet!), but we did like Dannie’s analogy where she compares penis prejudice to a man refusing to sleep with a woman whose inner labia hang lower than the outer. And the debate rages on… When erect, an uncircumcised penis looks pretty much the same […]
We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]
When it comes to pubic grooming, whatever makes you feel sexy and confident is what you should do. But in an age when the majority people feel hair removal is a moral imperative — that you’re skanky and lazy if you don’t — you may feel like you don’t have much choice in the matter. […]
We couldn’t agree more with Jenn’s comment below. So here’s another question: For the porn-curious who don’t want to wade through thousands of titles to make the distinction, is there a short-cut to finding porn that IS fair to all those involved? Why does porn always have to be one or the other? It’s like […]
SEXUALITY DOES NOT DETERMINE INTEGRITY. PERIOD. And since faithfulness has it roots in integrity, sexuality doesn’t determine it any more than race, hair color, height, gender, etc. Each individual makes a CONSCIOUS decision as to whether or not they are going to be faithful. I’m straight and married to a bi-sexual, and I “hang” just […]
For the record, when we select a Comment of the Week, it’s not necessarily an endorsement of that commenter’s opinion — rather, it’s a comment that we feel is interesting for some reason: for the debate it sparks, perhaps, or the buttons it pushes. And it’s in that spirit that we present the following fairly […]
I, responding to the post (yes, the comments are still rolling in on this one!) “My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me”: My boyfriend and I have sex often and he is about three inches. I orgasm mutiple times every time we have sex. I have been with a man […]
photo by The World According to Marty Best snarky indictment ever [in the post “A Guide to Orgasm Etiquette”]: “He approaches handwork like weeding (‘Must. Dig Up. Orgasm!’)” I used to be so obsessed with “giving” my partners orgasms. And while I’m pretty good at it (the upside of obsession) I also turned a lot […]
photo via IMDB In a recent “Your Call” post, a reader of our site oh-so-casually mentioned how she became multiply orgasmic in her forties, after a sexually unsatisfying marriage. Turns out she’s not the only one. After a rather boring sexually 13-year marriage, I have found a whole new world of sex. I love it […]
photo by hyperscholar Arguing sucks. Of course love is important but harmony and friendship should be equally desirable. Give it time, cool down. You always have a choice when you’re in a relationship: Do I still actually want to do this? Ask yourself that very seriously to check up with yourself. Are you happy? Go […]
photo by robbie_jim We were surprised by how many of our readers took offense at our Wise Guys’ response to the recent question, “Do Men Care What Labia Look Like?” To our mind, the guys were basically saying, “Love what you got, most men already do, porn ideals be damned.” But apparently that message didn’t […]
Last week we praised Dan Savage’s YouTube campaign “It Gets Better” to encourage and support gay teens, which sparked a indirect debate between this site and Femmephane: Angelika Says: October 10th, 2010 at 8:05 pm e as much as I agree on the importance of non-bullying and a truly sex-positive life-perspective, I have been feeling […]
photo by Philippe Put Of course you should compromise [about masturbation] with a reasonable partner — but you should never negotiate with a terrorist. A reasonable partner might say, “Please jerk off less because I’d like you to actually be horny when we’re together.” Or, “Please don’t cheat on me, because I don’t want syphilis.” A […]
photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]
photo by sergeant killjoy Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the […]
photo by Mangiu Our regular commenter/contributor Figleaf weighed in on the body image debate in last week’s Wise Guy installment: Based on quite a bit of personal sex-pundit research into people’s attitudes about their own self-images. People have an extraordinary eye for their own flaws. Even weirder, we have an unbelievable tendency to fret about […]
photo by Leandro Martinez We’re not taking sides on this debate (yet!), but we did like Dannie’s analogy where she compares penis prejudice to a man refusing to sleep with a woman whose inner labia hang lower than the outer. And the debate rages on… When erect, an uncircumcised penis looks pretty much the same […]
We received the following in response to our Metro article on negotiating a night of casual sex. Sometimes, it’s the hate mail that brings us the most joy: I read your “article” in Metro this morning. Ironically I NEVER read that rag but for some reason I did this morning and I’m glad…it is critical […]
When it comes to pubic grooming, whatever makes you feel sexy and confident is what you should do. But in an age when the majority people feel hair removal is a moral imperative — that you’re skanky and lazy if you don’t — you may feel like you don’t have much choice in the matter. […]
We couldn’t agree more with Jenn’s comment below. So here’s another question: For the porn-curious who don’t want to wade through thousands of titles to make the distinction, is there a short-cut to finding porn that IS fair to all those involved? Why does porn always have to be one or the other? It’s like […]