Lube gets a bad rap, so we’d like to clear its name here once and for all: Store-bought personal lubricant is not a “crutch.” And reaching for the wet stuff doesn’t automatically mean you’re “not into it,” “frigid” or “kinky.” For some women, natural lubrication doesn’t necessarily go hand-in-hand with sexual desire (wanting sex) or […]
According to this research, having more sex may actually make couples less happy — if they feel like they’re being told to have more sex. The Carnegie Mellon study, published in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization, studied 64 heterosexual married couples between 35 and 65 years old. Group one was told to have sex […]
Dear Em & Lo, If I masturbate 3 times a day 7 days a week and haven’t had a real sex partner in over a year, can I get trichomoniasis? — Red Handed Dear RH, Trichomoniasis is a sexually transmitted infection caused by a protozoan parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis, most commonly passed from genitals to genitals. […]
If you’ve managed to successfully navigate some of the pitfalls of swipe-based apps and found someone you’d like to hookup with, congratulations! You’ve succeeded where many have failed. With this being said, if it took a bit too much time to find someone on Tinder or Bumble that just wanted a hookup and not a […]
Despite centuries of demonization through shame and accusations of mental infirmity (as well as some fairly inventive purported outcomes, from hairy palms to blindness), we now accept that men masturbate and that not only is it normal, it’s actually healthy for you. And while sex educators are helping break down the stigma around self-pleasure, there are many […]
April is STD Awareness Month! Consistent and correct condom use reduces the risk of HIV transmission by as much as 10,000 times (the studies that reported the HIV virus leaking through latex were done using particles 100 million times smaller than the HIV found in semen). And while condoms admittedly do not cover all […]
Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]
Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, I have been having sex for about four years and for the past […]
Did you know that “touch deprivation” is a legitimate psychological condition? Matthew Hertenstein, who is the director of the Touch and Emotion Lab at DePauw University, states that not only is it a real thing but compared to other cultures, Americans are perhaps the most touch deprived culture on the planet. “Most of us, whatever our […]
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Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, Since I started having sex (4 years ago, I’m 20 now) I’ve never […]
Dear Em & Lo, My bf and I have sex and it feels so amazing, but after at least 7 to 10 minutes later it begins to hurt and burn. I try using spit to help with the lubrication but that just seems to make matters worst. So how can I use lube during sex […]
THE WINNER: Kids at last asleep My wife went out to Costco A break from laundry — Carol R. Congratulations to Carol, who will soon be the proud owner of a luxury Ina Wave pleasure object from LELO.com (worth $200). With so many fantastic entries to choose from, it was a tough call to make, […]
For a lot of women, intercourse is not always like pizza: i.e. even when it’s bad it’s good. Nope: when intercourse is bad due to pain, it’s really bad. There are many reasons why intercourse can hurt: an infection, an STD, vaginitis, vulvodynia, PTSD (perhaps due to a previous sexual assault)… But if you’ve ruled these […]
Dear Em & Lo, I will cut to the chase: I’m not bragging here but I have a much larger than average penis (it’s almost 11 inches) and it’s ruining my sex life. Every ex-girlfriend I have had has said it hurts them and one even just turned around and said no way and broke […]
If the upcoming Fifty Shades movie is making you feel like your own sex life is a little drab in comparison — just a single shade of grey, as it were — then we are prescribing you a dose of the video above, “50 Shades of Pleasure,” made by Trojan with our hilarious director friend Laura Murphy, […]