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Dear Em & Lo,

I had a break-up a little while ago with a woman I thought was the end all be all. One of the best parts of our relationship was how adventuresome we became. I found out during the relationship that I really enjoyed cross-dressing and pegging occasionally.

Now that we are apart, I can’t just put that side of me away. Leaving the relationship I was hopeful that this could still be a part of my life. I don’t know how to bring this up when dating, let alone how to find someone with the same (or at least an acceptance of this) kink. I have looked at alt sites and at dating sites that are focused on this. It seems that these sites cater to and are visited by people interested in same sex relations. I’ve attended local support groups but they are focused on existing relationships and general support — more of the “you found out, so now what?” variety.

So how do I get back out there with out the shock and awe of this being overburdening? How can I meet a woman who has already at least considered this?

— Stranded at the Drive-In

What should Stranded do? Let him know in the comments below.