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I got married six months ago after dating for 1.5 years. Our sex life is good. We regularly have sex 2-3 times a week. But I started to realize that my husband masturbates at least twice a day, and he does it everyday. He watches porn every night, and he jerks off every time before going to bed (sometimes he jerks off although he’s had sex with me). He doesn’t know that I notice him jerking off. Sometimes it bothers me, and I wanna ask him if he has addiction to porn. Is this normal for guys (married guys)? I wanna hear your opinion.
— Torn over Porn
My boyfriend and I recently moved in together and I have been finding crunchy wads of paper towels and noticed that the amount of sex we were having was down to once, maybe twice a week. I was concerned and brought it up to him. He assured me everything was fine. The following day I felt playful and decided to send some pics and videos of what I was doing at home. This was outside of my comfort zone, but it was fun and thought I’d try something different. It made me feel sexy and confident. Our sex life seemed to be back to normal (sex or some version of sex daily). A couple of days later I came home and walked in on him masturbating in front of his computer. It made me feel deflated and confused. I thought that since we were back to our usual routine the need to masturbate wouldn’t be as much. Am I wrong in assuming that masturbating is a reflection of something I’m doing wrong, that our sex leaves him unsatisfied, or is a lack of attraction to me?
— Wife Not Wads
