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Can You Guess Which of These Cats Is Female?

A choose your own gender-venture! Our family recently adopted two kittens. We had our pick of the litter, so we figured we’d get a girl and a boy, just like our two kids. They decided to name the girl Rey and the boy Po. (Star Wars fans relax: for whatever reason — let’s call it artistic license — […]

How To
Relax, Then Do It! How to Decompress for Better Sex

Good sex is no endeavor for the weary — especially, it must be said, for the women among us. Alas, the world — a frenetic, kinetic, frantic, and frenzied place — often makes you so. Your senses are bombarded daily by unpleasantries (can you say rush hour commute?), so you’ve got to take care to heal […]

Your Call
Your Call: Does Sex on a 1st Date Really Ruin Your Chances at a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m a 25-year-old woman who enjoys sex. I […]

How To
10 Requirements for a Sexy Bedroom (Video)

In case your bedroom has been a little worse for wear lately, here’s a quick reminder of the basics of bedroom beautification. Because a beautiful bedroom is much nicer/more inspiring/less psychically distracting to make beautiful music in. Invest in sheets with a decent thread count — there’s nothing sexy about your bare skin against the equivalent […]

How To
The 8 Rules of Dating a Single Dad

Not too long ago I read an article titled “How to Love a Single Mom.” The author wrote that the intention of her piece was to support “the man interested in a woman with children. To offer him a peek inside her life, to help him understand her better.” And then she listed 5 tips: Be […]

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The 5 Worst Places to Learn About Sex…and the 5 Best!

by Sarah Marcantonio THE WORST 1. The Movies Most sex scenes in mainstream movies ain’t exactly cinéma vérité:  the male lead sweeps the girl off her feet and whisks her away to bed, clothes fall away, abs are sculpted, sweat glistens, birth control is abandoned, discussions about sexual health histories are never had, and simultaneous orgasms apparently grow […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Are My Excruciating Menstrual Cramps Normal?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I have a question about cramp severity. I’ve noticed that (for most women) […]

Advice
10 Fun Sexts to Send!

By Emily Ratay for YourTango Sex is supposed to be fun. The more at ease you can be with your partner (or partners) about sex, the better it is. Rather than worrying about embarrassing yourself, you can just laugh off any unsmooth moves together. Crack jokes, be lighthearted — that helps make sex a less taboo topic. Aside from actually doing the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, How Can I Get Back at My Boyfriend for Dumping Me So Cruelly?

Dear Em & Lo, I thought my boyfriend and I had a good relationship: we lived together, I took care of him, I took care of everything.  He said no one took care of him like I did, even though he’d had plenty of women before me. I thought we were happy. But he found […]

How To
8 Potty Habits That Will Improve Your Sex Life

Let’s talk about poop, baby — the most ordinary of bodily functions, yet the one most mired in shame and lame Freudian stages. We’re all victims of evolution’s big cosmic joke: the placement of the body’s waste disposal system right next to its biggest pleasure receptors. No wonder sex is often considered dirty! One of the keys to great […]

Dream Interpretation
How to Keep an Abusive Ex Boyfriend Out of Your Dreams and Nightmares

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Hi, I was just wondering if you can send some strong advice my […]

How To
What Your Date’s Starbucks Order Says About Your Relationship

Look at the drink the person you’re dating orders when the two of you go to Starbucks together. I’m absolutely serious. Their Starbucks drink order can be all the information you need to figure out if they like you and if you’ve attracted the soulmate of your dreams.   1. If they order the same thing as […]

Your Call
Your Call: What Position Should Little Ol’ Me Use with My Big Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hello. I’m hoping you can help me with […]

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Planned Parenthood’s 3 Ways for Protesting the New Repeal Proposal

The following is from Planned Parenthood Action Fund: New healthcare attack, same plan. House Republicans just took a bad bill that would result in 24 million people losing their insurance and actually made it worse. The latest Republican repeal proposal eliminates key protections for Americans, including protections for people with pre-existing conditions. It also continues […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, What Books Are a Good Intro to Open Relationships?

Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife,  on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]

How To
Intro to Anal: How to Give It, Get It & Go Gaga for It

There are a lot of presuppositions and myths about anal sex: Men want it more. It’s not pleasurable for her. Being receptive is only for gay guys. Everyone’s doing it apart from you. There’s no such thing as an anal orgasm. So on and so forth. These sex myths are demonstrably untrue; all they do is […]