3/11/09
Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On

Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make.

My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit it — and now I want to stick something in it.  A strap-on dildo to be exact. I want to bend that boy over, face down, bum up, and do him in the most dirty of ways. I want to make his prostate gland giddy with anal afternoon delight.

So last November I said to him, “I want to do you in the butt with a strap-on. I think it’s only fair.” He’s not only put his peen in my vajayjay, he’s poked me in the tush too.

“Um, no.”  He laughed nervously and changed the subject. Needless to say, this no-bullshit approach did not work.

Unwavering in my attempt to stick my strap-on dildo where the sun don’t shine, I approached him again in December with a more sensitive strategy:  “Just because I want to pack your fudge and you let me doesn’t mean you are a fudge packer, baby.”  I thought assuring him I wouldn’t think he was gay, but rather a try-anything-sexual would work for sure. Sadly, this simply wasn’t the case.

“I know,” he replied, “I just don’t want a dick in my butt.  It’s not going to feel good.”

With this important information, I devised a more detailed put-it-in-the-pooper plan.  In January, sounding oh so scientific (and as cute as can be), I spouted off some knowledge gleaned from this very site:

“The prostate gland is similar in size and shape to a walnut. It is located at the base of the bladder and surrounds the ejaculatory ducts and urethra. It is essentially the equivalent of the female G-spot, hence it’s called the P-spot.  When stimulated during anal sex, it can produce orgasms. The P-spot is your best friend and you’re ignoring him. That’s not very nice, now is it?  From what I hear he is very fun to hang out with.  Perhaps you should make a play date.”

Silence…more silence…then finally, what my pretty little ears have always wanted to hear.  “Maybe…”

After a month of many talks about how to travel the brown brick road, we agreed that purchasing a vibrating anal plug would be the best way to get things started. February arrived and with it a text message from my boyfriend that read, “I’m really excited for you to do me in the butt. Wanna buy a butt plug today?”  Hell yes I do.  Butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow!

Last week we went to Fascinations, a local sex shop, and purchased our very first 4-inch blue butt plug.  We rushed home, stripped off our clothes and jumped into bed.  He looked a bit uneasy.

“Are you sure you want to do this?” I asked him. “I only want to do this if you’re comfortable with it.”

“It’s probably going to feel like a turd,” he laughed. Not the response I was hoping for, but he bent over, face down, bum up, just as I’d imagined, and after applying a little lube I eased that blue puppy in.

I started slow and soft, in and out, in and out, then applied a bit more pressure. After a few minutes I turned on the vibrator located inside the butt plug.  It was loud.  Very loud. The longer I sat there on my knees behind him, the more I felt like I should be wearing latex gloves and a lab coat; perhaps throw in a clipboard and stethoscope as well. Probing is the word that came to mind.  It felt far too formal for my liking, and I could tell by his silence and his face in the mirror behind our bed that he was not enjoying the ride.

“Okay,” I said. “Let’s try a different approach.” We sat for a few minutes and discussed what would feel good.  We agreed that foreplay first without the butt plug was a good idea.

Some plug-free fondling led to some plug-free fellatio. And when he was good and ready, I popped the plug back in. He liked this combination of front and back attention much better, as did I. But after a while my mouth and hands needed a break, so we resumed the prostate exploration in the spooning position. I inserted the butt plug half-way in and angled it up towards his belly button to start. “That feels really good. It’s vibrating my balls.”  Then I pushed the plug all the way in and started feeling around left to right.  “That doesn’t feel so good,” he said.  So I started making soft, slow circles inside.  He liked that a lot.

After about an hour our anal endeavor was over and the search for his prostate gland was called off.  He didn’t orgasm and he was strangely quiet as we lay there. It occurred to me that maybe I was asking too much. Maybe expecting amazing orgasms from just the push of a button was unrealistic. Maybe we should have thought of the plug as a side dish rather than the main course. Maybe P-spot stimulation just doesn’t work for some guys, just like some ladies hate having their G-spot touched…

Then he turned to me, smiling, and said, “Practice makes perfect, baby. I’m ready for round two.  What about you?”

Like I said, butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow.

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586 Comments

  1. Omg sounds so sensual sexy and erotic…..Hell forget that lame ass strap on….gibe me a thick nice dildo for my man and let me f’ck that boy good and healthy like!! Lmao

  2. Hi all. I’m a guy and my girlfriend likes doing me with her vibrator, which is kind of big actually. Speaking from experience, I think this girl’s approach was wrong. Seems like she’s too matter-of-fact and not sensual at all about it. She should have started by gradually carressing his ass while giving him a blowjob and transitioned to licking his ass and over time started to probe it slowly every now and then. She could have mentioned how much she’s horny about his ass and kept trying until he felt comfortable and excited about the idea. At first she should aim to let her finger fuck him, make him cum like that a few times and then tell him how much she wanted to fuck him with a strap-on. The way she approached it, no kidding it felt formal.

    The expressions she uses are big turn offs, maybe it was her idea of a stylistic choice when writhing the article, but, “pooper”, “pack your fudge”, “where the sun don’t shine”, “travel the brown brick road”… but come on, nasty and off-putting…

    By the way, ridiculous these people being all judgemental and “know-it-alls”. People are free to do whatever they want with their bodies and that’s no one else’s problem. Who gives a s*** what you think is gay or “wrong”. Not your body, not your business… Why are you reading the article anyways?

    1. That would be the nice way to do a man and lead him into submission but there are other ways. She could just grab his balls and explain to him that he is going to get some anal loving and if he resists his balls will suffer. The end result is the same, some man submits to being done in the ass by a woman. The difference is how the woman feels, some like to persuade a man to submit while others like to make him submit and even enjoy the resistance. Usually women know before hand what their boy is like and how he will respond.

  3. If the woman is dominant and the man is submissive and she wants to do his ass then he may as well try to enjoy it because it will happen one way or another. I suspect that many women who like doing this also like to make the man a cuckold just to demonstrate who is in charge.

  4. Love is a two way street. The more you give , the more you get. What if it was the other way around ? What if the guy wanted the girl to use strap on on him ? Should people in a loving relationship not share what they want ? Of course they do already. It’s just that this is not your everyday talked about thing. From the looks of all the strap on’s and stores about pegging on the internet, it is more prevalent than people are willing to admit. Of course it’s not something to discuss at the water cooler.

  5. I’m going to rewrite the above article but swap the gender roles, feel free to let me know if this sounds morally okay to you:

    Our contributor, a man who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make.

    My girlfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit it — and now I want to stick something in it. My dick to be exact. I want to bend that girl over, face down, bum up, and do her in the most dirty of ways. I want to make her ass giddy with anal afternoon delight.

    So last November I said to her, “I want to do you in the butt. I think it’s only fair.” She’s made me go down on her vajayjay, so I should get to poke her in the tush.

    “Um, no.” She laughed nervously and changed the subject. Needless to say, this no-bullshit approach did not work.

    Unwavering in my attempt to stick my dick where the sun don’t shine, I approached her again in December with a more sensitive strategy: “Just because I want to pack your fudge and you let me doesn’t mean you are gross, baby.” I thought assuring her it wouldn’t be gross, but rather a try-anything-sexual would work for sure. Sadly, this simply wasn’t the case.

    “I know,” she replied, “I just don’t want a dick in my butt. It’s not going to feel good.”

    With this important information, I devised a more detailed put-it-in-the-pooper plan. In January, sounding oh so scientific (and as cute as can be), I spouted off some knowledge gleaned from this very site:

    “The prostate gland is similar in size and shape to a walnut. It is located at the base of the bladder and surrounds the ejaculatory ducts and urethra. It is essentially the equivalent of the female G-spot, hence it’s called the P-spot. When stimulated during anal sex, it can produce orgasms. The P-spot is your best friend and you’re ignoring him. That’s not very nice, now is it? From what I hear he is very fun to hang out with. Perhaps you should make a play date.”
    I said, “See honey, even men like it, if another dude would let me do it to him, then you should definitely let me do it to you.”

    Silence…more silence…then finally, what my ears have always wanted to hear. “Maybe…”

    After a month of many talks about how to travel the brown brick road, we agreed that starting with lube and the head of my dick with a vibrating cock ring would be the best way to get things started. February arrived and with it a text message from my girl that read, “I’m really excited for you to do me in the butt. Wanna go get a cock ring today?” Hell yes I do. Head today, full on dick tomorrow!

    Last week we went to Fascinations, a local sex shop, and purchased the lube and cock ring. We rushed home, stripped off our clothes and jumped into bed. She looked a bit uneasy.

    “Are you sure you want to do this?” I asked him. “I only want to do this if you’re comfortable with it.”

    “It’s probably going to feel like a turd,” she laughed. Not the response I was hoping for, but she bent over, face down, bum up, just as I’d imagined, and after applying the lube I eased the head in.

    I started slow and soft, in and out, in and out, then applied a bit more pressure. After a few minutes I turned on the vibrating cock ring. It was loud. Very loud. The longer I sat there on my knees behind her, the more I felt like I should be wearing latex gloves and a lab coat; perhaps throw in a clipboard and stethoscope as well. Probing is the word that came to mind. It felt far too formal for my liking, and I could tell by her silence and her face in the mirror behind our bed that she was not enjoying the ride.

    “Okay,” I said. “Let’s try a different approach.” We sat for a few minutes and discussed what would feel good. We agreed that foreplay first without the anal was a good idea.

    Some anal-free fondling led to some anal-free fellatio. And when she was good and ready, I popped the head back in and started rubbing her clit at the same time. She liked this combination of front and back attention much better, as did I. But after a while my hands needed a break and I was getting tired, so we resumed the ass exploration in the spooning position. I inserted the head half-way in and angled it up towards her belly button to start. “That feels really good. I like the vibration.” Then I pushed the head all the way in and started feeling around left to right. “That doesn’t feel so good,” he said. So I started making soft, slow circles inside. She liked that a lot.

    After about an hour our anal endeavor was over and the search her ass was called off. She didn’t orgasm and she was strangely quiet as we lay there. It occurred to me that maybe I was asking too much. Maybe expecting amazing orgasms from just me putting it in her ass was unrealistic. Maybe we should have thought of anal as a side dish rather than the main course. Maybe pooper stimulation just doesn’t work for some girls, just like some dudes hate having it up their ass…

    Then she turned to me, (trying to please me like the submissive little bitch I treat her as) smiling, and said, “Practice makes perfect, baby. I’m ready for round two. What about you?”

    Like I said, butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow.

      1. Hmmm. You missed quite a few of them. The main one being the line about the narrator having ALREADY been boinked in the butt by the partner! That’s absolutely essential. In the original article, the boyfriend has already been on the giving end of anal sex with the narrator — and now she would like the favor to be returned, for HIM to try to be the recipient of anal play like SHE has already been. That fact somewhat softens the slightly crass goal-orientation of the post. She is not pressuring her boyfriend to do something they’ve never done before, she’s just asking him to try letting her do to him what he’s already done to her.

        (Also, by not giving your role-reversal treatment to the paragraph about the prostate, you inadvertently highlight the fact that men as the recipients of anal play actually makes more sense than women as recipients, because men have got a special spot internally that can especially enjoy that attention.)

        We agree with you that no one should be harassed or pressured into doing something they really don’t want to do. And if this post were written by a guy who’d never enjoyed anything in his own butt, then yes, he would be a jerk. But because this writer HAS enjoyed her boyfriend up her own butt, we don’t see anything wrong with her trying to persuade him to do to the same, by using solid health info and progressive arguments against homophobic knee-jerk “No’s”.

        1. Agree with this. When my gf first mentioed doing me that way my response was no but her argument was you’ve done it to me. Can’t really argue with that logic! Still took a while for me to get comfortable with the idea.
          For me first time there was a big feeling of being vulnerable being on hands and knees waiting to get it. But as she said exactly the same as for a woman getting it doggy style, so only “fair” for me to feel the same. It’s the sense of getting it rather than giving it that feels totally different for a man. But getting it that way certainly helps understand how a woman feels.
          Maybe if a woman wants to persuade her guy to try this another might position might be easier for him first time? We’ve tried with me on my back , she likes looking at me while she does me. Still feel vulnerable but not as much as getting on hands and knees.

  6. If this was a dude who had pressured a chick for anal people would be pissed and calling him an asshole, yet people want to condone what this woman did, shit’s fucked up

  7. I’m a 28 year old woman who’s been in 2 serious relationships (the second one I’m currently married to). The man in my first relationship greatly enjoyed anal play (although he seemed embarrassed about it, not because of how I reacted to him asking mind you, I was fine with pleasuring my partner in any way he wanted). My current relationship, ie my husband, is a very firm “Hell no!” on the matter. Now as a woman who’s experienced both sides of the fence…do I think my ex was gay? No. Do I think my husband is a homophobe? No. I think every person in different. I don’t enjoy anal myself and there’s certain positions that just aren’t as pleasurable to me. So how can I expect my husband to do something he doesn’t want to do when he respects me enough to not ask me to do the things he knows that I dislike or find unpleasurable? On the other hand…or foot, I find having my toes sucked feels amazing (clean, right out of the shower toes mind you, otherwise that’s just gross)…..does that make me disgusting? Some people would say so regardless of cleanliness, but then there’s others who would agree with me that they love it. But the thing is, I can’t control that I like the sensation of having my toes sucked. It just feels good to me. I either like something or I don’t. So I can’t judge someone else for liking something that I dislike, unless I want to be judged as well for things I like that others may not. But most importantly, when it comes to anything sexual, your mind has to be in it…..if every time I had my toes sucked I was thinking in my head, “Eww, that’s so disgusting!” or “Oh my gosh that tickles!” I wouldn’t find any pleasure in it. I think likewise for men who have in the back of their mind during anal play, “This doesn’t feel right, it feels gay” or “This doesn’t feel good, it hurts”, also aren’t going to get any pleasure from it. And a man shouldn’t be judged for not wanting something done to his body that he doesn’t want, any more than a woman shouldn’t be judged for not wanting something done to hers. I felt like while reading the above story, I kept thinking, ” If this was a story written from a man’s perspective about his girlfriend not wanting anal sex and how he pressured and talked her into it over the course of months, it’d be a different story in the comment section. Everyone would be saying how much of a jerk he was for pushing her into something she obviously wasn’t comfortable with.” Any you all know it’s true, if the roles were reversed most people wouldn’t see what this woman did as okay if she were a man pressuring a woman. I feel like if you’re partner is wanting something doneTO them sexually that you’re not comfortable with doing to them, that’s one thing…but when it’s YOU wanting to do something to your partner’s body that they don’t want and are not comfortable with, it’s not okay to push the subject. If they change their mind later on down the line it should be their idea, not yours and not because you won’t stop asking them to do it. That’s just you guilt tripping or coercing them to do something you’ll later regret and they’ll later feel bitter over.

    1. Like we mentioned to PointingOutTheObvious, the key to this post is that the narrator’s boyfriend has had anal sex with her butt — she is only asking to let her do with him what he has already done with her. So the comparison to a story written by a man pressuring his girlfriend to do something she didn’t want to is not quite fair. The boyfriend obviously doesn’t have a problem with anal sex in general being dirty or gay or something he just wants no part of — he’s previously enjoyed it — he just wants it one-directional, which suggests that his aversion is based more on homophobia (“it’s gay to receive”) or sexism (“it’s girly to receive”) rather than on a sexual preference he can’t control. Again, coercion ain’t cool. But this is more a case of what’s good for the goose being good for the gander.

  8. Y’all are gay. I’m sorry but if you want or allow anything in you butt for pleasure, you’re gay. That’s like messing with trannys and saying its not gay. Sorry but it is. Real men are becoming a dying breed unfortunately. Mostly weak minded, over emotional, self hating men being raised. This article is Just another way of teaching how to dominate and feminizing men.

    1. My manly man loves when I do anything to his ass (esp with our Hugo). Being gay means that you’re sexually attracted to the same sex, not whether or not you enjoy anal play. I really think, CommonSense(less), that small/narrow minded people shouldn’t be allowed to wander the interwebs all by their lonesome.

    2. Could you please define what a real man is? And what do you think a women’s role is ? Are men and women equal ? Are good relationships one way ? Do as I say ? Or should men and women, husband and wife etc work together and help each other ?

      1. Are men and women equal ? YES. Are good relationships one way ? NO. Do as I say ? NO. Or should men and women, husband and wife etc work together and help each other ? YES

  9. This article is shit. It only shows the limits of the authors imagination. Perpetuating the idea that ass sex is dirty or gay. You wouldn’t your man to think you think he is gay? Because being gay is a bad thing? Sexual turn ons to each their own, it’s not like people invent their notions, that is part of the fun, even if you did make up things, great.
    It /seems to be lost on women, plastic toys & condoms. The point for men is the physical sensation. Wouldn’t you want to climax from the reality of the moment. Instead of manufacturing a psychological ploy? Penetration is not automatically dominant. Getting fucked is getting. Your vagina, see how easy it is to say a word, vagina. Every woman has one. Your vagina takes a hold of a penis, that is assertive, figure out a way to assert yourself in way that is different from the boring macho stereotype.

  10. Doing a man anally is the perfect way to dominate him. You can start slowly by playing around his ass while you work his genitals eventually putting in a finger while he orgasms. He will associate anal stimulation with pleasure and being controlled physically. Over time start fingering him just for the sake of doing him without giving him an orgasm. increase the number of fingers you insert until he gets used to having his ass stretched and then introduce a dildo or vibrator. When he bends over on command and submits to penetration you will have achieved dominance. Your man will now be yours to hold and control and he will agree to almost any demand you make. Many cuckolds are created by this method.

  11. My boyfriend loves being done with a strap-on and I find it really empowering as a woman. It was a bit awkward the first time but becoming dominant was a really great experience and i recommend it to any couple that feels comfortable

  12. Not sure if I would enjoy being done with a strapon but I would love to have a woman who wanted to make me. When a woman does a man anally she becomes dominant and he submits and nothing is going to reverse things. I know lol.

  13. As a man who loves his wife and wants to keep her satisfied, if she wants me to surrender the booty, I’m more than happy to give it to her!

  14. My husband loves anal play and I’ve done him with a strap on. It was fun, but I’m a big girl too with a big belly so it was kind of difficult to position myself well, also I am definitely not built to slam it into someone. Afterwords I was just like, “I have no idea how you find the energy to plow me. That was hard. I’m exhausted!” he laughed and said, “Yeah but it was good.” (I’m a bit of a pillow princess, although I am hoping the Eva clit stimulator by Dame products will make riding my hubby far more orgasmic someday!)

    Anywho, as far as anal play on het men goes, well people shouldn’t be so uptight about this. Just have fun, enjoy each other. My hubby is still 100% heterosexual after the fact and definitely still a chubby chaser too~ <3

    Still, if you don't want it in your butt and that's where you draw the line you have every right to say no and she should respect that. =)

      1. These days, designed is a more apt description of people. Regardless, if a woman were meant to penetrate, she would arrive in the world equipped with apparatus capable of developing to do so. What is a clit if not a half baked penis?

        1. She does arrive in the world equipped with appendages capable of penetration – ten of them. Fingers. More if you count toes, but let’s not.

  15. Being penetrated as a man in the bedroom is not only completely changing the dynamic of your relationship, but compromising your sexual identity as a man. Some guys may be comfortable with that. Real men aren’t.

    1. Michael, how exactly does receiving anal attention from your girlfriend/wife “completely change the dynamic of your relationship”? You are both just enjoying pleasurable sexual sensations together. If both parties are having fun in a new way, then the dynamic is simply being improved upon! The only way your comment makes sense is if you perceive heterosexual intercourse as something aggressive that all-powerful men do to receptive, submissive, less powerful women — and thus being penetrated by a woman would make you some sort of “gayish girly-man,” giving her the power in the relationship and stripping you of all of yours. Which all sounds incredibly sexist, homophobic and myopic to us. “Real men” are people whose sexual identities aren’t precariously based on sexism, homophobia and old-fashioned ideas about gender stereotypes — they are people smart enough to understand that some nerve-endings feel good when they are stimulated by a partner they’re attracted to, people who are willing to be vulnerable with those they love, and people who don’t resort to knee-jerk name-calling when others behave in ways they don’t like or understand. In other words: phooey on you!

      1. you perceive heterosexual intercourse as something aggressive that all-powerful men do to receptive, submissive, less powerful women — and thus being penetrated by a woman would make you some sort of “gayish girly-man,” 

        ^ This is all good and well, but you make comments about penetration an act of dominance, so it does sound like most sex, as most sex is heterosexual, is an act of male power done to receptive women who are as a result less dominant and powerful during. At least be consistent. If female sexuality is usually submissive, women may never be fully seen as “equals,” as there are likely psychological effects to associating a body with submission. Men look more powerful, have a more active sexual role that’s perceived as dominating – ruling, controlling – while the woman receives, looks at his mercy when penetrated. We don’t win here.

        1. I am a very tough guy and when I was young I did not realize how strong and tough women can be. I know that some women can whip my ass and have their way with me and it has nothing to do with size or muscles

    2. Bwahahawhhw “Some guys may be comfortable with that. Real men aren’t.”
      Yeah. Some guys are uncomfortale at being gay, but real men aren’t.
      Ridiculous denial at it’s very best.
      Wanna be buttfucked? HELL, DO IT! You’re paying your own bills, aren’t you? Damn, so what?
      Wanna live in denial of actions not to threaten your sense of Self/Person whom you think you are? Hell, DO IT TOO! Again, no one should really have authority to stop you there too.

      Problem is not raping your asshole, it’s being an asshole who rapes reality.
      “Be a man” to accept who you are and fitting your Self with your actions. (that’s a wonderful invitation to distort and fuck reality over again, innit.) Or not. You don’t have to, right.

    3. A real man will never let a woman or another man bend him over and do him in his ass ,hell fuck no!!if you let anyone do that to you and you enjoy it ,you are gay in denial.
      I will never respect a man that let’s a woman or another man do it to them in their butt no way.

    4. I let my wife do what she wants, its not gay, that’s just how indoctrination. Its actually really fine.
      I don’t believe in gay rights before you accuse me of being some super gay promoting weirdo.
      I like a dildo or a strap-on up there because I’m absolutely comfortable with myself, and my wife a comfortable with herself.
      If it feels good, do it, is our rule.

      1. Um, nobody is going to accuse you of being “some super gay promoting weirdo,” because no such creature exists.

        It’s kind of ironic that you enjoy receiving strap-on sex with your wife, i.e. you’re two consenting adults who care for each other and want to pleasure each other in ways you both enjoy in the privacy of your own home, but you “don’t believe in gay rights,” while there are plenty of homophobes who’d be happy to outlaw what you and your wife are doing.

  16. The ultimate in female fantasies, rape the male and take away his masculinity, now Feminism is the power, not equal but more powerful. Women around the world orgasm in delight.

    1. That’s not the ultimate “FEMALE” fantasy. If you’re near a chick who’s faintly into not accepting/reinforcing your masculinity/her femininity, DROP HER, TEAT HER LIKE THE PLAGUE.
      If you have no idea, according to most researchers, it’s actually to BE raped (as a FANTASY, not the real thing).

  17. Man… I so want to do my husband with the strapon but he keeps saying no… It’s been a couple of months since I started pretty much begging him to let me do it to him 🙁 it’s my biggest fantasy and turn on right now but I have a feeling it will never happen 🙁

  18. damn that is so hot the gay who have a women or a girlfriend who want to fuck him with a strap on is so fucking awesome i wish to meet a girl like that

  19. My girl friend had always wanted to fuck a man with a dildo, so after 5 years into this relationship I let her fuck me with a strap-on.
    At first it just made me sore. Then I had an orgasm as she was fucking me. She has fuck me with the strap-on maybe 6 times. She get real turn on my this and like to be in control.
    She like to finger fuck me more than use the strap-on for some reason, that ok. But if she going to fuck me I wish she would just not say anything and have the it on when I get into the bed. And tell me , “I’m doing the fucking tonight” I told her if she want to take control then do so. I told her anytime she want to be the one doing the fucking then just take it don’t ask. She was finger fuck me last month so I stop her and said, “get your strap-on and fuck me” She did and you should saw her face as she was in control. I told her that it would be hot if she would just have it on when I came to bed, then I would know what she wanted to be for the night. It would be so hot if she would sometime just take it from me, and give it to me good.
    But I always have to be the one to tell her.
    So I stopped saying anything and she stop taking it out of the box.

    1. I LOVE a man and woman that is so comfortable IN their sexuality that they can just do and enjoy WHATEVER feels good and doesn’t get caught up on hang ups…. That can really put a downer on your sex life!

  20. My fiancée just recently did me with her dildo and it was amazing. I had done it by myself a few times but it’s no where near as good when u have someone do it for you.

  21. I think that is awesome, would love a girl to do that to me, I have only experienced it alone, as the girls I have been with don’t seem to be into that sort of thing, but damn I wish they were, good for you all!!!

  22. it’s amazing nad every guy should try it. My (female) partner gives me A and we are both very happy and very much in love because of our open approach

  23. its such a turn on – my thinking is that if women will take it there then men should – i have tried it a few times mostly it didnt work but it did once relax is the key

  24. A plug isn’t the greatest tool in the world for prostate massaging, and rarely do guys have an orgasm off prostate massage alone. My advice is to first get a toy designed for the job, there are many of them, and a hand will do just as well.

  25. Pegging my fella is at the top of my list of favorite sexy time activities. He is very masculine and the level of vulnerability required to share pegging with each other has brought us even closer as a couple and more in love.

  26. you sound like my wife!! i can tell that you and your man are going to b every happy for along time!! myShe does me as often as i do her!! LOVE IT!! PAULL

  27. If you do a sex act with a dude you are gay or bisexual …if you do a sex act with a chick you are strait or bisexual …..its doesn’t matter what the sex act is ….anal play feels good and its fun to give the girl a little controll every once in a while ……

  28. Thanks for the story Emma! My boyfriend and I have been talking about doing it so I’m doing my research. Like Emma, I love his butt and looking forward to it. It doesn’t mean he’s gay, it just means he’s into exploring new things with someone he trusts…get over yourself Bilbo!

  29. Yay! My hubs and I are HUGE fans of “pegging”! This fantastic experience is a regular practice in our house. My husband is far from being a closet homosexual. I think if you asked, most men would at least be open to anal play. It feels great to them, and what a rush for us gals! I say, hooray for the peggers!!!!

  30. bilbo baggins chose the name bilbo baggins an calls someone gay lol, not to be mean, just be open, im straight as it comes an finally caved to doing it, id beg for it now as well as many other things as long as its me an my gal only

  31. Ohhhhh….man.
    After 30 years of marriage, i was fortunate enough to have my misses pull my “a” card and WOW.
    Now its at least 3 or 4 times a month.
    She has multiple orgasms and i have an orgasm like never before, not to mention my prostate problems and discomfort has DISAPEARED.
    It doesnt mean your gay, it means you enjoy the power exchange with someone you love and you enjoy sex like nothing you have ever experienced.

  32. Emma sounds amazing. Her man sounds like he is happy or he would have left her long ago. An unhappy man is hard to live with and an unhappy sexually frustrated man is worse! Everyone stop judging Emma and her man. They sound happy and content!

    Why is OK for men to dominate women but when a woman shows a bit control she needs to be put on a leash?! All you sexist pigs disgust me!

  33. I agree with Emma. I’m a male though, but I like to funk a girl in the butt, and I feel more dominant when I hear her squealing. I guess she can’t have an orgasm that way, but it gives a great pleasure to me. Pure sadism.

  34. i just wanna say that i see nothing wrong with emma pegging her man however i disagree with the method as sex should always be a mutually pleasurable expereince and if he isnt “getting off” then neither should you. If the roles were reversed the same would apply. feminism and masculinity has nothing to do with it. its merely the right thing to do

  35. Some of these comments had me rolling! Are you people for real? My ex was a big scary man & the things we did in the bedroom didn’t make him less of a man! He loved his ass played with in many ways, loved to be called dirty n mean names, talked to like he was worthless, loved being slapped, and chocked! He never did these things to me “well accept butt play ” I wasn’t into it, that was all him! I felt strange at 1st doing it “but” sometimes we do things for the one we love to give them pleasure!

  36. I have had the fantasy of using a strap-on for a long time now. I have reunited with a lover from the past and he has the same fantasy as I do. Turns out he has been anally pleasuring himself for most of his life. Now we are looking to get a strap-on so I can do him like he does me!

  37. My wife and I loved role reversal for a while. It’s fun. It’s different. It feels good, trust me. We haven’t done it in a while for a number of reasons but I still enjoy it. In fact, I often walk around with a butt plug or even a dildo in just for the sensation and the thrill of it. I am not gay. Just enjoy exploring every aspect of my sexuality, which I believe is healthy. A complete person is not male or female, but a little of both.

  38. That Emma person sounds like a terrible human being. I’m so glad my sex life is normal and about having fun with my partner rather than taking out some deep seated rage on another person

  39. I don’t think that anal is dominating ur partner in any way… nor do I think telling him what to do or expecting him to do what I like. If he likes the way I do things… I’m not a feminist he’s still in control because he’s happy! Our house is still ran the way he likes it! I work when I want to… I get everything I want && need ( so does he!)… our house is pink! I shop til I drop… he pays the bills… && I freak him like a porn star!!! Strap on… other girls… toys… swings… we talk about it… then we do it!!! If he wants me to bend him over that night I do it with a smile && a smack on the ass… feminist shminist (ha!) Its wut ever works for the couple!!! && anal has nothing to do with the argument aspect of ur relationship Emma!!!… I’ve been with my man for yrs now and I’ve never yelled or cursed at him… didn’t have ta bend him over either ta get him not ta argue… we have a healthy balance in our relationship … !!!

  40. Not sure how I got sucked into this but after reading through all this id say that I agree with te whole emmas a terrible person thing. Not because of the anal, but her general attitude towards it. There are no ups ir downs just mutual sex in all kinds of forms and positions. Anyways though, anyone else thing the string of obsessed menor following emmas bashings, at least toward te begining, was just emma justifiying herself through varios names? To me of it just kinda sounded like somthing she’d probably say, like the whole satire thing. Her support towards the end of this forum I feel were just porn seeking men googlgggghhheing ‘girl using strap on’ or something, which is moré les where this forum is going. But anyways just wanted ti point that out. Sorry about te spelling, someone ser my tablet to spanish, like wtf

  41. I wonder if people like Emma view a male penetrating his wife as dominating her. Because that’s a pretty messed up way of looking at one’s relationship.

  42. I’ve recently has a girl introduce me to this when i asked her how anal felt and she said absolutely amazing but we never did it together. Eventually I gave to on her after asking her multiple times. So I gave up. I felt the feeling the reason she avoided it was beicause she truly uncomfortable with it. So were now not together and I’ve tried to find a girl with this interest but its not that easy of a subject to bring up. Especially with people now a days thinking that if you like another that makes you gay!? But anyways how can I find a girl with this interest? Whats a good why to ask the question?

  43. Emma, don’t listen to these people. Why is everyone so fixated on the control and manipulation aspect of it. It is simply about pleasure and a fantasy. You guys were just having fun and you opened your boyfriends eyes to an experience that, in the end, he enjoyed. Hopefully these experiences that the two of you have shared will bring you closer together, and the simple and narrow minded individuals who think it is pure evil will relax. Have fun girl 🙂

  44. my wife didn’t want to try pegging at 1st. but thankfully a good friend of hers told her how fun it was for her and her man. the 1st. time was a was a bit weird for her. but after we picked up a two headed strap-on now she LOVES it. she told me last night that she wishes that she would have tried this the 1st. day I said something to her about it 3 years ago.

  45. Your boyfriend is just that ass play is going to make him gay. That is so unfortunate. He has NO idea how lucky he is and I’m sure by now you have found another guy who is more than willing to let you explore these places as well as his prostate. My current lady friend is so open minded and I told her my ultmate fantasy, which I call the ultimate domination, was to be dealt with a strap on, and she immediately fell in love with the idea. I know she’s going to make my fantasy come true, and I can’t wait.

    Sorry your boyfriend was being so lame about it, some guys are just too close minded. He just hasn’t crossed that line yet, luckily ass play is becoming less of a taboo and more normal nowadays.

  46. Emma i am in such a relationship as yours, and i am very lucky to have found the one Woman whom i want to submit to for the rest of my life.

  47. @ Emma, there is nothing wrong with what your doing. From your story, I get the impression that both of you enjoy it.
    It’s so sad to see how people are reacting just because for once, a woman dared to do what she enjoys rather than submitting to a mans requirements.

  48. Love it, Stevo. But all that banter amounts to “I can’t get the wimmenz so they have the power.” There are so hard facts, no real world examples of things like rights violations, being denied education, being denied equal pay and opportunities, (because you MIGHT take a year off to raise a child) being denied the sovereignty over your own body when it comes to pregnancy, being looked on in general as someone who SHOULD conform to another’s standards and desires because if you don’t then we get a huge mess of buttfrustration as evidenced by YOU and the sentiment of countless others.

  49. Emma, have you seen the feeldoe or it’s new relative the realdoe. If you are going to do all that work, you deserve to get a lot of stimulation back from it, and an easy way to get started.

  50. Feminism contradicts anthropology and evolution in all kinds of ways. They blame everything on “society.” I see what Joe was trying to say, but I don’t think it was articulated very well. Sex is a product of evolution, typical women view the penis as a symbol of power because they are hardwired to think that those with penises (men) have authority. In tribal society the men provided security, women would typically gain “power” through relationships with the men. Which is why women are so interested in movies and books about relationships. Notice emma said “I prefer to believe that he is proud because society prizes this attribute”

    She BELIEVES…. oh OK. Feminism is just another religion.

  51. Good for you Emma .. you have no idea how tiring it is as a man to be expected to “always be on top” in so many areas of life & relationships … I actually thought your comments where honest & open exploration of your ego and I applaud you for them ..

    There are certainly times were I would like to surrender and be on the receiving end .. but that is simply not ok …

    I think humanity would be well served to move beyond the idea of Gender, race, colour or sexual preference. We are all beings exploring what it is to have a body and if you relationship is working for you then power to you.

  52. What a beautiful description! I enjoyed reading this story and it really made me horny as this is one of dreams, hopefully one day it will come true as it did for you.

  53. Girls, Don’t expect your guys to orgasm from anal stimulation alone. If done right, it does feel extremely good but not the orgasm kind of good for most. If you combine it with stimulation of the penis then you might give him an amazing orgasm!

  54. Maybe if you spent more time doing it rather than blabbering on about it you’d see it in its most simplest form, kinky sex, nothing more nothing less.
    And for everybody thats going on and on about reproduction, jesus, im surprised we’re not already extinct.
    All talk little action.

  55. All this site is about is male bashing,that would explain all the penis size articles here and all the hurtful misandric comments all over this site.You folks are NOT very clever you know d!mn well that you feminist types throw the size thing around as fodder to slam men.You must think everyone is stupid or something? Its sad that these so called feminists who constantly rail about the lack of equality everywhere are usually the ones who engage in the most destructive,hurtful propaganda and slander themselves.

  56. @Emma

    Not to take things off topic, but feminism is not about equality. Feminists do not fight for equality. They fight for women’s rights, and only in certain areas. The biggest problem with feminism is it concentrates on only what the “disadvantages” of being a women are and none of the “positives”. It actually does the exact opposite for men. Concentration on men who passed the “glass ceiling” and landed themselves a CEO position. Yet in reality, most men are on the bottom.

    Women receive far more government funding than men. 75% of government funding for medical needs is used by women, yet men live less and suffer from more chronic disease.

    Education grants are extremely biased. As men drop out of college, Women receive far more government grants, even though they make up the majority of students. Women also receive grants for studying a major dominated by men, however, men do not receive grants for majors dominated by women such as nursing, one of the nations highest paying degree’s.

    Child custody and divorce laws are extremely biased. Often in court we view women as “nurturing and better for child development”……wait a second ladies, I thought we were equal…. oh I guess not when it benefits you. Men are ripped away from their children and forced to pay up to half of their checks to their ex-wives making it impossible to start a new life.

    Feminists are the ultimate manipulators. Many are very well educated, especially in areas of statistics. Often feminists will manipulate statistics to their favor, such as the women make 75% to a mans dollar myth. However often media with feminist agenda will leave out categories of work where women make more than men. They also do not take in account for hours worked. Also the 1/4 of women are raped statistic. It comes from a 1985 study which clarified “rape” as a regrettable one night stand. Of course feminists know this but do not care if their agenda is being pushed.

    Men make up to 80% of the homeless, not including boys under 18. Do men receive gender only government assitance? No, women do!

    Men make up 88% of suicides. Do men receive gender only government assitance? No, women do!

    Misandry is widely accepted. Ever see a shirt, “Boys do it better than girls” or “Beat the girls”, ”Man Power”…No… of course not. However the same cannot be said for girls. If a child starts off with hatred or contempt for the opposite gender then how do you think they will act as an adult? Shouldn’t we be working as a team instead of competing against each other.

    The fact of you being a feminist just shows how corrupt and illogical your way of thinking is. Your leadership is in no way natural.

  57. Emma…. I loved your story and would just love to be with a woman like you..!!! Men need to be put in their pace at times. I’m a tall, confident and very dominant intelligent guy, being forced into submission is remarkably relaxing for a guy like me. I love being controlled…because normally, I’m always in control.

    Where can I find my own copy of you…!

  58. I don’t care that you fuk him but your approach, your determination, and the time you were planning to do him is just quite devilish, the same way Satan approaches people. I am wondering if you do you do every thing in life in such passion and determination! rules is changing, women are not pleased by having such an era which it never happened in thousands of years, but now they want to fuk men too! who knows in the next 50 years maybe you would ask men to get pregnant for you so you can enjoy having toned body! even if anal penetration can be enjoyable you should have respected his manhood, what an embarrassment if his friends and family finds out that you have become his fucker!

  59. Will you lot Chill Strap on play is all about power exchange, some people enjoy pain you all seem very close minded for the type of people who would visit this forum!

  60. I love being dominated by the wife and she straps it on and fks me atleast twice a week. We have a large selection of toys in various types and sizes that we use on each other…….. That’s correct “each other”,
    The only rules we have are…… 1) boss/bitch. One day I’m the boss and next I’m the Bitch (sub/dom) and 2) the word “pain”, the boss can do whatever they want on there day and the Bitch got to take it and the only way to stop is shout pain….
    These rules work for us and we have an amazing sex life that we both enjoy and NO we don’t have sex every day but when we do we fully satisfy each others needs…….. Multiple times

  61. It makes me beyond excited, when I control his pleasure.Just getting started love to finger him,and make him orgasm, hope to soon work up to strap- on excited to know I am not alone. Took 20 years to feel this kind of pleasure omg wonderful.To many years afraid of what he might think if he knew how freaky I really was.

  62. Emma, I stand by you on this. It sounds like you are getting a lot of flack, but I, as a man think you are on the right track with this. You are the kind of woman men dream of. He is so lucky to have a woman that not only can be a breadwinner, but also give him the ultimate sexual pleasure a man can receive. There are countless men in marriages where they have to make the money and have unfulfilling sex with partners that just don’t understand that the way to a man’s heart is through his ass. I salute you, Emma.

  63. Had to add. He def screams and grunts and I’ll call it close to passes out after he rides me! I think, at least with him, he’s having no problem feeling blessed with pleasure! Any other gals who have male partners that don’t enjoy sex with a sexy lady? Or a guy if that’s what they like.

    Just sayin.

  64. I’ll admit I like pegging my boyfriend but because he grunts with pleasure! Thats a turn on! I don’t really care too much about a strapon as I’m proud of my body and happy with my own penetration by his maleness. I like being female and feel as much or more power, if that’s what you crave, be being the female and making his Big O as well as mine, so strong, he can’t wait to get home!

    Btw, we both shave. It’s cleaner and we feel each other more! Can’t say I find it tedious lol.

  65. Emma’s significant other needs to find a more loving home and discharge this abusive, self centered, possibly deranged partner. She’s definitely not a partner, nor most people’s idea of a sexy lover. By the words she’s chosen, I’m guessing not very attractive and hence her personality is undermined by anger and self dissapointment.

    Any individual of any gender that is selfish, finds enjoyment at the pain of others, carries anger and pride with degrading another is as far as you can get from attractive, desirable or normal. Being female, I’m dissapointed in Emma- if she is a female? Clearly she doesn’t speak for most of us.

    Hopefully he will wake up. Hopefully she will be stuck with a lover that turns the tables on her and she won’t remember her last orgasm but will remember the pain when her lover abuses her for their enjoyment. I’m guessing she’s not really into guys which is fine but even as a bifemale, I can’t imagine wanting this as a lover.

  66. Joe,

    Please feel free to regard my post as a “rouse”, or whatever makes you feel most comfortable. As far as I can tell it has no particular impact on me. But ruse or not I need to respond to these “sound scientific reasons”:

    1. My orgasms are inessential? Then I should be all the more thankful to the Goddess that I have been granted this joy!

    2. If you somehow couldn’t tell from the context, I was talking about pubic hair, where as far as I know we are more or less equal. And it has been a norm for women to shave there only in the last 25 years or so. So much for your law.

    3. I prefer to believe that he is proud because society prizes this attribute, and regards it as a proxy for his virility, rather than whatever pseudo-scientific reason you might concoct.

    4. I’m not sure what your point is here. If women
    control a resource which is scare and men one which is inexhaustible, would it not follow that women’s resource, and hence women, are the more valuable? Don’t men have to work hard to be appealing, and pretty, to women?

    And please don’t trouble yourself with my lot in life, I am quite content, but thank you for your concern. I will let you in on a little secret, Joe. A woman whose sexual potential has been maximized is able to experience pleasure far beyond what a man is able to, it’s not even close. Let me ask you, have you ever screamed because an orgasm was too intense? Cried? Convulsed? Blacked out? It really isn’t fair, to have to grimly carry out your biologically necessary role while we experience such bliss, apparently gifted to us by nature purely for its own sake. But that is your lot in life.

  67. Joe,

    Please feel free to regard my post as a “rouse”, or whatever makes you feel most comfortable. As far as I can tell it has no particular impact on me. But ruse or not I need to respond to these “sound scientific reasons”:

    1. My orgasms are inessential? Then I should be all the more thankful to the Goddess that I have been granted this joy!

    2. If you somehow couldn’t tell from the context, I was talking about pubic hair, where as far as I know we are more or less equal. And it has been a norm for women to shave there only in the last 25 years or so. So much for your law.

    3. I prefer to believe that he is proud because society prizes this attribute, and regards it as a proxy for his virility, rather than whatever pseudo-scientific reason you might concoct.

    4. I’m not sure what your point is here. If women
    control a resource which is scare and men one which is inexhaustible, would it not follow that women’s resource, and hence women, are the more valuable? Don’t men have to work hard to be appealing, and pretty, to women?

    And please don’t trouble yourself with my lot in life, I am quite content, but thank you for your concern. And

  68. To Emma:
    I don’t believe a word of your story. Your story is nothing more than a clever rouse that points out all the things you think are unfair to a women in a heterosexual relationship and than simply reverses that role.
    Look Emma, don’t let it get you down, there are sound scientific reasons why things are the way they are.
    1. Women don’t need to achive an orgasm to reproduce (although it does help), men must.
    2. Women are natural less hairy then men, therefor women shave what body hair they do have as a way of accentuating there femininity.
    3. A man with a big penis is a proud man, ask him why and he may not really know why, but the truth lies in our evolution, a big penis means getting sperm closer to the cervix, which in turn gaves a man a better chance to pass on his genes. And thick penis also helps the women orgasm, which in turn causes the cervix to open and close allowing for more sperm to make its way to the egg (most useful, but not necessary..Sorry Emma).
    4. Men have an inexhaustible amount of sperm they produce, so evolution dictated that men should never stop hunting for a place to put it, women on the other hand are born with all the eggs they will ever have, and thus the women was to be very choosey with whom she would reproduce with (plus choosing a good provider meant her offspring would have a better chance of survival), which also added to women trying to beautify themselves as a way to attract the best men possible.
    Look I could go on and on trying to make you understand why the human race works the way it does in hope you can feel better about your lot in life but I doubt a stranger off the Internet is going to do that for you, so good luck with your wishful thinking!!!

  69. @ Emma – You’re sadistic and controlling. I don’t care what your gender is. As a matter of fact, remove he and she entirely from your comments and it’s abundantly clear. I think whatever you do to your own body is just fine, but when you take it out on another, you’ve crossed a line. How would you like it if the roles were reversed? I enjoy pegging as well, but my lovers have always remained hard and orgasm multiple times. It is a role reversal and power exchange, but it’s not an excuse to punish them.

  70. I don’t intend to use this as a debate forum, but I would like to respond with a few remarks. Rather than mine representing a “bastardization of the women’s movement”, I feel that your comment indicates that that movement’s work is not yet complete. Feminism preaches equality between the sexes, but what does that mean? No one seriously proposes to mandate that every individual should be equal to every other. We live in a world of differences, and such a proposal is clearly unrealistic. Rather, I think it means that everyone should have an equal opportunity to express their potential to its fullest, including their sexual potential. Now, my particular sexuality finds fulfillment when I am in an unequal position with my partner. Men have been imposing this sort of inequality upon women, with or without their consent, for thousands of years. P, I take it you find this sort of relation offensive, and have expressed your moral outrage whenever and wherever you have come upon it? Or could it possibly be that your outrage was only aroused when, for once, a woman was on top?

    As for the particulars of your comment: In my view, yes, a woman penitrating a man with a strap-on does entail the assertion and yes the dominance of the woman. As it is my view, your idea of whether it “should” or not is irrelevant. And yes, using a large dildo is very exciting and ego-gratifying to me, ask a well endowed man and he will probably tell you the same. As to shaving, I think it is you who is out of touch with reality. You are right that some men shave and some women don’t, but you are very wrong if you think they aren’t very much in the minority. It is only women who are pressured and told that their hair, which I feel is beautiful, is dirty and repulsive. And I’m sorry if this offends you, but like I said I am the breadwinner and work in a very demanding and stressful job, and if there is something he can do sexually to relieve that stress and bolster my self-confidence (which is a matter of life and death at work), I think it is reasonable for me to expect that of him.

    1. So you view the act of typical heterosexual sex as an act of male dominance because there’s penetration? Then is it any surprise men view women as more submissive or that porn is a cesspool of unrealistically sized dicks “destroying” throats? It’s all ego related to size and what size can do.

  71. Emma,
    This is a great example of the bastardization of the women’s movement. For christ’s sake, sexual penetration should not be about dominating or self assertion. The size of your faux-cock shouldn’t be about emasculating your lover either. For you to say all of this and then make the claim about women having to shave being unfair because men don’t just shows that you are completely out of touch with reality. Many men shave and many women do not. In my opinion, everyone should be required to trim that mess back, but that is my opinion and preference and maybe that was merely your husbands preference as well. You sound like a very selfish lover. It is all about you and what you want. You are excited to have anal sex with him and cause him pain for your own pleasure with little regard for his but are unwilling to even shave to make going down on you more comfortable for him? Anal and oral sex, as well as any other, should be about all parties involved regardless of their sex or orientations, not just yours.

  72. Me and my husband have been doing this for some time now. The idea was always very appealing to me, and as I am the breadwinner and older than him by twelve years, and he is quite pretty, it seemed like a very natural development. I don’t really think of it as dominating him, but at the same time I do think of it as asserting my place in the relationship, and the psychological, ego-boosting aspect, especially since I started using a large (9.5″) dildo, is a significant part of the pleasure I receive. And I do receive a lot, I always orgasm at least once, and usually more than once. His pleasure is still a work in progress, I would love for him to be able to climax, but for the most part he enjoys it because I do so much. And this might sound terrible, but the fact that he undergoes pain for my enjoyment is very arousing to me.

    I’ve found that this has had huge benefits for our relationship outside of the sex itself. We are much less prone to argue, I feel that I am the natural leader of the two of us, and in the past he would feel compelled to challenge this position, just because he was male and he felt it was expected of him. This has largely stopped. And he has become a much better lover for me. I happen to love getting oral, its practically a necessity for me to function, and he used to be reluctant, especially when I would go without shaving, which I loathe (why do women have to but not men??). Now he actually anticipates when I need it, and is much more enthusiastic and committed to pleasing, and willing to continue until I am totally satisfied.

    1. Undergoing pain for someone’s pleasure is like equating the amount of pain they tolerate in a relationship with how much they love you, or you them. Kind of unhealthy thinking, and certainly egoic, and I find that desires like that are quotidian sadism, little disturbing aspects of our natures that are normalized. Why feel “cocky” about a plastic 9.5 in dick? You seem to equate dick size with power a lot (very phallocentric, societal thinking). Imagine a man saying the idea of his dick being so large it hurts a woman being intensely arousing (look at the popularity of brutal throatfucking or small teen big dick porn for a taste of this reality). It would seem disturbing, and it is. Or men finding penetration of a woman an assertion of their place in the relationship – making most relationships male-dominant.

      I enjoy using strap-ons, but I enjoy that the man isn’t tied up in societal gender roles and masculinity and doesn’t view being penetrated as an emasculating downgrade, not that he does.

    2. No wonder adopting something associated with female sexuality is seen as emasculating: it’s viewed as submissive, receptive, an ego boost for the man, a bit of a downgrade for her. This is why language like “they’re getting ass-fucked!” might be heard at a sports bar, exclaimed by a fan watching his team lose. It’s equated with submission, but pitching isn’t, sexual attitudes bleeding into colloquial speech, and alas, no wonder men don’t want to be feminine. It’s a raw deal to know your body and the penetration of your body is pretty much fated to be perceived as inferior, an act that props up the man’s ego, an act that’s inculcated lexicon to mean “destroyed” or dominated.

  73. A couple years ago my wife wanted to do me with a strap on. I was open to the idea and while doing it for the first time I felt closer to her than any other woman I had been with in the past it was an amazingly close feeling and I am not an emotional guy but it was a very close emotional feeling. It felt so good and I regularly ask her to do me with it now. I am so glad we tried it and I love anal but only with my wife and her strap on that is. I can’t imagine sex without having my ass penetrated by her 🙂

  74. My bf asked me to finger him and use a strap, I thought something was fqkn wrong with him, but after thinking about it and searching I stumbled upon this article and it amazes me how many men with to be taken by their gf/wife. But I seen that it’s a trust commintment that he has for me, I am so ready to make him my B****, and all the options of sex toys got my horomones flipping out ..I am going to fqk gis brains out ( Lol)

  75. Thanks Trish! I’m glad to know I’m not a freak for having those fantasies and maybe I will tell my bf about it. Who knows maybe he’ll even get turned on about the idea and would like to see me in action lol
    @Orin maybe you should surprise her someday with a dildo and ask if she’ll do the honor of bringing you pleasure. I know when my man asks me to do something I thought I wouldn’t like I end loving it just b/c I love hearing his light moans and knowing I’m the one that’s pleasing him.

  76. In reference to Trish on August 12,2012, I had it done once to me and I fully enjoyed it! As my luck would turn out, it was the last time I had it. If you would like to try it with me, I’d be more than willing!

  77. @That_chick don’t be embarrassed. I’m bisexual. I didn’t start dating women until I was in my 30’s. Sex with a woman is a beautiful and wonderful thing!! And it would probably turn your man on to hear about your fantasies. He would only be a problem for him if he felt threatened and he thought you could form an emotional bond with another woman. People are more accepting of bisexuality in women than they are of men. So I agree with you, it may be difficult for a man to ask his girlfriend for anal sex. After reading these comments I’m thinking I would like to try wearing the strap on for once and and enjoying some anal play. It sounds powerful. But I think I would have a hard time finding a man willing to try it with me.

  78. My bf has such a nice butt. It’s nice and round and juicy. I love grabbing a handful of it and just playing with it. Now I actually have never even thought about sticking a finger in it. I’m just very curious to know, does any “nasty stuff” come out while you’re doing it? Or any foul smell? We have never performed anything anal yet so I’m just very curious and would like to hear from some experienced people what to expect and how to do it the right way. Also for the guys that say they love it but worry that people might think they’re gay, I totally get you! U
    I am a 100% straight girl but sometimes I too fantasize about doing something sexual with a body part on the same sex as me. In no way, shape or form would I ever be emotionally attracted to a female. However, I’ve even had dreams about what it’d be like to rub genitals with a female and I have felt super embarassed about it and even like a freak b/c I’ve been curious about it. I’ve never even mentioned that to my bf for fear that he might think I’m lesbian so I totally understand what you feel. Don’t feel ashamed about it. It’s definitely normal and heck it’s your sexual life so do whatever makes you happy 🙂

  79. This is a new adventure in my relationship with my girlfriend of three years. I have always felt that I wasn’t like average guys sexually…and until 23 I had never even brought up the topic of this with a woman…but one night things just sort of progressed, and we became much closer for it. We started with fingers, and eventually I realized there was just something in me craving to be fucked by my girl. I know for some, it’s a domination thing. Not for us. I enjoy sharing roles in the relationship, and she does equally. And as a guy, it takes quite a bit of comfort with a woman to let them anywhere near that area, and vice-versa, so I think experimenting and pushing these boundaries sexually has actually benefited our relationship as a whole. I am not afraid of letting her do anything to me anymore. It builds a strong sense of trust. I wouldnt endorse anything specific, to each their own, but dont be ashamed of your own sexual desires! We all deserve to know this type of pleasure.

  80. Hi,all came across the site by accident and had to tell you all about my experience,ive been married for 23 years and have been a xdresser a lot longer,im a lucky having such a understanding wife who lets me indulge in my passtime with her taking part as well,now ive experimented with men b4 i married but only for sex,no kissing though,so all through out married life we have used toys on each other,and i can tell you this that we have both enjoyed far better orgasms together by doing this,she likes nothing better than putting her dick on and giving me what for,we have always used quite hard rubber strap-ons,but just recently invested in two UR3 vac-u-lock one being 6″ the other a 8″ now the feeling of these new toys are amazing yes you might say 6″ is small but by god its thick and when that is put into me, im in heaven,it hits my prostate everytime and my god,the last time i climaxed so hard was in my teens but it happens everytime she does me,so now we have the 8″ ive used it on my own but im waiting for when we do a bit of role reversal for her to hit me with it,but soon (hopefully) we are going to have a 3 some with another man (hopefully a VWE) to do us both,and i can tell you this that i am not gay,do not have any feeling towards another man,i just want to be drilled by one,and the wife wants to hear me scream like a girl lol,so to all you blokes out there,let your wife/girlfriend stick there fingers up you bum,then bring in the toys,you will love it and the orgasams well try it you will find out,and it wont mean your gay and it wont turn you gay,and to all you ladies out there go on you know you want to 🙂

  81. I’ve recently started getting turned on by the idea of pegging my boyfriend. I started talking to him about it about a week ago. He said hell no. So I asked him if I could lick his ass and he said maybe. Today during 69 (with him on top) I started to lick his ass and he responded well. So I lubed a finger and started rubbing the rim. I asked him if I could put it in and he didn’t answer for quite a while. So I just did it. It immediately got me about 50x hotter. He started fingering me and sucking my clit so much harder and faster and I came. Then we had sex. Afterwords I asked him what he thought about it. He acted all shy and like he didn’t want to talk about it. When he finally did say something he said he wasn’t really that into it. I know it turned him on though. Wish me luck trying to get him to do it again.

  82. So I was a straight guy until my girlfriend used a strap on!! I’m 33 now, and tried this with my girlfriend for the first time 10 years ago. I have been in about 4 serious relationships since, with several partners in between. Very very surprisingly to me…every girl that I have been with for the most part is all about doing me with a strap on!! They have all loved it, and all wanted to take it to the next level. My current girlfriend does it very frequent, at least once a week now. We use realistic dongs and tight secure harnesses. And we’re now using about 9 inches and thick dongs. For her, the bigger the better. I have to admit, it really is the greatest orgasm I have had every time she does me. I am a very masculine man in the military. I say that because this strap on play has my girlfriend taking this fetish to a crazy whole other level. She now has men come over that we meet online. She is the boss when she straps it on…and I love it. She tells me what to do with the guys (go down on them) or when to watch her with the guys. Crazy thing is, it all stems from strap on play. The thought never crossed my mind or hers before! We both love it and wouldn’t change a thing. It’s just crazy what this fetish opens up in your life. I don’t kiss other men, have sex other men, or even think they are attractive, I just simply love c*ck now. Is it just us and our chemistry? Or are other girls like this and think this type of sex is hot? Do other women want this? I just find it strange that so many women are into strap on play?? So I’m wondering if other women also would want to bring other men into the relationship?? I would love to hear some thoughts from other women. Are we just fucked up!?! Lol, or Is this common?

  83. also sa male, which my wife would consider it, made jokes about it before, but thats how far it went…

  84. My husband and I went camping for 4 days and asked for every night! So excited he wants to get a strap on now because he wants more than my fingers. We have a dildo but I think it’s a little too big for him at the moment. I’m so glad he’s finally opened up to this. Any girls who haven’t convinced their man you should keep trying, don’t be forceful, but hint at it, use a finger to massage the area between his scrotum and anus and and maybe toy his anus some with so penetration. Good luck and I hope your patience pays off as mine did.

  85. My boyfriend jimmy loves it! At first he was shy but now he chases me around are house with the butt plug screaming ‘again again’ haha. Next stop….the strap on! 😛

  86. Wow, I stumbled on this over night just searching random things on the Internet and I really did not know this was important in so many mens lives, was such an insight and rather sweet all of you how you all have so my courage to say so thankyou x

  87. I would like to be taken by a woman wearing a strapon. But.. Here in South Africa you do not get woman like this

  88. man its great you all are open about this I was sure you were out there. I moved to this town 9 years ago and the 2nd girl i was with made me. after her i was afraid i would not find another, and i sure as hell was not attracted to guys, it didnt turn me gay. much to my suprize of the next three, two were into it already and the other was not only willing but always wanted to, only was too shy to ask. any of you women out there who want to know how to work your way in. i suggest this to you: start like someone else said on him with oral that moves back and lick like you like to be licked. if you are a bit squeenish try flavored lubes. then work in a finger in like you would like it in you and just take your time and dont get carried away at first. it wont be long and he will be asking you please! my wife of the past 2 1/2 years and i make love 7 days aweek sometimes 3 or 4 times a day. she makes love to me in my butt 2 to 6 times a week. she has major orgasims almost every time she dose me. i have them too with a helping hand from her or myself! it rocks!. One other thing she uses a feeldoe and a realdoe on me. these are strapless strapons that vibrate and she weilds them like she had one all her life. took a little pratice but in a verry short time she got it butt good. and guys there is another side of this… tit for tat…. sense she gets yours.. you get hers more….. all things are legal between a couple in bond of love cuz the two = 1 its a gift from above. that is the main thing that makes us soooo different frome the beast of the field an forest.

  89. I have hint to my husband for the lay few years but he always jokes it away. While having sex I have grabbed, spanked and rubbed my finger tips over the crack of his juicey butt but have went no farther, but I could tell that it turned him on. Although he had asked me to lick his a** I have never done it. I don’t know why but I have been thinking not do this lately hoping it will lead to something more in that area.

  90. Where are all these women who want to try this on a man? Why can’t I find one? Even adds on craigslist hasn’t gotten a reply….Just an exchange of power is how I see pegging, but it seems here is the only place where women admit to such a fantasy…

  91. Well looking at this page all you guys and girls sound very lucky !!!
    I have been an in the closet anal fan for years since I was 17 and I am now 25 years old with a slim build and told ” im not bad looking “I have a bag that I keep in the loft with all my toys that I have collected over the years, ranging from love eggs, anal beads, vibrating butt plugs, a 7″ dildo with suction cup for riding and the big boy an 18” double ender for when I feeling ambitious. I’m not gay just enjoy anal play.

  92. My husband has a lovely ass. When he sleeps on his stomach and just has the sheet over him I fantasize about taking the sheet off and slowly fucking him awake, which I would never do with out consent. Ive told him how much I love his ass and how much I want to lick it, finger it, and fuck it. The first time we tried we had been drinking, not a good idea. I took it too far and he didn’t want to try again. Another time, I was going down on him and massaging the patch of skin before his anus, he was really in to it and said “I know you want to do it, just go ahead”. So I lubed up and fingered his ass and he asked for more. The next night I fucked him with a dildo. He liked it for a little bit. I really want to bend the boy over and take him with a strap on until he blows. I’m so hot thinking about it and I’m hoping he opens up to it. Wish me luck.

  93. woooooooooooow, i like it very much , i really want my wife do it with me, its so good sex, but i don’t know, she we understand it or not, but i really want she strap on me

  94. After reading this article my boyfriend and I decided to try this out. So much for my British boyfriend being so “proper” lol. We found a great website http://www.sextoysforless.co.uk as we live in London now. It has a variety of strap ons and all types of lube. Now he is hooked I need to order a bigger strap on! I like the dominant feeling it gives me being in charge and watching him squirm, he he.

  95. MOST straight man are curious to try it,but its so hard for us to say(“babe suck my dick and finger my ass”).mostly coz we fear you might think we gay and how embarrassing its going to be if you say no..
    LADIES:start it easily with ass licking on blow jobs section,just make it feel natural that you not thinking its an manly but rather you enjoying it..from ass fingers to little dildos all the way to strap on we go there if we feel you dont think we not straight.

  96. Me and my partner bought a strap on last year and so far it has just stayed under the bed! Im determined to use it but hes panicking about being clean. We have an honest relationship and he can talk to me about anything but this is a real sticking point, ive tried telling him that any ‘accidents’ that do happen can be easily ignored but he still wont. We have lots of dildo’s and vibrators to use but he wont even let me use a finger 🙁

    I just want to make him happy x

  97. Ive been with my husband for nearly 20 years. We’ve always had a good sex life, trying new things. He’s been having anal with me for years & occasionally asked me to pop a finger in him. He recently ordered some new toys & I was shocked to see a strapless strapon amongst them!!! Well it was a massive turn on to wear it & we both had some of the best sex ever. I am looking forward to continuing our anal adventures… 😉

  98. Riley,
    You should try writing him an erotic story about the two of you and include playing with his ass. I did this for my wife and as of now she will rub my anus during oral and intercourse. Wrote her another story and now she seems open to the idea of putting her finger in. Little steps…Until I can get her to use toys, then a strap-on, wish me luck as I wish to you!!

  99. Im a very open straight girl and when my bf FINALLY admitted that he liked his butt played with I jumped on it. I love to be dominant! And he just took it in stride. We got a strap on and I fucked him like crazy but before that we just would use toys and explored different things.
    My boyfriend is straight and not even bi-curious lol and what’s funnier is he is a rough and tough country boy cage fighter.
    This article makes me feel a lot better, kinda thought this was something weird that no one else really did! Glad we aren’t alone!
    I love fucking my boyfriend and he loves being fucked.
    I think it makes sex that much better when you can both trade off back and forth

  100. Ok so I *love* doing this to my boyfriend. He is so pretty and so, well, receptive, it’s just wonderful. Its a major power trip for me, especially since I use a very large dildo, I love the way I look wearing it, and I’m so much bigger than he is 😛 Luckily with the strap-on I use the center of the base naturally rests squarely on my clit, it really feels like a clit extension, and I usually have multiple, quality Os in a single session.

  101. Ive had two dreams with impailment. One where a hot chick whos one of ny friends was impailing my behind with a giant strap-on dildo. And abother where two of my buddies were getting the same from there gfs and me and mine were like huh so thats tge bew thing nowadays huh, and i once again got impailed in the bottom, and enjoyed it.

  102. Hey that’s badass that so many of y’all like it, I love it up the ass
    By a woman, my girlfriend really likes it and loves to make me wear her panties and all that stuff.
    I have never been attracted to men but there is something very sexy about a woman taking you in the bedroom every now and then.
    So I love it and I think it’s cool to see so many woman into it, because when I first started liking that people I asked was like that’s gay but I didn’t care haha I’m 22 and I was 17 when I started playing with my ass but ya anyone and everyone do what you do and don’t care about what other people think

  103. I would love for my wife to want to include anal play in our sex life, but she does not seem too interested. I am not attracted to men,but I sure like my Butt played with. And I would let her insert a strap on. but it needs to turn her on, too. We have good sex and she is ok with me masturbating, which I love, but the anal on me part would increase my pleasure levels.

  104. I always wanted my wife to try it on me but she will not even talk about it. I’ve pretty much given up on the idea but find myself fantasizing about a women with a strapon.

  105. Iv always wanted to do this with my husband he lets me use my finger sometimes but only because i like it haha I’m interested in using a dildo or something on him, but I’m waaay to scared to ask him, if i get rejected asking him to do something that i fantasize about …i think i would die or embarrassment! Even though he’s my husband i still have those fears or him thinking “oh shit i married a freak” he probably won’t but im still scared of the possible rejection. What are some other ways i can possibly get him into it??

  106. I want so badly to have my wife take my ass with a strap-on. She’s great about giving me analingus and fingering . . . ooh! But no toys. I have to use them on myself when she’s not around. I’m working on her, though. Please baby, please!

    This straight man desperately wants a woman to make him her bitch.

  107. dudemon 100: NEVER, EVER use someone else’s sex toy without their knowledge and consent, ESPECIALLY if you are using it anally. That is not only a drastic invasion of trust and privacy (and yes, there is and needs to be privacy in intimate relationships, even marriage), but cross-contamination of bacteria, fluids, etc… can lead to some TERRIBLE health repercussions. Women are advised even to have their own separate dildos for anal/vaginal use, and that’s without bringing a foreign body into it. I hope you haven’t ever used another partner’s sex toy like that again. Don’t do it. Ever.

  108. i have used a dildo on myself for some time now used my ex-wife w/o her knowing, first time i had orgasm w/ it was amazing and i was hooked. I now have a g-friend that first fucked my several time w/ a dildo and we have since used a strap on she jacks my dick while fucking me and it is so hot its unbelievable. I am not gay in the least just love great sex. so open ur mind use plenty of lube and relax ur muscles and enjoy

  109. Wow this is such a relief my husband has been requesting this and its brought up so much confusion to me since I’ve never been exposed to the thought but reading this makes me feel awesome and ready to go!

  110. I love your story, my bf and I just started this, and hopfully getting a strapon soon.

    He’s actually the one who got me into it!! plus he’s had a go with a dildo and loved it and playing with front and back at the same time he loves it. Glad we not the only ones!

    Good luck!

  111. Lady, he’s not gay. He’s not bi. Don’t worry about that. It’s all about your hitting his prostate or p-spot. And maybe the role reversal.

    I wish there was a sex act for woman that guaranteed hitting the g-spot and giving them incredible orgasms, but came with a certain stigma, I’m sure most women would understand.

    Here’s a thought, does receiving oral make a woman a lesbian?

  112. My wife and i have a strapon and a vibrating double dildo and we love them. We lay down facing each other, insert the double in our bums then i slip into her front and we both orgasm. all couples should try it.

  113. ahh..i am an athlete and i lov it when my girlfriend does me…i believe its only fair and sexy to explore one’s sexuality..me straight by the way..but the orgasm i get after she does me so lovingly n my voice then gets us both mad 😉

  114. My current boyfriend is an ex athlete and current cyclist. He has the cutest bubble butt in his cycling shorts. I always fondle him in public when we ride together, run or at the gym just because he has the sexiest ass in compression tights. He’s a straight guy and man’s man but he likes it when I play with his ass and I think it’s hot!!

  115. As a straight male I have to say I enjoy and even have fantasies during the day about my gf putting on her strap on and doing me. Guys don’t be afraid to try it, it can feel really good. And women don’t give up asking. Keep trying and you may get your wish

  116. Recently during a massage, my wife rubbed my butt with the vibrator,it felt great,without thinking,i raised to meet it the next time.soon i was on my knees and asking her to insert it. It just happened (or did it) The feeling was very intense,I did all the humping and pushing without any thoughts other than it felt great. She hasnt done it again YET, but,ive been using butt plugs to masturbate every since. im buying a strapon today.I hope she’ll use it. Ladies, if your curious, a massage with some light rubbing will tell you all you need to know.

  117. Some guys are way too lucky. I’d give anything to have my cute little patootie pounded relentlessly by my gf. Sigh.

  118. A couple of months ago my boyfriend asked me to sick my finger where the sun don’t shine. i thought he liked it but aparently not 🙁 it turns me on soooooo much but he doesn’t like it. i really wanna pound him with a strap-on………. but i can’t get him to agree to any ass play 🙁 unless it involves mine. advice??????????

  119. I have enjoyed anal sex with my boyfriend for the past couple of years. But the other day I asked him if he would let me have anal sex with him using a dildo. To my surprise he agreed and since that day he has be bending over for me when ever I want. It is a big turn on. Several times I have even pegged him to a hands free orgasm. I didn’t realize just how turned on you can get a man turned on by pegging him.

  120. Having my girlfriend pegging myself is awesome. She asked one day if I would try it and I said yes and she has been pegging me since. It is an awesome feeling. She never fails to get me off. To anyone who hasn’t tried it I say you don’t know what you are missing.

  121. Everyone is different. Do not force yourself to do something you hate unless you really want your husband to be enjoying himself. If you’re uncomfortable, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing it.

    That said, discomfort fades with familiarity. The more often you’re around it or try it, the less awkward and uncomfortable it becomes. You may come to love it, you might come to just tolerate it, but if you want to keep trying for your husband then persist. If it’s causing too much of a toll on you, desist! Keep honest in your communication with him and maybe you can work out a compromise.

  122. Husband loves this, but I am having a rough time and it’s causing us alot of issues, How do you just get into it, it doesn’t turn me on and I’m going to check out his feeldoe and see if thisis what we need , we’ve tried a couple of times, but it is terrible for me. HOW CAN I GET USED TO THIS< PLEASE< NEED HELP FAST!!!!!!!

  123. This is the yummiest stuff ever. It may take a while for your man to love it, but I can’t imagine any man turning down a good tonguing (after shower & a bit of practical preparation). Fortunately I do love anal myself after many years of not loving it at all, so he saw how intense it was for me.

  124. I love being able to do role reversal with a man I love. People tend to get very insecure about being behind a man, but thats where his g spot..or P spot as it’s called…is located. It just adds to your love making menu in my opinion.

  125. I like anal play. I do not like men. there is no attraction for men. A person who is open minded with sexual activities is not gay. FemDom is wonderful. My girlfriend loves to use toys. my ultimate fanticy is to have a 3some with 2 dominate women. i can only imagin the fun that would be.

  126. My wife and I are just starting to discover the wonders of anal stimulation and so far it’s has been very good. I’ve been married for a long time and never even thought about this but when she started to play with my ass with her fingers I realized it felt really good. So now she’s working me with a dildo and can tell she loves doing it because she can see how much I enjoy it. Maybe a strap-on soon (I hope so).

  127. hi to all , i always wanted it but was scared to ask , now with my soul made i can have it , and she wants do to it to me to . . . .

  128. My fiance and I are the kinkiest of the sorts I should say. We are a try anything once, and if we like it keep it going type of couple. I never had anal done before and when we did my gosh i fucking love it now xD. When he first told me about his darkest secret, I think he was more weirded out about it than I was. I was all for it. I love his ass. It’s so damn mmmmmmmm… I told him not to worry it does not make him queer. I tried it with my vibe and his reaction turned me on even more. So our next step is to get a strap on. I can’t wait. His fetish has turned into mine and i love it.

  129. My ex-girlfriend and I would have strap-on sex four times a year. It all started when we were going to a home show. we had sex all night in the hotel room during the night before. In the morning after our showers I was still horny. We were dressed and ready to leave for the show when I pulled up her skirt pulled down her panties, applied lots of lube. I bent her over the bed and took her ass for a good twenty minutes before I shot my load inside her back door. She complained that she had to start over and get cleaned up. I pulled up her panties and pulled down her skirt. I said no you don’t, just fix your make up, brush your hair that I was tugging on, you will be fine, the skirt will hide it.
    We got on the bus that took us to the convention center that the show was at. About an hour into the show, she leaned in real close and said to me softly.She said “My panties are soaked! In the back the lube and your cum has leaked out.Every step I make I can feel the dampness as my soaked panties, ass cheeks slide back and forth. My Skirt hides everything, but I know, You Know, and I know you know this secret.This secret of taboo sex we did, the fact of my situation as we walk around this show and no one else knows. I am ready to go back now to the hotel. I am so horny right now. The front of my panties is almost as wet as my back because I can’t stop thinking about it and what I want to do to you.” I told her we will leave in a little bit.But we came a long distance to see this show and get ideas for our new home. So I stretched it out another hour.I kept telling her we will leave in five minutes an whispered to her all the nasty things I was going to do to her when we get back o the hotel. It was pure torture to her. I could see it on her face.We ordered room service and spent the rest of the night in bed. We spent a few hours at the show the next day too.She realized That we could of left the show early the day before.
    There is a show that comes to our area four times a year.One night before that show she got horny and decided to try the new strap-on on me. She enjoyed it very much, especially because of the anticipation since we never tried it before but had bought the toy many month earlier.I came very hard that night. I caught my cum in my hand and she licked it all off and swallowed every last drop.So started the tradition of her taking my butt with her strap-on four times a year.I tell her I do this for her, that I don’t enjoy it. (But she does get a lot of cum to enjoy when she does do me.)I told her once in her ear at the show,that”I can feel her cum(lube) dripping into my panties(fruit of the looms). That got her all excited. We left then and had great sex when we got home.She bought me some sexy underwear later on, bananana hammocks, etc. One day she did me while wearing one. I came inside it. Then we went to the show. As we walked around the show she whispered “How does it feel, walking around with your cum filled underwear?” I told her I had a surprise for her. Before we left I went to the bathroom. When we got in the car I told her I bought her something at the show.I told her I will give it to her when we got home if she was a good girl. She agreed. I told her close your eyes and open your mouth. I then inserted my underwear in her mouth. I told her she had to suck on them till we get in our house then I will give her her present. We hit traffic so it took us an hour to get to our house.So when all is said and done
    switching roles, Changing asses, playing games we always use to have fun and good times.

  130. Never crossed my mind in the past. but my wife recently has found that putting her fingers inside me really turns me on during sex. this started about a month ago. well, a couple of days ago we odered a feeldoe strapless and a strapon with a harness. they should arrive within a week and we are both reall excited about our new arrival. i just hope its going to be great for both of us and stick around ( no pun intended)

  131. I’m glad me and my boyfriend can be open and willing to try anything. He said he loves me and would love any kind of pleasure I give him.

    I love guys with a great ass, just something I’ve been attracted to but my ex thought it was gay and I didn’t even dare go near the hole.

    It’s not gay, it’s another pleasure area and it doesn’t matter what your orientation is.

    In fact, I bet gay guys are thinking straight guys don’t know what they are missing out on haha!

    WIth the P=spot, guys can have those incredible heights that we women can.

  132. I need to find a guy that likes getting pounded. For the longest time I thought i was a lezbo for having the urge to pitch rather than catch…then i read a strap on story online and realized this is exactly what i need! its stress relieving just thinking about it.

  133. I had to goad my boyfriend into anal play. I begged him to let me milk him and I did. Finally, just recently, we agreed to try the pegging. Shopping for a strap-on this week. It’s awesome.

  134. I wish this was my girlfriend! An ex suggested it a few years back, but I was scared at the time. Have thought about it many times since, and now I’m very interested in trying it.

  135. I might try her finger but anything else is out the picture. I saw a sit com were this old boy was tearing this girl up. Then when he finish she went in the rr & came out wearing a strap on. Rolled him over and she went to work. Boy walk funny for a week. And he kept saying “man that’s just was not right”.

  136. I have no attraction to anyone other than my girlfriend, female or male, but I like it when she plays with my butt. I brought the idea of a strap on up before kinda jokingly and she got weirded out. The other day I brought it up and she said it would be a good idea. So, I’m looking for a strap on now.

    We’re just human, there’s no shame in having a little fun.

  137. I hate to admit it ! But my girlfriend playing with my ass felt amazing ! She always said she loved my ass and is always grabbing and touching it , we were drunk the other night and I was on top she kept reading further and further down my ass until there was an amazing pressure over my ass ! I couldn’t help but slide deeper inside of her moaning every time she moved her fingers ! I’ll leave it at that, but this is one thing you may think is gay but is well well worth trying out because the feeling you get is like nothing else …..

  138. My ex-boyfriend loved the feeling of my tongue and fingers in his butt. I wish that my current boyfriend would let me try it with him but he thinks that it’s odd. I won’t stop trying to fulfill my fantasy so easily though.

  139. i hope a girl practise with me strap-on and put her fingers in my ass but unfortunately i didn’t find who make me happy with this way

  140. I have to admit that when my “then” boyfriend approached me with the idea I freaked out internally. We never spoke of it again. One day he brought home a huge strap on and I told him that if anyone got that thing it was me. We had a really great sex life and could talk about anything. After an evening of great sex he so lovingly asked me if I would let him try it. I think I felt really strange about it for a long time, but I also was extremely aroused when I used it on him. Our relationship ended but our friendship is still going very strong. I find myself missing those days. When we catch up we always give each other a little wink. He even confided in me that there has never been anything as wonderful as our time together. I am glad I allowed myself to be open to it. Especially when I know it pleased him so.

  141. I wish my wife wanted to take my ass. I am all up for chastity play, strap-on action, and “cleaning up” my mess. But she just will not have it. I am not interested in going elsewhere, I just wish my wife was willing.

  142. My relationship is the exact opposite. He wants it but, I am kind of scared. We have been shopping for a strap on but I don’t know… It seems odd to me. Maybe I’ll like it when we do it? I just know anal hurtsssss me.

  143. i have tried this and it was great. i found someone who was willing to do it and just went for it we both loved it and she really got turned on by it.

  144. i thought my girlfriend would want to. the day i brought it up she gave me a look and smiled. as i thought she was into it, i was wrong. she was kinda grossed out. a few nights later after it slipped my mind a was awakened to cold rubber rubbing against my back… it happend and i honestly loved it. A honest uncontrolable feeling and release! all men should try it and not be ashamed.

  145. I really really wanna do my bf. I have licked his butt several times and he orgasms a lot, but he doesn’t want anything inside. One night we were drunk and I brought a girl home and she put a strap-on but he didn’t want either.
    I have tried my fingers and my tongue and while I’m doing it I get so turned on.

  146. That’s funny my ex-girlfriend loved my ass too and I always thought she was joking when she said she wanted to fuck me in the ass. After reading this I guess she wasn’t ha.. My response to her every time was NO FUCKING WAY.

  147. just a word for all the insecure boys that read this…think about it, every one if us has either felt the unrelenting, cold, slimy glove of doom. most of us have felt the date raped feeling of “the scope” fully inserted into our rectums, and since most doctors are boys (sorry ladies) aren’t you feeling more queer already? This is your wife, or your girlfriend, or Jenny from the block, that wants you to experience that intensity that typically only women can feel. I don’t know about any one else in the room but I can’t orgasm with out direct stimulation, if this is a way I’ll try it..hell in case it hasn’t already been said RIDE THAT PONY!

  148. OMG I’ve been wanting to use a strap on
    on a Man for a long time. I love a man’s ass and use to play with my ex boys behind while giving him head but, never put my finger all the way. Sex is great, but its my fantasy to ram a guy from behind. of course i’ll be gentle until he wants it the way I can give it. I wanna hear him moan and groan even say my name. Oh, I’m turned on thinking about it. I Just have to meet a guy who’s down to go for rounds lol

  149. This is something that will make a relationship grow. Plain sex gets old. It took me forever to open up to my gf about how I wanted her to I guess to call it plugging me or whatever. But when she told me about her all time fantasy about wanting to f**k a guy, I told her how that has been fantasy and now that has brought us even closer. I was always scared of her thing I’m gay or something which I’m not. It made me fell better to here her say it’s not. We have grown some much closer.

  150. I love it. My girl and I do this a lot. It’s such an intense feeling to have ur woman take u. I can’t wait for a strap on. We have been playing with a plug and I want her to actually screw me.

  151. Ok, my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months, and he is very sensual soft and sweet…one morning i was spooning him from behind, and i was super horny. he knew it, he kept pushing his rear into my pelvis and eventually i started to push back and things got hot, i began thrusting into him like doggystyle(low) eventually we got wild and he was grinding on me like a girl in a reggae video, it was hot i have to admit. i also gave him a hand job while i got off on his upper thigh, and my right leg was thrusting into his rear, he loved it! like he was rough a bit and very into it, i was surprized…. and then he shagged me missonary and it was nice…HOWEVER, since that new, hot sexy steamy kinda akward moment we havent tried it again, but i know he thinks about it, it was amazing… we are living in diffrent cities for a month right now, and i will be seeing him really soon, but i want to know if anyone has some advice for me to initiate that experince that again with him, i want to try to please him anal, it turns me on so much its crazy! but at the same time i worry if he might be turned off????? or if that means he is a little bisexual…what do you’all think? 😉 its exciting and new, and very hot. i love this. cheers

  152. Ive fantasized getting pluged from behind for years. Now me and my girl went from finger, to plug, to strap on. and i fucking love it.. I throw some panties on to for the extra thrill of the taboo breaking..

    And no i aint gay….

  153. I like that your boyfriend was open to the idea. =) Practice does make perfect. And I think the more willing the person is to try it, the better the experience will be. It’s nothing weird or disgusting at all. I think the idea of anal scares most men and women when they first think about trying it. Men are mostly hesitant to the idea because people have led them to believe it’s a little gay. Women I think have endured bad first experiences and shut themselves off to the idea completely. Honestly, if you and your partner are really comfortable with one another, anal shouldn’t be something feared. You just have to be very gentle, relaxed, and open to the idea. Otherwise you’ll have a bad experience. My husband and I have anal sex often enough. The first few times were horrible experiences because we didn’t understand that the people in porn actually do get prepped and ready for their takes. o.O Yikes… lol. But after we got it down, it’s been something very sensual and kinky to do spontaneously. As for him, he’s actually the one who suggested getting a dildo and doing him from behind. When I first attempted it, I laughed a little thinking “I’m the man” lol. But once you get started, the girl really gets into it. I think it’s a controlling thing. 😉 You should try maybe having him bent over and jerking himself with baby oil while you make love to him from behind. Grab his hips and do it gently and lovingly. And then maybe, if he’s making pleasurable sounds ask him if he would like you to be a little more rough. =) My husband doesn’t request anal every week. But in the times that he does want me to do it, we do as stated above and he ends up orgasming and loving it. Just do what you’re doing and make it fun and sensual. Your guy may not end up loving it, but he may want to do it on rare occasions if he’s had a good experience in the past. 😉 It’s great that he’s up for another go. Hope all goes well. =)

  154. Bill

    if not done yet, try giving her anal sex and graduate from there, have her to touch you behind your balls when making love…make sure she knows you love the sensation the nearer she gets to your anus… also maybe involve some porn movie watching that slivers to the theme of what you want,

  155. i was introduced to having a finger inserted in me several years ago while having sex, done at the right moment…although a suprise was quite enjoyable and as OP stated us men have regions that can make us orgasm that we dont know about. and hey!! gay men are not stupid – they know more about thier own bodies than most heterosexuals. now years on recently married, my wife has a fantasy of doing me from behind, of course she hasnt been there yet and ive not informed her of my sexual activites from prior relations (obviously) so im currently looking for a strap on for a present for her..im not going to meddle with a plug..its not what she want or fantasies about…just hope to god i like it just as much as she will…good luck all and thanks for your coments..interesting read..x

  156. My guy wants me to try this out. I’m totally into trying new things but I’m a but nervous. Any suggestions on how to start and what guys really like?

  157. My girlfriend and I have tried the finger thing. Last night she inserted a small vibrator and I (thanks to the drinks) begun to enjoy it. She then inserted a bigger one that I use on her and I was scared and nervous. I didn’t want her to think badly of me. She then did the whole thrusting thing and it excited her. I have to say I enjoyed it. Still timid and nervous about it but willing to try again. I assure you I am a straight male but the taboo thing is what is getting me the most. But overall she made the experiance wonderful because I knew it was her and saw her enjoying it as much as if not more than me.

  158. Best experience of my life, tryied it with my ex girlfriend about 10 years ago and just loved it. I had a strap on sent home for her… She wasn’t sure at first but got use to the idea.. We did it many times till the relationship ended. Since that time i had many experiences, by myself (anal plugs), with new girlfriends, with shemale (i had to try the real thing…) and OMG best ever!! Now i’m married man and wife doesn’t care at all about anal play.

    It really turns me on, not sure how to convince her.. Any idea??

  159. It is an amazing feeling. A girlfriend about 25 years ago had a vibrator and put it up my butt when we were having sex, thought my toes were going to fall off. As toys became softer and more real and met more adventureous women I was hooked and pegged. I would like to get it done more often. Unfortunately it is now hard to find a woman who is secure enough to wear one. I live in the NYC are and one who think there would be enoungh willing women …. NOT

  160. Well took me a couple of years to get into the idea from an initial student surprise and breaking down bedpost … common grounds… I think describes it best

  161. I mean a confident sexual man loves a little butt action, not sure on the strap on yet, but we will see. Im guessing so thou as he is a little dirty son of gun, 🙂 and Im his little dirty girlly.
    Ty

  162. A lot of guys yearn for this. Nothing beats great anal. You will own a guy forever if he wants this and you please him this way.

  163. me and my girlfrind have been dating for a year and a half, she let me try anal on her i loved it, then i told her im bisexual and gosh shes loving returning the favor, as am I, men should really “open up” to this idea of women playing with the back door

  164. becareful baby…today butt plug, tomorrow strap on…then the real thing! Some places you just don;t want to go…remember “Curiosity killed the cat”

  165. My wife and I have done the pegging thing a couple of times now, and we both enjoy it. I was the one who brought up the idea. I had a girlfriend who back in the day talked me into prostate massages while performing orally on me and it was fantastic, but mainly I wanted to see my wife get more into our sexual encounters. I got her into anal play a long time ago with the occasional finger insertion, but more and more I wanted to take in further. During an intense sexual escaped after my companies holiday party last year I broke the request to her, figuring I could blame the request on being drunk if she freaked about the request. To my delight when I mentioned it to her in her ear…game on! About 6 months later we purchased a beginners kit from A&E online. The first use was fun, it was small and was relatively easy to take. The latest use started with anal play which was okay, but when she finally put on the harness it went otherwordly. Theres a big difference going from fingers to having your wife behind you hands on your hips pulling you onto her. The mindset is much more erotic, the fell of her being in control, she is naturally a submissive, the wamth of her hips as my bum gets slammed against her, these are the reasons I enjoy it. I would say for me the mental aspect of her taking control and me giving in are what makes pegging enjoyable.

  166. My girlfriend and I just read this and all the comments, we had a bit of a laugh.After we finshed she asked me jokinly if I wanted to try it I first shook my head then i shrugged my shoulders and then I done both at the same time she starting laughing at me and I thourght she was making fun of me but now I realize she feels as awkward as I do. We have sort of tried before but it was with fingers and we where both very drunk (I think.)

    Does anyone have any tips to make it less awkward to talk about and if we both agree on it in the end an easy way to get started??

  167. and to the chick who says your boyfriend is a queer lol….you are in for a rude awakening some day lol hate to tell ya this but everyone has a secret dirty side. Everyone is a little bisexual

  168. I want to try the same thing. After being with him for over a year he admitted to wanting to try the strap on. I’m turned on by it but im normally pretty shy. I also don’t want to hurt him…i wanna turn him on.

  169. I don’t know why he is making such a fuss, as a heterosexual bloke it’s an abiding fetish fantasy of mine to be taken by a woman wielding a strapon. Chance would be a fine thing to locate such a wonderfoll woman wanting to plunder my virgin tush

  170. Am cool its pumped me up… after I red this text.
    But in our country no one knows about this ejaculating manner especially ladies, I may try it in future just to see what taste will have and for fun.

    voltexm

  171. I wont post my “didn’t make it into Penthouse” story, promise.. I will say that while discussing anal sex with what at the time was my gf I made her a deal. She was unsure since I’m rather large (not bragging) and she is all of 5′ and 105lbs. I told her if she would try it for me that I’d be very careful and take my time. Not good enough, so I in a sarcastic remark stated that if she would so would I with a strapon…Bold talk I can assure you, but she called me on it and so trusting what was at that point my wife to be, we tried it both ways…She gave me her ass and I gave her mine…My wife as she is now we can exchange such fun as often as we like and we do. She doesn’t think I’m gay…I don’t think she is a would be lesbian Domme in the least..We are two people having fun, and having it often. If you people are concerned about what others will think, keep your secrets to yourself..But don’t miss out on strapon fun because of what others might think…As always discuss it and trust each other.

    signed…Ocassional fuckee…

  172. For any women or men who may read this and have inquiries about how to approach this:
    First off the act of penetrating is one of dominance and the act of being penetrated is one of submission. Being pegged (having a woman use a strapon on you) is not only very physically stimulating but also very mentally stimulating. This requires a certain amount of trust. Talk about it and set some limits first, also it is a good idea to ‘clean out’ (pretty sure you can figure this out) before you try anything.
    If you are just starting out it may be a good idea to let her explore with her finger while she manually or orally stimulates you. This can get you used to the feeling. There are many positions that you can try when you do get to the pegging part.
    As others have said…this does NOT make you gay…it’s an act between a male and female. And trust me from experience….it’s amazing and can open up new avenues of pleasure for both you and your partner. Don’t try to rush into it, take your time and do it right, you’ll be happy you did. And ladies…sharing this information with you is a big act of trust on his part, and it isn’t as dirty as you may think it is. Just prepare before hand and all will go well. 😀

  173. My girlfriend of 6 years asked if I would try, I said yes, then she got me to wear female underwear.. then there was a suggestion of three some.. which I went along with.. now its all change.. I’ve left my girlfriend, seeing the guy from the threesome and still wearing womens underwear.. trying strapons does not always end in happiness for both of you.. we are still friends but it might open up a can or worms..

  174. Hi peeps
    i have been wanting to do my BF with a strap – on for atleast a year now! and trust me he makes sure that I understand that it’s a NO NO! Well since I was not getting the answer I wanted I went and bought a dildo to see his reaction to it. He liked it all right! First I let him tease me with the dildo and afterwards I thought that it would only be fair if I do the same to him, well I did not get him in the anal, atleast not yet!!! 8=====D

  175. AN OPEN LETTER TO STRAP-ON ENTHUSIASTS from THE EDITORS:

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  176. I’ve done this with a couple of different women. It gives you incredible insight about anal, and makes you a much better lover as far as “giving” anal. It wasn’t until I went through the process of learning how to take a dildo that I understood how to teach women how to take my cock. It’s a real skill, and it’s all that easy to learn. Plus, it’s an incredible feeling. I’ve come this way without having my cock touched. It feels like your whole body is exploding.

  177. I have an office job and my wife is a stay at home Mom. She has ben working out at a gym for a couple of years and is muscular and fit. She is a lot stronger than me and introduced me to strap on sex one night while the kids were away. She surprised me in the living room wesring nothing but her toy around her waist. She pulled me off the couch and hoisted me across her shoulders. Carried to the bedroom she threw me on the bed and ever since that night she has dominated me and I love it. The combination of muscles and strap on always lead to fantastic sex.

  178. My wife has used toys on me before and I don’t think I have ever been so turned on in my life. But now I want here to do me witha strap on and I don’t know how to tell her. She was very uptight about sex when we first started dating but has been more and more open about things as time has progressed but I just don’t know how she will react.

  179. To lunar lindle,

    You are a judgmental whore, go fuck yourself because the male prostate is located in the ass and the most powerful orgasms come from stimulation! You are a loser! I am a straight male model with a smoking hot girlfriend who fucks my ass!

  180. Are you serious? I have had 5 different girls do this to me! I mean at first you think its gay but then you realize, this is with a girl! Not a guy nothin gay about having nasty sex with a woman.what ever your doing

  181. I tried it for the first time today. WOW. Guess my eyes were bigger than my a*s*o*l* because it took a long time to get that rascal up there. My toy was a 9″ latex dildo with a suction cup. After about 30 minutes I finally relaxed enough to allow it to fully penetrate me. I pushed the suction cup onto a chair and did squats on that rubber dick. Oh lord just thinking about the reverberating waves of pleasure that I didn’t even know I could ever feel, pulsating into my rockhard cock is giving me a woodrow that a cat couldn’t scratch.

    For a while I did my squats, loving the ‘full’ feeling. My penis was so engorged with blood I thought I might explode at one point. At last I did some deep breathing and allowed my self to take it to the base. I sat down, nay I was impaled on that rubber dick. I’ve never experience anything like that in my whole life. I just sighed and moaned for about 5 minutes…just waves of bliss. WOW!

    My legs started to get tired so I concentrated on reaching orgasm. It seemed I might be able to cum without touching myself at times but I ended up stroking my cock while grinding against the chair. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same again! 🙂

    So now I’m thinking I don’t want to do this too often. Like I’ll reserve it for special occasions. I don’t think my anus can handle that regularly. As it is I’m thinking it’ll take a few days for my ass to come back together. 🙂

    BTW, to the original poster. Wonderful, well written, humorous confession. I’m glad I googled “Why does getting fucked in the ass feel so good” today. 🙂

  182. After some discussion and some finger-pokery i let my other half use her viberator on me, hit the spot boom. I then told her the thought of femdom, dress up, tie me down and use me was something i had thought about and turned me on. She was reluctant in responding but when she did it wasnt the niave response of well maybe i was expecting.. 🙂 few days later i came in the bedroom to find candles all over her in full femdom gear and a nice flesh-like strap on, she got my length too so “i know what its like” after alot of lube later the baby was in, i was tied down and it was the most intimate night weve ever had… To let someone “poke your poo” as ive heard it expressed, throw all taboo out the window and just relinquish all control to the one you love… For me thats just what i want.

    For those who are new to it, relax.. No really relax nothings fitting up there otherwise! Read around, play around and ultimatly do what you feel safe with. Most important above anything is lube! Sometimes more is better but dont be stupid you dont want that flying in. ( i assure you, it hurts)

  183. I have recently got together with an old flame that was always into stuff, he told me that he really likes to be stuffed up the ass with fingers but has never been stuffed with a dildo….so guess what i have bought a strap on to give him the delight he has waited over 15 years for me to give him… turns me on just thinking bout it so we is gonna have one hell of a night. our motto has always been.. try things once if you don`t like don`t do again but at least you tried. I have and never looked back.

  184. My girlfriend finally talked me into it. I ended up loving it..and can’t wait till the next time she does me in the butt..its the best orgasm ever

  185. I was introduced to this by two women I didn’t like it to much untill they were done with me. I’m not gay. I’m not bi. But there is nuthing like being over stuffed with her baingingmy ass. It fells so good.

  186. I hit the wrong button. Well after assuring her I was straight often she’s just convinced that this all I think about and she can not or is not able to give me what I want. Can’t discuss it anymore. Talk about screwing yourself…. We just can’t make people what We want if their heart isn’t into it. That’s my little story. Patience and make sure you listen to everything said because women will tell you everything. Sometimes too subtly if you get too anxious. Hope that made sense.

  187. A word or note. We done it and not everytime was great. But I would say anything bad, well I’ve always fantasized about femdom. She was so accommodating. We had a blast.pulled off the whole fantasy in spite of unwanted suggestions or requests from me. My point is be patient with something you really want especially with a partner that never thought or dreamed about strapon. She was offset by how often I talked about wanting to play that she thought I was gay. At least bi curious. Trust me im not. There is nothing uglier than a mans ass. To me. But ladies in black or tall boots!! Anyway I talked myself out a future of occasional fun with toys. We hardly touch at all becauseafter

  188. For lunar lindle,
    That input was entirely useless, so let me be the first to thank you for sharing complete incompetence. Go back to playing in the sandbox and let the adults talk.

    To OP:
    Congrats on being able to share that. I never thought about any of this untill last night that I was with my girl and i was under the influence of herbal goodness. Now that I read your confession, I may just be able to talk her into it lol.

    Side Note:
    If you’re a guy and reading this and your first thought is “Put something in my ass? fuck that thats for fags.” I would implore you reconsider your knee jerk reaction to what you have been forced to think. Its an insecurity. If you hace tried it and have found it uncomfortable, well then its just not your cup of tea and thats perfectly fine. But if you have not tried it and react with ” You’re a queer if you do.”, it proves that you are a bit insecure and rather close minded. Try it, it may make your sex life with your partner amazing.

  189. I can tell you that, from experience, being pegged by your woman can be an unbelievable experience. My wife and I have tried it several times, with a glass dildo, a vibrating butt plug and a strap-on. Practice does indeed make perfect, but once you get the practice down, the experience is unreal. We actually did this last night (with the vibrating butt plug) while my wife blew me, and it was the most intense orgasm I’ve ever gotten from oral.

  190. After being married for 6 months, my husband randomly told me his fantasy of being screwed with a strap-on. It wasn’t something I ever put thought into, so I wasn’t necessarily turned on or off by the idea. Now that he tells me about the things he wants me to do to him, I instantly get turned on by the idea. We’ve been doing anal on me for a while, but now it’s going to be a mutual thing.

    Men shouldn’t be so afraid of this and women shouldn’t be so turned off by it. In my honest opinion, it’s as intimate as you can get. If you can’t share that with your spouse, what CAN you share? :/

  191. I’ve had fantasies about anal play with my boyfriend since I met him, and by fantasies I mean fully fucking him in the ass. It turns me on so much just thinking about it that I’m hot just typing about my experience.
    He and I have a very open relationship, and a very experimental sex life. He has fantasies of wearing my underwear, and going down on me after he’s done his deed. He didn’t tell me this straight away, he’s a timid bloke, but it did help that I have equally as kinky desires. To be honest he was reluctant at first, but I rimmed him one day mid-escapade and we’ve never looked back, progressing to his first experience with a vibrator tonight. Honest to god, his eyes looked ready to pop out of his skull when he came, and I came just as hard knowing I’d given him something nobody else has. I’d recommend anal play to anyone who asked, it’s made us a lot closer 🙂

  192. I’ve often toyed (no pun intended) with the idea of being penetrted by someone but have so far only gotten as far as my own finger while masturbating. I’d love to experience a prostate massage though.

  193. You will find that most women will come around to the idea of anal play. Besides they love you just like you love them and all men love to see a woman in ecstacy. The male orgasm is never as intense as it is when anal is involved and your woman will thrive on knowing that she has made you climax harder than ever.

    It can be a difficult thing to bring up with somebody you’ve been with for a while. but Im 24 and ive known about all of my kinks since i was very young. I missed out on so much play because i hadnt told girls about my ideas.

    The girl im with now learned about almost all of my kinks on our very first date. Now im not saying everybody should tell a girl on their first date that they love being fucked up the ass. But it is good to come clean on these things earlier on. Just saves a couple of months of getting to know someone you may not be sexually compatible with. And let me tell you now, if you’re not sexually compatible with your partner, you’ll never be 100% happy with them.

  194. Best thing my wife ever did! Just seeing her strap it on and walk around drives me crazy. I know what’s coming and I love it. The thought of her bending me over and taking charge is great. Can’t begin to tell you how happy I was that she was willing to try it.
    Ladies try some different ways to introduce it. Try to gauge his reaction. Also talk dirty, couldn’t hurt.
    As for you guys who have yet to try, you don’t know what you are missing. My wife and I made a video with her bending me over the bed. I watch it from time to time. Drives me crazy!

  195. So I’m new to the whole anal thing. The guy I’m seeing now is into anal [him being fucked not me]and I have no idea where to really start. I’m kinda a switcher myself so us going back and forth with dominance is fine by me and me messing with him like that i don’t mind so much either, but I have no idea where to start at all. What should I do?

  196. My wife does a strap-on with me about once a month It is weird, but my excitement level is much higher when I am wearing a lacy bra (with falsies) and lace panties. Then, she gets me so excited that I can’t stop trembling for about 5 minute after she stops.

    Her comment is, “I love making you fell like my hot girlfriend”.

  197. my girlfreind was asking me for agers. and then 1 night at campin we had a drink and was having sex, i was on top n then she stuck her fingers in, it felt so weried at first, but she loves it and it makes her feel in control, it dont mean your gay just because you have a laugh and try new things 🙂

  198. me too !!! we have talk about it but he just laughs i think he wants to but dont have the nerves to let me do it hes the kind that acts like hes to much of a man to do that with his wife maybe if i was a lover or a booty call it be different

  199. Bah, look a bit harder. Tim from Boston said his wife wouldn’t do it and asked if there were any ladies around Boston.

    At any rate, on to the topic. My wife does me now and again with the strap on and I love it. Even better (and something I didn’t see addressed) is my wife is willing to fist my ass, knowing how much it gets me off. She has small hands and the feeling of her fist in my ass is indescribably amazing, plus the orgasms are awesome.

  200. Hey gaby!! Your right, a guy thats willing to try different things is deff worth having!! The girl i was with last wouldnt even put a finger in my ass and ive brought it up serveral times! We need to hook up of ypur looking for someone to peg 😉

  201. FriskyWife, I don’t see anybody in this thread talking about cheating on their spouse. Did I miss it? Who said it?

  202. My problem with some of these posts is some of you people saying “My wife wont, any willing ladies?” I think if you are married and what you want to happen to you is out of her comfort zone that cheating is not OKAY! C’Mon, I know it feels good… my hubby loves it and I’ll admit I was a bit putt off by it at first but it is freaking amazing how hard his little buddy throbs. Turns me on knowing that he’s orgasming so hard his legs shake. Guess what, if the person you love can’t do this for you… then find a toy for yourself, wait for her to leave, plug yourself and go to town. It might not be quite the same… but at least you wont be cheating, she doesn’t have to know, and you get your amazing orgasm. Solution for every problem without ruining a marriage.

  203. I used to do a bit of solo anal play (mostly fingers and small objects). Initially I felt uncomfortable talking about this with the girls I dated, never mentioned it to them, and didn’t do it too much. Then just after college I was single for a while, a little more curious and started experimenting alone with some explicitly designed sex toys. Over the course of a year, gradually these were larger and larger ones and just could not get enough. I was having very powerful, body rocking orgasms this way. It took some patience and knowledge, figuring out how to be clean about it (some suggestions above work if you’re good about it). Then, I started dating a girl long-term again, and she took to playing around with me this way too. I’m considered a nice looking guy with a great butt, and she seemed to like it. Eventually she got a really large strap-on, and was fisting me few times as well. Well, eventually we broke up for other reasons and I started to lose interest in that kind-of play. I think maybe my libido is just less nowadays, it just doesn’t do as much for me. Now I’m married with kids, and I don’t really do it any more. I don’t really miss it, though there are some memories there that bring a smile to my face.

  204. I want my wife of 20 yrs. to do me with a strapon, but she says that she would not get into that kind of thing. How can I convince her to try it.

  205. I am a 25 y/o guy, who’s recently managed to get his gf to let him do her anally. and as time wears on she loves it more and more. I get told all the time I have a great ass. she’s quite timid and the thought of her banging my tight ass makes me hard right away. Great role reversal, but being a bit old fashioned, I don’t know how to bring up the topic? how do I conquer the final frontier!?

  206. You guys/gals should be so happy to even have a spouse who enjoys being sexual. Some of guys have wives who pretty much don’t even enjoy sex. Oh my wife loves for me to rub her butt, give her massages, and if everything is ok in her work life, she let me have sex with her… but she thinks she is doing me a favor by laying down and letting me do her. Even though she doesn’t do anything back… it’s like she is a blow up doll.

    I tried to rub her anus once while she was all turned on and she asked me to stop.. so of course I did…

    She wouldn’t even think of fingering me, even though I;ve told her that if you finger a guy while or just before he’s orgasms, it is like 10 times more powerful… but she just sort of shugged, Oh that’s nice…

    So don’t think you have it bad just because your wife won’t do you in the butt. It could be worse.

  207. My guy won’t let me use anything other than my finger. I don’t know what it is if he doesn’t feel comfortable enough, what it is. He says he likes it, I don’t get it. I don’t think its gay and what’s to categorize what’s what. I think any guy willing to try new things is just worth being with.

  208. I am a guy and my ex-wife use to finger my ass while giving me a blow job. I loved every second of it. I wanted her to get a strap-on and fuck me with it, but I didn’t know how to let her know, I didn’t want her to think I was gay. Well after her, a few girlfriends and another ex-wife, I met another and decided I wasn’t going to get involved with another women without telling her what I wanted. So I told my girlfriend what I wanted her to do and she said, well I have never done anything like that before but ok I’ll try it. So I bought us a strap-on and she tried it. She felt funny at first and so did I, the next few times we got more into and she got more and more into it and now she loves being in control with her strap-on, making me bend over the bed, the couch, the chair, on my back legs up and now she wants to start doing me outside like, bent over the fender of the car, bent over the motorcycle, bent over the ATV and of course, she wants to do it up in the mountains. I think I just may ask her to marry me.

  209. KC do the fingering, then slip him something a little more. Start with something just slightly bigger than your finger and work your way up. If he likes the finger, he will go for the toy. You could always watch some videos together or slip him an email with a link to a nice strapon video.

  210. So I really want to do my husband with a strapon but not sure what to do to get him to let me. We have been together for 5 years and married for 3 and I brought it up once before and he said no. Since we have been married he has let me play around there with my fingers while I’m giving him head, but I really want to take it to another level. I am not sure how to bring it up again :(. A couple weeks ago we went to a local sex shop and he stopped and looked at a strap on and it made me wonder if he was thinking about it. I have made him orgasm while fingering him so I think he would like it but how do I get him let me try toys??? Any suggestions?

  211. Do it! We have played with fingers and dildos for years, then we did it … wow! My wife gets an inverted nipple when she gets really turned on and is an occasional (2 x per year) squirter. She put the strapon on, left nipple was inverted. I climbed on top and rode her strapon – she was gushing within 2 minutes! It was fantastic! We don’t do it all the time, usually only special occasions, but it is a great turn on for both of us.

  212. I love it, just wish my wife would do it more. I love when she’s in control and she’s really good at it.
    The first time I was about 18 and my girlfriend at the time used her fingers everytime, but she wouldn’t use toys or anything.
    Then when I was in my thirty’s out at the bar ran into that old girlfriend, got talking one thing led to another back to her place we start messin around and she asked ” did you like when I used my fingers on your ass” I said hell yeah. needless to say she went to the bedroom called me in 5 minutes later and she was wearing a strap-on.
    I wasn’t sure I would really like it seeing that it was bigger me, but I did and still do.
    I can’t wait till the next time she’s in me.

  213. This letter / confession ended with some useful information, but ugh, if those were the actual words she used the first time she raised this subject, it’s no wonder her boyfriend wasn’t interested — the way she talked about it was extremely, extremely corny! Fudge-packing? Come on, who talks like that after age 10? So not sexy. Maybe it’s just me, but I think if you’re going to ask a partner to try something new, the best approach is: try to make it sound sexy. Like something two (or more) consenting adults would enjoy, not like a cheesy elementary school joke. And on a related note, ask at an appropriate moment. I hadn’t considered that aspect of it until I read the comment above saying “It is a very awkward dinner conversation.” Umm, yes, it would be — why on earth would you choose to have that conversation over dinner instead of, say, after some good non-pegging sex? If you want something sexy, ask sexy — not while sharing a pizza.

    Oh, and some advice for the Boston commenter above, the guy who says he’s a jock and is afraid to ask the sort of girls he knows to peg him: This is provoking another umm from me. Have you really not noticed that the sort of women who tend to go for jocks do in fact tend to be quite conventional? Compared to, say, the kind of girls who tend to go for hipper guys? Cultivate a more complex personality, one that can’t be summed up as “jock” (or any one other word) and you will find yourself meeting a wider range of people. I don’t mean to say that all girls who date jocks are super-vanilla in bed but . . . uh, actually, yeah, as a woman who has avoided jocks all her life, I do kind of think that about them. They just look and act so traditional and risk-averse. I’m probably wrong (I hope I’m wrong) but still, I think you’ll have an easier time finding women who share your interests if you aren’t the sort of guy everyone looks at and thinks “oh, a jock.” Read some interesting books, go to some arty movies, stop popping your collar, etc. etc. etc.

  214. Well I am 18 and my boyfriend wants me to do stuff with his butt. My problem is we have never done anything before like that and I don’t know what to do so we can ease into it. HELP!!!

  215. My ex and current wife have both pegged me before and it was great but it was hard to ask. It is a very awkward dinner conversation.

  216. MMMMM my ex did me in the ass years ago a couple times.i loved it.her ass was exit only-and she had a fine ass.i want it again,i’ve been in chat rooms and had online Mistresses that would Domme me and cyberly use a strapon on me.now i’m about to meet my current Mistress r/t.she is a young black Mistress and very kinky.i can’t wait to meet and get my booty buggered.we are both switches so i’m gonna do my Mistresses ass too!MMMMMM

  217. Autoandrophilia:
    “Clair talked about her own sexual fantasies of sometimes wanting to play out the role of being a man in bed. She enjoyed having sex as a woman with men but also particularly enjoyed living out her sexual fantasy of being male with a penis. She particularly enjoyed the fantasy of raping someone else. This was generally… played out with female sex workers who would be accommodating and compliant with the fantasy to her satisfaction.
    Clair was quite clear that although she might run these fantasies in her mind they were just sexual fantasies. She had never wanted to become a man in any way whatsoever outside of the specific living out of the sexual fantasy. She was a very feminine woman, well coiffed and manicured and very proud of her female body. Any idea of ever becoming a man in life was completely ludicrous and laughable to her and she made it quite plain that she was all woman, apart from her sexual fantasy of raping as a man.”

  218. Someoneeeeee HELP IDK WHAT TO DO.
    ANY SUGGESTIONS PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
    I like my boyfriends ass sooooo much and hes not for it at all. He lets my play outside but inside he gets way to uncomfortable and just isnt for it. I like neeed to go in atleast with a finger. HELP PLZ

  219. Had a woman do me with a strap on a few years ago and had the best orgasm of my life.

    I’d love for my wife to do it, but when I ask her to do it, she replies with a “you really want me to do THAT?” and I end up feeling odd and dropping the subject.

    Any ladies around Boston interested.

  220. hey, im a 20 year old guy and ive just started using a butt plug but have explored the area before, im trying to tempt my girlfriend into strapons etc but shes having NONE of it!!! ive explained its normal and even shown her some forums like this but all i get is “its not in my comfort zone” which is fine but if she could at least try it once!!!

  221. OMG! I REALLY want to do my husband with a strap-on! But he has already warned me to never go near his ass! How can I convince him to at least TRY! Not saying to start off with a strap-on, but maybe a finger! When I give him head I like to lick and suck on his balls but he gets all wiggly if I get to “low”! Help, I just want to try but have no idea how!?!

  222. I really have been wanting my girl to do this it is my ultimate fantasy, but she says she is uncorfortable with the idea i use to talk dirty to her about doin this roleplay but not so much anymore even thoughi think about it all the time wish their was a girl out there that could fullfill my fantasy heres being hopeful.

  223. I would let my wife use a strap-on on me. She has already fingered me in the butt while we are in a 69 and I am eating her out. I really enjoy the finger and think I wouldn’t mind a strap-on at all.

  224. OMGgggg im 18 and my bf is 18 and i LOVE his butt lol idk what it is but i always play with it and he lets me play because he knows i love it but he doesnt let me go in he thinks to much…what should i do!

  225. One day I was at home and doing some things. I came up in the bed room and see a strap on in my wife night stand. I can not think about what she want me to do. She came home and I ask her about the sexy strap on. My wife say to me was one day see want me to do anal sex on me and I say to her o yes I love to do it with you and so my wife want to her bed room and put the strap on on and get sexy up for me. Then she call me to the bed room and I want in and You grils and guys can think about what we did in the bed room.

  226. So how can I get my wife to go for it…Have tried several times to get her to perform anal intercourse…Maybe time to new playmate?

  227. Im a teenager, and me and my boyfriend are just beginiing to experiment with anal play. it is a bit messy at times, if you finger as far as his prostate (poop on the condom) so I’d say you might want to get a douche. its a little thing that squirts water to clean the insides for cleaner play. if he has a hairy ass ( my boyfriend does)then you need to get him to wipe incase he isnt so clean there, sometimes they cant help it if there hairy. My boyfriend likes it when I ever so gently play with his bum hole when were having sex, it really gets him going when I do that. at first, just try playing with his bum through his boxers, then progress to a condom on the fingers with a little lube (or latex gloves) and play with it whilst giving him head. then when your comfortable with that try one ort two fingers and massage his prostate, the moans reeeaally turn me on and it makes me feel in control. only after your this far do I suggest you try toys and strap ons. Were not that far yet, but anal play is ALWAYS in statges and you cant rush it. good luck 😉

  228. Hi Boston jock going to college in Boston here. I am frightened to death if i ask a girl to finger me or do me with a strapon everyone will think i am gay. Where do i find these awesome girls?

  229. After telling my boyfriend about the idea of sticking a finger in his ass for about the first three months of us dating here and there by the fourth month i was in the kitchen and he was sitting across from me he has basketball shorts on and my feet were feeling on his dick all the way down to his ass..later that day he said that felt good and asked me to lick and finger his ass…honsestly it was a little akward when i did it but i love fingering his ass actually i was able to stick two fingers in his ass last week…..i would love to put on a strap on and just fuck him

  230. i’ll start off saying that i am a man, and i have had a few experiences. I’ll never forget the first time a friend of mine I slept with slipped her finger in my ass, we went from her finger to some beads to her trying to put a dildo she had but it was way to big. She then put the idea of a strap on in my head but we stopped fooling around before we could act because i found a steady girl to date. after moving in with her i found a strap on in the closet and i started thinking how great it would be if she wanted to use it on me. After a couple weeks i finally said something and she said that it was a gag gift someone got her at a party then one day she had a much smaller and curved one to hit my prostate it was only about 5 inches long and pretty thin she would fuck me so hard with that little thing but it always left me wanting more but we broke up before she wanted to get a bigger one and the one i found was way to big for me. after i broke up with her i had an older sugar moma and she would always tell me how nice my ass is and how she never liked a guys ass so much and then she asked if she bought a strap on if she could bend me over and wow i can’t even begin to explain how happy i was it had been such a long time and a couple g/f’s later since my ex used to fuck me. we went to the sex toy store and she had me pick one out i picked out the thin 7 inch one and we went home and tried it out she warmed me up with a blow job and a thin vibrator and then put it on and had me on my belly and it felt like she was really going to town on me but she said that she wasn’t going that hard or fast so i was amazed. I had to cut that off because she ended up messing with a bunch of other people and i wasn’t going to risk getting an STD. Then i meet another girl and she was really dominant and i kind of hinted things to her and one day i was on my hands and knees trying to plug something in behind the bed and she grabbed me by the hips and started “dry humping me” if you will. I got so hard feeling her slam her pelvis into my ass and i couldn’t hide it. she said she just wanted to see how it felt to be me and then saw my erection and said wow you really liked that hugh? and then came the anal play she got so into playing with my ass she used to tie me up face down and put toys in me and then finally one day she got a strap on and tried to fuck me but the one she got was to long and hurt so she had to hold her hand around the base and couldn’t pound me like she did when she wasn’t wearing one. She ended up leaving to finish her masters out of state and i havn’t had any since. I am trying to get my current girl into it but she has barely licked or fingered my ass. she has never experimented before and i got her into being tied up choking me and tying me up. I’m still trying to figure out how i’m gona get her to fuck me with a strap on but i’ll figure it out. any women out there have any advice on how to get her into it?

  231. Me and my fella were talking about dildos and butt plugs the other day. then he mentioned getting a strap on. I said “you really want one?” and he replied saying yes, then you would have some control. I think we maybe getting a strap on soon!

  232. well i wish my gf wud strap up more often! I love feeling her in control and inside me for a change.

    Sometimes it can be sore, but then we just do something else and put the toy away for another time!

  233. Im a fella and the wife and i do this. I must admit i felt a bit ‘gay’ at first but after a while them feelings stopped. My wife says she really enjoys doing it coz it makes her feel in control, and i love the feeling, theres no way to really describe it! We started off with a finger at first, leading to me trying her dildos, then eventually i bought her a strap on. We dont do it that often, maybe once a month but when we do its fantastic!!!
    Most guys who are comfortable with their sexuality want to explore new experiences and, although at first, may feel a bit awkward doing this, will soon end up loving it!
    Next time your down there giving him a blowjob start rubbing his balls and gradually get lower and lower to the ass entrance. if by the time your gentally rubbing his there he doesnt complain just very slowly and softly ease it in, he will love it, just give it a go!

  234. Im so glad there are other people out there that have done this. This is a totally new experience for me. Last night me and my boyfriend got a bit adventurous, we got in the 69 position and he was licking me out while i was licking his balls and penis. I then started playing with him back entrance. He seemed to really like it. So i decided to get some lube out and stick a finger in and he loved this. So I carried on and then decided to get my vibrator. All of a suden he got on all fours and asked me to put the vibrator in him. I was abit dubious of doing this all the way, but he absolutley loved it. I then began to enjoy doing it to him. I never in my wildest of dreams thought i would ever do this to my boyfriend. But it was amazing. He moved to the spooning position then on his back, wow I have never seen a guy have such an orgasm. It really turned me on. He then did the same to me but not as much as it was my first time. He then confinded in me and admitted hes done it to himself before, but has always wanted a girl to put a dildo in him. After reading all of your messages, I now want to try a strap on.Thanks all for putting my mind at ease. I though it was really wierd for a guy to do this, but its obviously not. Thanks

  235. Caitlin,

    you sound more homophobic than men,If he trusts you.To do what he does to you.Provided your anal.What is wrong with role play ?

  236. My girl talked me into it to and I love it. I have bin doing it for years and to this day never wanted to be with a guy. Not that I have any problems with bi or gay people but its just not my thing. One thing I have to say is the feeling of it is out of this world and I will never stop.

  237. Ok, I secretly want to do my husband in the ass, but I know he will be totally against it. It’s a dark fantasy of mine as we have talked about it in the past and he has had a finger up there but nothing more. How do I get him to open up to it? I LOVE anal, and would love to do him but don’t want to wierd him out about it. any suggestions?

  238. Good to be back on this site. ( 1 yr ago was the last time i was on here) but i cant help but get so turned on with some of these stories. But here i am 1 yr later and i still cant get my boyfriend to let me f— him in that tight a$$ of his. Just looking at his juicy a$$ makes me want to run and take a bite of it. Its so beautiful i wish i knew how i could get him to open up and let me in;)

  239. my wife used to do me back there and i loved it and still do but as we got older she doesn’t like doing it anymore and i still want her to do me. whats a guy to do? cheat? do it to myself i just want it done.

  240. Tony H is right.

    Wanting to have mind-blowing orgasms is not gay. Prostate stimulation will produce that for you.

    It took me awhile to start being able to have a good orgasm with toys, because I was uncomfortable taking things back there. After trial and error though, I eventually figured out how to help get myself off.

    The last girl I dated was the first one that I was ever comfortable with playing with my ass. But when she first started, OH. MY. GOD. Just a few fingers and a hand-job, and I was climbing up the walls. I came so hard that I was almost yelling. After that, we tried dildos, and eventually a strapon. The best part is that after I cum, I am still rock-hard and I can turn around and have sex with her. She got really turned on by the domination part, as did I, especially when we immediately flipped roles.

    Just keep an open mind and a light heart about it all. Be patient and explore, because for me, it didn’t happen right away. Once you know what an orgasm feels like WITH prostate stimulation, you will wonder why you hadn’t tried it sooner.

  241. I have been reading the posts here and the women who have men who are sexually adventurous, you are blessed indeed. To me, the beauty of a committed relationship is that with your partner, there is freedom to do whatever is comfortable for both of you.

    I never hear anyone say that if a woman receives cunnilingus, she is a closet lesbian. Then again, the stigma for being a lesbian is less than the stigma for being homosexual. What goes on between two consenting adults is between them. If they like it, I love it for them. If a man wants to experiment with anal stimulation, that does not make him gay. Some women worry that “playing with their man’s backdoor” will create a bisexual being or awaken desires that they can’t deal with or actively support. The thing that people fail to realize is that anything outside of a committed relationship is cheating. It doesn’t matter what sex it is with. Cheating is cheating. If a man loves you and respects you and the relationship and the life that you share, he will communicate his feelings with you. I feel that a committed relationship is where both people should be able to express who they are and what they want. Anything less and you are cheating yourself.

    I had 2 boyfriends who let me play around with the backdoor, to different degrees. I felt honored that we were able to share something special. Some women are not opened minded enough to understand that sex is for the two people in the relationship. Fantasies are not just for one person; they are for both. Sometimes we need to indulge each other’s fantasies. It is a beautiful thing to have someone to share your fantasies with; someone who loves you and doesn’t judge you.

    I feel that if a person is really uncomfortable doing something, their partner has no right to bully them into doing what is uncomfortable. However, sometimes we need to compromise and venture out a little bit; try different things. Oftentimes we want our mate to do things but when the shoe is on the other foot, we balk.

    I am very happy for the women who have men who are open and open minded; I am also happy for the men who have women who indulge their desires.

  242. I, like a fool brought the damn thing and we even laugh at it . Oooh ,but one night, we sucumbed to our wants. didI love it ,yes, will I do it again, yes, just remember lots of lube, we have been married for 11 years , no children, guess why?

  243. Years ago I was fooling around with an older married woman and she kept trying to finger me , i always protested. One day i let her do it and was amazed.Since then i tried toys and fantasized about strapons for years. My last gf and my current gf are totally into it and i get pounded on a regular basis.You cant even explain how unbelievably intense the orgasms are.KEEP ON PEGGING

  244. I can’t wait for my girl to give it to me. I’m 24, she’s 22 and we’re both very sexual. I’ve been playing with my ass for many years but always solo. She has been fiddling with my ass for the past few months and I’ve been eager to please her. Haven’t gotten past her finger yet, but I do have a toy that she knows of and she started sliding it up and down my ass yesterday. I got hard instantly despite the fact I came 5 minutes ago. I even said “I want you to fuck me now” but she didn’t hear it proper and when she asked what I said I just said nothing. Shy. 😉 Anyway, can’t wait for her to peg me so maybe I’ll start the conversation by buying us both plugs for the hollys. And it’s fantastic to read that there are this many women out there that want to do this. Made me stop thinking I’m a nutter. Cheers!

  245. I wish my girl was as adventurious as you all I usually get is the old missionary pos. she never wants to try anything thanks for the story and good luck if you can talk him into it he will eventually like it I can personally attest to that. ROK St.Louis

  246. my boyfriend and i are going to try using a strapon for the 1st time. we both really love this idea. i would just like to tell people that if your not completly sure about doing this with your partner i would say just talk about it more, the more you talk about it the more it will seem normal and you will be more open to the idea. and you should be happy that your partner is open with you about what they like. you should respect that and try to understand why they like it. because it doesn`t mean your boyfriend is gay or that your girlfriend wants to be a man. it just means they like strappons and they want you to try it with them. i tell everyone thats trying something new in bed to all ways try it three times… if the 1st time suck wait a week and try again it will most likely keep getting better the more times you try it. 🙂 wish you the best of luck and hope i helped some one out.

  247. My husband was a little shy about the idea at first but with the aid of a bottle of white wine and a cheap pair of handcuffs
    he soon got into it and even asks for it from time to time. I alternate between blindfolding him and forcing him to look me
    in the eyes while thrusting, such a turn on for me! If you want your marriage to work you both have to give and take – so to
    speak!

  248. Sorry Johnboy, you just dont get it. My husband takes it regularly off me and its the domination that turns it on. I have large titties and he finds having them dangle over his face while banging his bottom at the same time orgasmic. Boy-on-Boy does not have the same effect!

  249. anal is for woman not men, if u like it in the ass then your no better then gay men, no matter if it aint a mans cock theres no difference so if you say u like anal then you need to come out of the closet cause your homosexual..

  250. henry Says:
    June 12th, 2010 at 2:45 pm
    My wife and I did it last night. I’m no virgin. Married 11 years we’ve done this on and off since we got married. We just haven’t done this in maybe a year.

    I wanted to throw a question out there to the ladies… and the men that have been pegged.

    Afterwards, after I’d had a huge orgasm from her massive toy, I felt “owned.” I felt that I was definitely a possession of my wife’s. >>> I’m not saying subservient or submissive, just an incredible loyalty.<<< I was her boy. My trust level in her and love for her was off the charts.

    Here's my question, from the orgasm, or the penetration?

    ——

    It is both but mostly the penetration.

  251. My girlfriend of 2 years and I have been exploring ass play for several months, starting with her sticking a finger in there during blowjobs and massaging my prostate. Things escalated recently when discussing our fantasies and I mentioned her doing me with a strapon. She was completely into it. We haven’t bought one yet, but she does occasionally tie me up, blindfold me, and put different objects in my ass. It all feels great and is extremely erotic for both of us. Can’t wait until we buy a strapon and she bends me over and gives it to me!

  252. wOW. Ur a lucky girl… just few minutes before I found this article I texted my bf “Im gonna buy a dildo (strap on more specifically) for you”.

    Hes muslim and very veryyyyyyyy strict about those things.

    Ive been fighting for 2 years now and couldnt get him to please me with that.

    He got loads of personality traits that tells me hes bisexual but due to religious matters doesnt want to accept it.

    He’s fairly attracted to guys but he doesnt realise. Instead of spooning me he prefers to be spooned. I got my own dildo which I use for myself and lately he’d been curious but keep saying “bad things about the dildo” and how sinful that is.

    He finally touched it on me. And uneasy I dare to tell him that I wanna use it on me but with him lyin down, quietly. I promised him I wont ask him to like it either to speak if he doesnt want. Just to let me do it. Speechless after all he finally lied down and closed his eyes. Just before I got my orgasm he started to move his bump and nearly got his orgasm in the bed.

    I thanked him and had been now 3 times we’ve tried but I wanna go further.

    Surprinsingly, he just TEXT ME BACK: “OK”

    Let’s see how he likes the fact that it wont be a small dildo like mine but a strap on. 😀

  253. JW (and all the ladies out there), I think you should keep exploring with you boyfriend. I’m sure, when you find the right stop, he will love it. My girlfriend has stimulated my prostate a few times; and every time I came uncontrollably (wasn’t even touch myself)… it’s a strange, yet very pleasurable sensation.

  254. I have never wanted anal sex play of any kind. I tried it in my early years and it did nothing for me. When I was married, my wife wanted me to penetrate her back passage. I did this once but neither of us enjoyed it.

    Any woman who asked to penetrate me with anything would receive a polite No. It just does nothing for me and I speak as one who has engaged in many different sexual acts and with multiple people and MMF and so on.

    Mutual respect for boundaries and what pleases are the basics.

  255. i think every guy should try it… my man asked me one day… he was realy shy… he said 9 in a laughing tone but i knew he was going somewhere with it) .. maybe we should get a strap-on… at first i was a bit unconfortable..but more i thought of it more i was getting exited…!! Now we use it all the time!! i love it.. he loves it.. and we are willing to go much further… i dont think any of this is gay i think its more Trips you want to try!!..

  256. Jason – it sounds like I am on the opposite side of your situation. My husband has given me hints that he would like me to use a strap-on on him (I did go so far as to purchase one, but we have never used it). My first problem with it is the fear that if I do it once, he will want it every time, which leads me to my second problem – what I fantasize about is a man dominating ME in the bedroom. I suppose in an ideal world, we would openly talk about this and arrange some sort of trade-off (I do you tonight; you do me tomorrow, etc.), but so far I have been unable to share my fantasies with him.

  257. I have been married since 2001. I am very kinky. I have always wanted my wife to assume the dominate role/role reversal in the bedroom. I have even purchased a strap on and anal toys and have asked her to try them out on me. She has only used the strap on twice and only after much insistence. I am not gay or bisexual. I just love a dominate woman in the bedroom. I don’t know how to get her to do this. I have hinted around it for years, then last month I finally got so frustrated that I told her straight out. She still hasn’t gotten the message. Can anyone help me out? I don’t know how to get her to step out of the straight sex routine and live on the kinky side for a while. Im very nice looking. I have women hit on me all the time. I have never cheated on my wife and I do every thing i can to make sure my wife’s needs are taken care of, but I can’t get any relief myself and its very frustrating. I need some ideas to get my wife out of her shell. I don’t want to live in fantasy land and jerk off forever.

  258. I agree Lucky Lady…Sounds perved to me. Sorry. He needs to choose which road he wants to be on..He is the selfish one.

  259. So glad to find this forum. My ALPHA male bodybuilder boyfriend shocked me when he told me his biggest fantasy was to wear some stringy panties be dominated with a strap on. I’m very open minded sexually, but felt a little uncomfortable at first. Imagine a 285lb muscle man in thong underwear, face down, ass up… waiting for little slender 5’10, 130lb me to give it to him with a 8in black dong… Lets just say I was pretty nervous and decided a few vodka sodas were needed the first time we tried this… and … it really wasn’t that bad.
    Now fast forward 8 months later… We probably use a strap on once a week or so, me on him, him on me, sometimes with just our hands, sometimes in a harness. We talk dirty to each other about being dominated.. he pretends to make me give him a blow job… and I might handcuff him in bed and sit on his face.. We spank each other.. we tease each other… He wears his man panties one night to dinner.. I might forget to wear mine another… ECT.

    Nothing wrong with any of this if you ask me. Im glad we can talk about our fantasies together and act out some. For those who are afraid of the whole idea… just keep talking about a it and be sensitive to each others feelings as well as sexual desires.

    good luck!

  260. Help me i have got all the does but she is not keen just yet…. i will wait for her to make her mind up when.. but how can i make it sound keen to her?

  261. She plows me all the time i love it. She is so cute when she puts the leather on starts whiping me and just butts the 11 inch all the way in wish we thought of it sooner

  262. ^Ah jeez… Do you know how many guys out there would do anything for a girl who actually wants it in the butt?

    You should get a kinkier boyfriend, that’s what.

  263. my boyfriend has a gorgeous perky ass and i always fascinate about giving him a rim job or fucking him with a strap on but he absolutly will not do anything involving anal
    he won’t even anal me and its my biggest turn on. what should i do?

  264. A quick recommendation for gentlemen interested in receiving some backdoor action from their ladies- start slowly. Buying her a strap on, lube and arranging yourself on a towel as a welcome home from work present will most likely result in her being damned uncomfortable. I love giving it to my man, but we also eased into it, using smaller, handheld prostate massagers at the same time as oral sex, experimenting with each other and focusing on the pleasure. Let her know that you think it’ll feel amazing, and that that is an experience you want to share with her. If she cares, she’ll be interested at least in making you feel good. Have her take the initiative- buy a toy or two and (Good quality) lube, put them somewhere discreet, and make sure she knows about them. Give her a chance to get used to the idea. Wait a bit to see if she brings them out, and if not then introduce them during during foreplay and watch her for reactions. Patience is key! If she’s into some power play dynamics, why not cuff yourself together and give her your body? Anyways, good luck and great pegging.

    T

  265. I’ve used a strap on with a few guys. It’s best to buy the most expensive, as the cheaper ones don’t have the best harness, and that, for good fucking, is essential. The shape of us girls don’t fit a strap on too well, and we need the harness to be strong and tight. If the cock is not moving with your hips, then you’re expending a lot of energy for nothing.

    I’ve a bi friend and he frequently wants to fucked with a strap on. He likes it when he’s on all fours sucking a guy and I’m giving it to him from the back. Of course, a lot of men don’t go for a strap on experience, some only want to fuck us girls in the ass and not reciprocate. But some guys once they’ve tried, felt all the sensations attached to using a strap on, really like it. Some have told me it makes their orgasms really incredible.

    I’ve also used a strap on on several women, girls quite often like it.

  266. I’ve recently been introduced to strap-on play with my boyfriend… he’s absolutely LOVES it, which I didn’t 100% expect. BUT, the biggest surprise is how much I enjoy it…

    It gives you a sense of power.. Role reversal is an amazing thing and can be transforming.

    I found this website for strap-on lovers. It’s like a social network for people just like us!!

    It’s http://www.SocialPegging.com/

    100% FREE so try it out. 🙂

  267. holly it seems to your boy friend dose not want it but if you tell him what the prostat glans can do he would more then likely let you you got to read up on it and you well know what to do if you lived close to me i would let you do my butt all day i’m not bisexwal dut i do enjoy leting wemen have my butt if i can put my penus in them i can let a women put there strapon in me i do enjoy puting my butt in the air and let a women hite it i like it it fells veregood to me and it gives me anul orgasums.

  268. I asked the girlfriend to do this for me, and out of love she did. At first she was at unease thinking that I might be gay or somesuch. It was relatively early on in the relationship and we were only begenning to explore our sexuality. I explained that I’d messed around back there with a toy that I’d bought and realised that it felt damn fantastic. I openly admitted I also like to be physically dominated by her (or rather had fantasies of such). I took a risk in telling her this, and doing so definitely brought about a weird vibe between us for a while. However, we already had a good degree of trust established between us, and only for that it certainly could have ended there.

    She decided to give me what I wanted, and the first time it was a disaster with a horrible smell. Second time it was uncomfortable and I got annoyed that I was not getting any satisfaction from it. Third time we were drunk, she got in to the swing of it, and when she could see the fun I was having, she began to loosen up about the whole thing. It took patience on her part as well as mine to get the art to it.
    She did not get off on the idea nor the physical sensation for the first few times.
    It was only when we did invest in a proper strapon + dildo + bullet viabrator that she could begin to get some good physical sensation from it. She did admit though she quickly likened to being the dominant partner sometimes and that it got her aroused in ways never experienced before.

    A year and a few months on from that we often look back and laugh at how naive we were about it all.
    It doesn’t seem like that big of a deal anymore.

    If you’re a guy reading this and wondering whether to let your girlfriend try this on you… I’d recommend reading up on the prostate and playing with it yourself. The only thing left stopping you now are probably insecurities and homophobia, and if so, they are the cause of you missing out on a hole load of phun.

    If you’re a girl reading this wondering what the is wrong with your boyfriend… I ask, what is wrong with you?

  269. Oh, and Jessica, you are not in any way selfish, and he is an insensitive asshole to even contemplate getting a “friend” to help him get off if you are having trouble understanding. If he honestly feels like that is a solution, rather than communicating with you and working things out, or fuck, sacrificing his desire for his love for you, then he is not worth your time. Been there, done that, sister, and that is a shitty thing to do to someone you supposedly care about.

  270. I know that I am the most privileged woman in the universe, but my husband LOVES me to play with his ass. He has and never will be bi, but he loves how it feels, and both of us are very open to new experiences in our sexual life. We have touched and tasted every single part of each other, and when I say “every” I mean EVERY. I was not very keen on the idea of playing with my boyfriend’s, now husband’s, ass, but knowing how much pleasure it gives him, and how grateful he is that I love him enough to try, makes it much easier and infinitely more pleasurable for me. If you really love your man, then talk to him about how it makes you feel to think of doing him like that, and let him tell you why he wants it and why he thinks it would be pleasurable. And one more thing, I know it sounds funny, but try doing it by yourself. Grab a pillow, fold it in half, and go to town. Imagine yourself as the dominant party, giving it to your loving partner, and I guaran-damn-tee that you will be wet as a waterslide in moments. Most of all, don’t think too much about it. It’s not about what it means, it’s about how it feels, for both of you. Good luck! 🙂

  271. I’ve always wanted to do this..my boyfriend never lets me play with his butt 🙁
    I always cup his cheeks or play with his balls but whenever I try to inch closer he gets mad.

  272. Redme, you sound like the kind of woman I would love – peg me hard, sounds lovely. What shoild I do to encourage my wife? Any suggestions gratefully accepted.

  273. Yes, Jessica, you are being selfish.
    Peg him hard and he will luv you more.
    Besides, with his history he could go back to the real thing back there, so you need to be competitive with a big strapon that WILL NOT GO LIMP!

  274. My husband is bi sexual he used to only be with men but then he met me and the rest is history. He really wants to do the strap on thing but it makes me uncomfortable. he also likes anal with me receiving he doesn’t get that either. He wants a fufilling sex life but I’m too uncomfortable to do any of it, he’s asked about a “friend” to have his way with which gets a big NO. Am I being selfish?

  275. I’d love my wife to use a strapon on me. I’ve even bought her one but she seems to not want to know. I’m a lot bigger than her but I’m sure that she would enjoy it once she started. I have had a vibrator in ther before so I’m not that tight. How can I encourage her? Any suggestions, please!!!

  276. @ben mello
    Easy on the solid foods that day works for me. (I tend to stick to soups and salads… and alcohol!?)

    Have an bowel movement an hour before or so. Wipe yourself down before you end up in bed. Bring a towel.

    It is the down side of this sex act, but if you’re clean, it shouldn’t be an issue.

    Good luck!

  277. DEAR STEFAN, IF YOU LUBRICATE PROPERLY AND BEGIN BY INSERTING SMALL THINGS – LIKE A PINKIE OR A THIN, TAPERED BUTT-PLUG, YOU SHOULD BE FINE. DON’T JUST TRY TO JAM SOMETHING BIG UP YOUR BUTT.

  278. I AM 17,AND I HAVE A QUESTION,FOR THOOSE WHO HAD STRAP-ON SEX: DOES IT HURTS THE FIRST TIME?I WANT TO TRIE,PLEASE ANSWER,ANY SECOND REACTIONS CAN HAPPEN?BLEEDIN OR OTHER?

  279. My girlfriend has been pressuring me into doing this for a really long time. She even bought the strap on and everything. After awhile I began considering it so I decided to masterbate one night with a dildo up my ass to see how it feels… it actually turned out to be an amazing orgasm. But when i pulled out the dildo there was some shit on it… basically im open to letting her do me with a strap on but i dont want her to pull out and there be shit streaks on the dildo… thats just nasty. Any suggestions?

  280. The first time my ex asked me too I felt kind of weird about it. But then seeing him arch his back, hearing him moan, I got so wet. Since I’m married I’m hooked.

  281. @Jonathan. You might start with at discussion about “G” spots and how men have the equivalent “P” spot. It’s all about the nerves and stimulation. I think that direction doesn’t scare a woman thinking “OMG, my boy is gay!?

    Go from fingers to dildos and once she’s comfortable with a dildo in there maybe she’d like to have a free hand and having her strap it on. It might/will take time. You’re changing a big mindset. Some women don’t even like to acknowledge they’ve got an anus never mind, that you’ve got a super sensitive anus. (I really don’t think women can get the same excitement from anal sex as they don’t have the ‘same’ nerves there. I don’t know.) But once they know how sensitive it is for you… it’s all up to their willingness to please you.

    Keep it clean and she’ll have nothing to object to.

  282. Has any one got any easy way of getting the subject across to the wife .. And getting her to do it with out to much presur on her

  283. @ boboskee, I see your worry. But does he like getting blow jobs too much, or regular intercourse or ??? I really won’t worry about it. It’s just part of some kinky sex play between the 2 of you. If he does like it too much, well, it’s him liking it with you.

    I love intercourse. I like getting blow jobs. I like going down on my wife. And I love it when my wife pegs me. I trust her.

    But If I was going to cheat, I don’t think I’d be asking someone to peg me.

  284. ive deffinatly wanted to do this with my bf…we talked about it a few times and i really love playing with his ass and he loves it too… but im scared he might like it too much?

  285. Wow, that’s a really cool comment. Re: your question, maybe it isn’t one or the other, maybe it’s both, plus a lot of gratitude that she does that for you. Maybe knowing that she has the power to not do it at all, or that she could hurt you if she wasn’t careful, but instead makes it an incredible experience for you just leaves you feeling awed by her. You guys are lucky!

  286. My wife and I did it last night. I’m no virgin. Married 11 years we’ve done this on and off since we got married. We just haven’t done this in maybe a year.

    I wanted to throw a question out there to the ladies… and the men that have been pegged.

    Afterwards, after I’d had a huge orgasm from her massive toy, I felt “owned.” I felt that I was definitely a possession of my wife’s. >>> I’m not saying subservient or submissive, just an incredible loyalty.<<< I was her boy. My trust level in her and love for her was off the charts.

    Here's my question, from the orgasm, or the penetration?

  287. I waited thirty years after I first saw it in a movie when I first asked my wife she didn’t want to at first but now we do it two or three times a month. due to back injurys I am left with reduced feelings in my penis. but when she pegs me it’s like it was before,hard intence orgasm. the added thrill is she loves it and useally has up to ten or more orgasm while she’s doing me which i love. It has put the thrill back into our lives and no i have no urge for implants our to go to the local truck stops i just think it hot and sexy to see my wife wearing her (cock) and waving her finger at me and saying it’s time to bend over baby

  288. ^I’d say that happened because your ex was a closeted transsexual, ams, not because you “turned him into one” by pegging him.

  289. Please be careful ladies…my ex-boyfriend and I did this alot! Then it turned into him dressing up like a woman…sneaking out and meeting men at truck stops to give BJ’s and now he wants breast implants and only likes anal sex! It was fun and kinky at first but then it took a turn for the worse. We did it for about 4 years and it destroyed our relationship and broke up. BECAREFUL because it does change your relationship!

  290. I want to do this to my boyfriend but whenever we talk about it he is very adamant that he will never let me do it. The thing is he has let me use my fingers and I could tell he really enjoyed it, he even let me use a vibe plug which seemed uncomfortable but he still appeared to like it. Whenever I aske him about those instances he says that he didn’t feel anything and only lets me do it b/c I want to him to. I know he is lying. I have told him that it doesn’t mean he is gay and that alot of men like their prostate stimulated. He just is so difficult about it. I rreeeaaallly want to do it I don’t know what will happen if I can’t fulfill this fantasy I might quite litterally explode. His ass is so perfect and beautiful I want to fuck it. Help me please, I need advice.

  291. Looks like EM & Lo need to have a matchmaking site from people who like to peg. I am a single girl w/a strap and no one to strap it to! Like ships in the night, we may never meet!

  292. Good confession, now my turn!

    My husband and I are very sexual and have commited a vow that we will try anything once as long as we both agree and trust each other. After a few drinks he agreed to be tied up and be dominated by me, little did he know I had bought a strap on the day before!

    If you have a strong marriage then surely anything goes!

  293. Good article, though I could do without silly terms like “peen,” “vajayjay,” and “fudge packing.”

    It’s great to know that more women are free from stereotypes about men and anal play. Lots of straight men crave receiving it, but fear negative reactions. For a lot of us, a woman like this is a dream come true . . . she loves male ass like straight men are mad for female ass.

    I’m a strap-on virgin but my wife is into licking and fingering me. I’ve been trying for years to convince her to strap one on, but she has a phobia against toys. Lately, though, we’ve been role playing from time to time with her as the doctor and me as the patient, and she has said she can see using a dildo or plug on me as part of this scenario. So my hopes are alive.

    Most of my favorite memories of sex with girlfriends before I married and also with my wife have to do with anal play. I couldn’t live happily without it.

    So good for you. Love that man’s ass!

  294. Me and my wife tried this once and we are both hooked! It is an amazing feeling and it really turns her on. It started when I wanted to fuck her in the ass and she replied “Only if I can fuck your ass.” Needless to say I said ok and 3 years later she still fucks my ass and we both love it!

  295. You know, most girls start off using their fingers, and if they have long nails just wear gloves. I told them what I wanted and it worked well. Sounds like your boyfriend didn’t enjoy being your science project, though. But, it seems like you never considered finding the gland with your hand and providing direct stimulation. Why would I want some inflexible foreign object inside of me when I could have a finger that seeks out and stimulates my prostate directly? 😀

  296. my wife bends me over and loves it.. I was unsure at first but gave in to he and really ended up liking it more and more now she calls me her little butt slut:)

  297. My husband is going to let me fuck him in the ass and I so cant wait. I also brought up the idea about us getting a double sided dildo and fucking both our asses at the same time…soooo effin hot. There’s so much to be explored…I think I can make this marriage last forever if we keep things spicy so he doesn’t feel the need to cheat

  298. Couples you don’t know what you are missing if you don’t do strap on sex. My wife and I both love it. We use both regular dildos and double dildos. She fucks me about once a week.

  299. my guy actually let me do this to him on several occasions. we started with a small vibrating toy and then moved to a silicone vibrating dildo. he moans so loud and seems to really love anal. i get off just by doing this to him and we now have many toys for the anal play. some times i will lay down on my back and he will stratile my face and i will suck him while pulling the dildo in and out of his ass..its amazing sexual experience. sex has only gotten better since and we have been together now 6 years and going strong..very highly recommend anal!!

  300. HI I am a male my g friend and i bought a dildo and played togather first. then she played with my butt a few moths later it was a slow task but eventiuly we bought the strap on and omg wow it was nice i loved it and she did too. best orgasm i ever had very sexy i ugge every guy to try it once and yes for anyone with doubts i am very hetro.

  301. my guy and i were dating for like 2 years when i asked if he would ever consider letting me try anal sex with him…and he said maybe..well then i talked him into looking at the local sex shop and he actually found one he said he really wanted to try to we went home and i gave him oral first and then rubbed lu

  302. I recently discovered the pleasures of P massage thru my urologist who just happens to be a woman. That is weird enough and a long story. During a rectal exam, it felt very different when she hit the prostate. I actually thought I was going to come right there. I am glad I didnt because I would have been embarrassed. It did arouse my curiosity. I would like to try it but I cant ask my wife of 32 years. I just know she will get grossed out and ask if I turned gay. I can only say to guys; if your lady wants to do it, let her.

  303. My wife has done this many times. She first brought it up and we bought a fair sized dildo and took it home that night and give it a try. Later we found a strap on and she’s used it a few times.I love it. It really gets the juice a blowwing. I often use the dildo for masturbating now, alone or with her watching or joining in. I may have a bit of a bi side to me, but this never adds to it, I just love the feelings I get with that rubber deep inside.

  304. …Now I’m wondering how the “Johnny method” could be worked into a Dove soap commercial…you know, the one where the woman says “It makes me want to siiiing!” Heh.

  305. Verbal communication is the most over-rated sex and relationship management tool. Logical persuasion never turned anyone on.

    You have to seduce your would-be butt-buddy’s ass. Male or female, MOST people are resistant to the idea of taking it in the butt. Some try it and remain resistant. Others are hooked.

    Here’s how you stick it in someone’s butt, male or female:

    You do it incrementally. Start in the shower. Do a butt-crack proximity test – place your hand ON their crack. Did they squirm or squeal and slap your and away? No? Ok, green light.

    Soap up their butt with the blade of your hand – no pokey, proddy fingers yet. Did that go well? Yes? Then proceed. Massage the outside of the hole – gently and non-abruptly – with the tip of one finger. Still no resistance? Didn’t think so. Gently insert soapy pinkie-tip. Then whole pinkie.

    Then drop the discretion scharade – turn ’em around and bend them over. Insert two fingers. Now it’s on. Asshole security has been breached. The hardest part is done.

    Perform these steps across multiple sessions to avoid spooking your partner if necessary.

    So, all you people who have brought up buttsex verbally and heard, “no, because that’s degrading/gay and I’m not a whore/fag,” try it my way instead. I guarantee a higher success rate – and if you’re not totally satisfied with the Johnny method, you can stick it in my butt!*

    *women with strap-ons only. men do not qualify.

  306. From the OP after frequent pestering and laying down funds:

    “Are you sure you want to do this?” I asked him. “I only want to do this if you’re comfortable with it.”

    Really? Really??

    Alovec is on top of it with: “Don’t push, make sure there is an understanding that there are no judgments, that everyone is comfortable, and most of all that it is pleasurable for you.”

    Almost.

    Most of all that it’s pleasurable for him, for Pete’s sake. Do all women like receiving anal? Didn’t think so. And if it got brought up to me more than once, that’d be enough of that.

    Enjoy though. And don’t friggin’ forget that you females can coerced a lot from men. Right up to where they feel manipulated. I get asked all the time after saying no, if a past tense event (non-sexual) was okay. Still no.

    Make sure he’s feels better in the LONG run during your insatiable desire to experiment on him.

  307. I dated a woman who was a US Marshall, 6′ tall, very feminine/sexy, well toned/muscular, and she loved receiving anal sex literally every day.

    One night on the phone we’re kinda having a sexy talk, and she said she wanted to get a dildo and fuck me up the ass with it, and went on about how she was gonna tear it up.

    Frankly, I was startled. But somehow, it was raunchy enough of an idea that left me with an erection throughout the remainder of that long conversation. Regardless, I shut down the idea. She pouted about it for a minute and then said, “never mind.”

    She’d bring it up from time to time and we’d make jokes about it, but I just felt awkward about it. So, one day I bought a booty plug and masturbated with it in there, and boy, what an outrageously, gut-wrenching orgasm I had. I had no idea.

    I never let her dildo me, however.

    Some years later, I’m married now to a (different from the one mentioned earlier) woman who – when we make love – we’re like deer caught in each others headlights. It’s just an amazing relationship in that regard. We never seem to run out of wonder with each other sexually.

    I went on a business trip, and she came out at the end of the week to meet me. She told me she brought along some “special” toys for us.

    She can titillate me to no end, and leave me gasping for breath. I’m actually very shy even with her after 8 years together. But she finds a way to make me surrender to her sexually; she takes my display of vulnerability and coaxes me into a confidence beyond imagination. We’re the exact same way in that regard.

    So, without any warning, after giving me a long, deep massage, she started tonguing my booty hole and then stuck her dildo up my butt, slowly but deliberately, and I let her have her way.

    Life ain’t been the same since!

  308. There are so many complications about strapon sex! Strapon sex should add to the sexual life of the partners. All the complications are unnecessary and just deprive the person, male or female, from additional sexual pleasure.

    I wish i had a gf who would consider strapon sex 80% of the times we have sex. I love that she enjoys being the penetrator, and me on the receiving end.

    bim

  309. Try to let her understand that this has nothing to do with any of homosexuality, sadism, masochism, transsexuality, or slavery.

    It is only exploring both sides of sex: Her being dominant/masculine in sex (not necessarily out of bed) and you being sub/fem in sex (not necessarily out of bed). Try to help her not be shy of revealing the masculine side inside her.

    We have to understand that not all people love strapon sex at the same degree.

    bim

  310. I am a guy with the opposite problem, i want my GF to do more anal play with me, when we first started dating she was more into it, with rimming and ass play with some toys. I bought her a strap on, and she was excited to do it to me, and I was excited to receive it. I find it truly pleasurable, and have huge orgasms from it. Now she doesn’t seem so keen on it, I think don’t want it all the time, once and a while would be nice. How to get her interested in my ass again?

  311. alovec, You’re very true that strapon sex is mainly about sexual pleasure, at least for many people like you and me. For some others, it is also about sadism, transsexuality, etc. For me, it is an androgynous feeling. I hope you explore more and he lets you do him in the ass. There is nothing to be shy of, except the traditional view of sex.

  312. i have ALWAYS wanted to do this to a man. Even reading this article made me incredibly horny, but I’m having the same damn problems as the author. My current boyfriend, whom I love so much, is open to a ton of different things in bed but will not let me play with his ass. I love his soft skin there and the supple firmness of his ass and I try to just ease against his crack but he just doesn’t want it!! I nudge against his grundle or whatever the thing is called, but he seems to sense where I want to go and clenches his yummy little cheeks together.

    I love him so much and I don’t want to push it further bc im afraid he’ll feel inadequate or hurt that I’m not completely satisfied. But it also kinda feels like a disappointment that I’ll never be able to explore this with him and maybe NEVER will because I want him to be the man I spend the rest of my life with. I also have the desire to do this to other women but I don’t think he’s open to introducing another woman into the bedroom either and I would never do it behind his back. I’m sitting here wetting my panties with just the thought but unlike most of these posts my boyfriend isn’t open to the idea in the slightest. Should I just give up?

  313. This is so cool, I have never even thought about doing this to my boyfriend but now I cant stop thinking of the right way to bring it up. My boyfriend and I are both very straight, very sexual, and very open. It doesnt have anything to do with being fem or dom or gay or straight, for us it is all about pleasing eachother and finding new things to take our pleasure even further. We take turns being in control and love to experiment.

    (This can be used as advice for how to get a girl to do this)
    He was the first one to initiate anal play, while I would blow him he would lightly and subtly push my hand down, first it was just his perineum. I had never touched a guy there before so it was strange but exciting. I got very into it because I saw it turned him on which in turn turned me on.
    After about a month of blowjobs with that kind of play he pushed my hand down further towards his butthole. At first I wasnt sure what to do so I just gently rubbed it. He would grind it against me so eventually I started slipping it in. Just one finger. I love to feel his prostate grow before he climaxes.
    Then after a while I started licking his perineum, then finally his butthole. Sometimes he lies down and I do this but we also do it from the 69 position both enjoying oral/anal pleasure.

    I think guys who want their girls to go further with them should try this slow and steady approach. Don’t push, make sure there is an understanding that there are no judgments, that everyone is comfortable, and most of all that it is pleasurable for you. It makes me feel so much more sexual and confident when I know my guy is enjoying what I do to him.

    I will try to see if he will let me do more, I will try keep you updated! 😉

  314. my guy loves the bondage. a finger in the ass he likes. he wants to try a strap on. i’m nervouse about getting one because we have been there alot. the sex store. i want to do it. but, i also hate how i look after gaining 40lbs in the last 5 years. i was only 115lbs. what should i do ? he thinks i’m sexy no matter what. how can i feel the same?

  315. My wife and I have been married over 30 years and just recently found the pleasure of strapon sex. The rush of her putting on that strapon and filling me up is just so hot. I have never had orgasms so intense. There is nothing gay about it. Take your time and use plenty of lube. The trick is learning to relax and reverse the natural tendency to clamp down. If it hurts, stop. Once you learn to relax the feeling is like nothing you have ever experienced.

  316. @Jay from Denver: You might want to have a look at Dan Savage’s weekly column, (Google it, it’s at “The Stranger,” a Seattle paper online) if you look through his archives, I know I saw something about where people could find like-minded friends…or, you could write to him. It’s a really great weekly column he writes, and would probably answer some questions about how to find what you are looking for.

  317. I’m all for the whole pegging thing, and want my girlfriend to try it, but i must say, ^^^ that’s kinda gay.
    pretending you’re a female and getting your prostate toyed with are very different things…

  318. i really love my normal life as a man outside the bed room, but indeed i love to be the woman in the sexual relationship, strictly in the privacy of the bed room. i love crossdressing, strap on sex and all that make me feel like a real woman. but my wife won’t agree.

  319. It is women like annie that are fantastic. I understand the fear of it leading elsewhere, but I have been with men before and have no desire to do it again. But I do have a strong desire to find a woman turned on by using a strap on.

    Problem is, it is difficult enough finding an honest, open woman who is sane and loyal. Then, ad to that finding one who is sexually adventurous and of course attractive.

    I am an attractive young male, but I have little patience for most of the “drama” as we say, from women, so I rarely date equally attractive women. If I could just find a network where open minded, low-maintenance women enjoyed these activities.

    Please don’t get me wrong, I am not chauvinist, hell if you think about it this gives women equality in the bedroom. Anyway, I am rambling. Any advice on how to locate women into this would be appreciated

  320. Unfortunately Jay, this is the problem we all face. Few women are open to sex, especially when it comes to strapon sex. They fear that dildo today will bring a real cock tomorrow 🙂

    The other reason (and this one i agree with them) is because strapon sex is often allocated with other lifestyles such as feminization and s/m (besides homosexuality/bisexuality that was just mentioned).

    With these fears in mind, it is not strange to see most women reluctant about strapon sex, even if it gives them control. In my opinion, the best way is to isolate strapon sex from the other lifestyles. Being a man who loves to explore all things in bed does not necessitate being a transgender 24/7/365. It doesn’t either necessitate being a masochist.

    With time, when people better grasp the difference between androgyny and transsexuality, strapon sex would become normal to them, because androgyny itself is normal to humanity.

    bim

  321. Hey everyone, Every girl I have dated I have brought this up to.

    Not a single one of them was delighted by the idea, and only one of them actually did this. My question is, where can I find women who are into this?

    I have no idea how to find a woman who actually would be turned on by this idea, and the thought of a woman who would actively seek this out is my biggest fantasy.

  322. Don’t know if this will help. I haven’t heard about prep for the guy here. It can be more enjoyable for us guys if we are “ready”. By this I mean, don’t eat heavy, before, and gone through some clean up behind the backdoor. Doing this can help make it more comfortable, and if he runs an enema to clean out, first it is preperation cause thankfully they are small, second the sensation can be sorta well interesting and third it helps to loosen up, mentally prep for the plunge. Finally it is just cleaner.
    Once you are all clean why not start of with some foreplay- a nice rim job to kick off the mood- ladies the fingernails can hurt a lot so make want to run a manicure to get them cut back short. Finally patience- and getting him to relax, once I learned to relax and be cool with it- the good times were rolling.
    Now you can try a double sided tool to get you all both involved, and think about a dilation kit, comes with several sizes tools for just this occasion.
    Also try to talk before hand and see if he can be more talkative during. For me that is when it turned around, when I went for it and relaxed started moaning and talking about how good it felt- dirty talk done right is a great way to encourage. Hope this helps you out.

  323. I read a blog from oldguy but i dont see it anymore.thanks for the advice.Since I am still exploring with pegging and I don’t think my first experince was that enjoyable for my wife as it was for me.She seemed really concerned of hurting me. the strap on she had was a little to big so we orderd a starter one from babeland with the video bendover boyfriend. I hope it helps us with differnt positions and ways she can reach orgasms while doing me in the backdoor. if there is any women who can help us with other ways my wife can cum while doing me would be greatle appriciated.I haven’t cum yet either.but Ihave only had vibrator once and my straped it on once but it was a great time and I can’t wait for are toys to come next week.

  324. Got to try it with my wife this past month and really enjoyed it
    Its tough to explain, I was relaxed when we tried it and it felt good, but it was also the idea of exploring different things sexually that turned me on to the idea
    Who cares what other people think, if you like to explore, do it

  325. Wow all you guys are so lucky to have a womans who wants to do this to you. I’d give anything to have my girlfriend of seven years be into something like that as many of you girls are. Makes me want to display my contact info.

  326. Many couples today are into strap on sex. There is nothing wrong with that, except when we try to use it from other goals, such as sadism/masochism, or transsexuality. All of this is because strapon sex is still new and people fear it might lead to homosexuality. I don’t think it would necessarily lead to homosexuality, unless our intention from it goes besides the fun of it.

    Everybody has a masculine and feminine side. I see nothing wrong or even strange in a woman penetrating her man. Only people who can’t be secure with the two sides inside him/her, and only these people try to allocate strapon sex for other things like sadomasochism or transsexuality.

    tattoo, your bf gets excited by merely looking at you, maybe because he notices some masculinity in you. Many men today want women that help them live both sides of themselves, the feminine as well as the masculine, the submissive as well as the dominant. For instance, i love to be masculine in look and behavior out of bed, but quite feminine or even the woman in bed, and love to have a woman who is my counterpart.

    It’s cool that you ordered your strapon and make it an integral part of your sexual life. This should become a normal sex between every couple, and hope we start we see women chasing men for strapon sex.

    bim

  327. I have a new boyfriend after getting divorced last year , & he is a very sexual man . He talked about having dreams of me using a strapon on him several times , I think he was hinting around most of the time . But it turned me on . So recently we talked about it , while he was out for the day i did some online shopping & purchased a strapon & other toys for us to use .I was so excited to order one i paid for 2-day shipping , & now i wait for my delivery today.I am so nervous & scared to do this but at the same time i am so very excited & turned on . he also likes using vibraters on me ,It’s great. After being married at the age of 18 & for so long with the same man, i have found there is so much more , My new man is younger than me 7-yrs , But he says i turn him on just by looking at me .
    & now that i have read other comments about husbands & boyfriends enjoying they’re lovers using a strapon is such a turn on . I cant wait to try it .

  328. no one pushes people to do anything we ask for it if they do it then good and if they dont feel as if that is not for them then so be it. its something that we would like to share with the people we lay next to every night thats all it is and as far as being gay i have and always will be attracted to women and thats it.

  329. I’m really not a fan of people badgering and pushing others to do something they don’t want to do in bed. Especially with no sense of concern for what will actually feel good to the other person.

    All I can say is be careful what you wish for. Plug today, gay tomorrow.

  330. Gregory, I hope your wife gets into that, and I don’t think it’s difficult since she is open minded.

    For me, I would love to have a wife who mostly prefer strapon sex. I prefer this over vaginal sex, and would love her to do me almost every day.

    bim

  331. I would love to have my wife do me with a strap-on. Unfortunately, she thinks that it is too gross. We have been married for 12 years and I think that someday she will come around. In the last couple of years, she has come around to several fantasies of mine, including allowing a stranger to watch us have sex. Anyway, I love my wife more than anything and if she never comes around, she never comes around.

  332. Single bisensual male here, chiming in to say that here in my area I am not sure which web sites to post a personals ad for partners who would be willing to explore. I’ve been ridiculed and snobbed too many times to come out to a stranger I find attractive.

    Where can an attractive, intelligent, bisensual guy search for love?

  333. Reading these posts has been great, esp to hear what normal people have to say on the subject. I also would love my gf to do me with a strapon, so far she has spanked me and fingered me but I have not pushed the subject of the strapon – though really would like to.

    I love the intense mental aspect of the role-reversal, ie giving her that control. Although I am a ver straight guy, I love the fact that she can have that intimate control over me – this would also extend to having her make me wear a pair of panties under a formal suit – once again it is something no one else knows about but is intensely intimate.

  334. has any body a way i can get my wife to do me in my ass ,, without turning her away or off me ? i love my wife and would do anything for her ,, but lately i have this crazey idea of here of doig me in my ass

  335. Thats funny because im the same way! My boyfriends ass is so yummy and perfect but he rarely lets me finger it.. But when i do its so amazing i even got him to let me stick a vibrater in his ass i know he loved it.. Is it weird if i wanna lick it? Cause i do and i have 🙂 only once and it was in thr shower lol i wish he would let me f… Him in the a$$ with a strap on … Right now its outta the question to him.. But im workin on it;)

  336. your storys and reploys are good ,,ive asked my wife lately to do me in my ass ,,why i dont realy know and she has ,,dut she hates the idea and realy lets me know when we are at it etc ,,i would have though that some wemon would have loved too be asked to do this ?but i gess i was wrong ,,PS not gay or have any plans too BE sorry.

  337. tell her you would like for yall to host a toy party and invite some of your good friends to break the ice and make it fun so she wont feel uneasy me and my wife hosted a few and we had a blast. just a few people over have some food and drinks and have the host so some of the product. and asks her to buy a few things to use on you

  338. I’ve read through the discussion and have almost tried everything to get my wife to just even think about toyin with my rear…still nothing I do find it ironic that I can lick, play and stuff her rear with all the toys in the world and yet she cannot return the favor. help

  339. Hey its been a few days but i told her what i wanted her to do and it was great. it was the best time i had in a long time. she was a little uneasy at first but she came around we are going to try a few more time and try to incorp.it into our sex life

  340. I love this too, but hope women do not have that much complications about strapon sex. Most of us men love strapon sex for its sexual pleasure, but for women it is another thing.

  341. My last girlfriend loved to use a strap-on with me, it was her idea at first but as I warmed to the idea we experimented with Analplay, I love the idea of giving all the ‘power’ over to a woman & reversing the role in the bedroom 🙂

  342. this is fantastic!

    i bought my BF a strap-on for xmas, because my wrist gets tired and his ass is hungry. we haven’t gotten around to using it yet (the hecticity of the holidays!), but i’m looking forward to it.

  343. Cam,
    Ask her to help you find your P-spot, and that you want to know if it will rock your world like you have heard. Nothing more, nothing less. I would save the “in control” conversation for the post game follow up. Baby steps.

  344. Just tell her that you like to explore all your body, and that you also like to psychologically feel being controlled. Sex is not just a physical pleasure, but also psychological. There is no need to have any complications about sex.

  345. i had a conversation my wife about that very thing and shes open to it iam 28 and just wanted to try other things in the bedroom i love the idea of my wife being in control and giving it to me.but she does not understand why it such a turn on any ideas on how to tell her.

  346. I’ve always enjoyed anal sex with my partner very much. Many months back my girlfriend while giving me oral started lightly brushing my anus with her fingers. As the months past it progressed to slipping a finger into me. This went on till we purchased a beginners strap on. The first experience was a failure not because of the intent rather the poor quality. We both wanted to explore the notion of a strap on further and purchased another that was slightly larger and of a much higher quality.

    After a few weeks of experimentation with various positions and different lubrications we finally found a few methods that bring us both immense amounts of pleasure. Let me state that I’m not homosexual and have no sexual interest in men. Though I have to say that in the 15 years that I’ve been sexually active nothing makes me cum as hard and long with so much force as when I’m being taken from behind, my partners hands holding me firm and just giving it to me. She finds great pleasure in the control aspect as our roles are reversed and she controls when and how we both cum.

    Sex is so much better if you have an open channel of communication as can discuss honestly your ideas, desires and limitations. All I can say is give it a go. In the end (no joke intended) it may not be your thing (and again) but on the other hand you may just find your sexual satisfactions are taken to a whole new level.

    Daniel – Australia

  347. Ms Kristen,

    Your post is very beautiful but I hope most women have this open mind about pegging. Why to blame men? A simple browsing on most pegging sites clearly shows that men who are into pegging are about 30 times more than women.

    Your husband’s situation is similar to mine. I have been only fingered by two of my ex. Although i love being pegged almost every day, I do not like big ones. I prefer the woman to pound my butt but with a small cock.

    I think every woman should peg her husband or boyfriend at least few times with different dildos to see if she really loves it. I guess most would.

    bim

  348. Interestingly, it was my then-fiance, now-husband that brought up the idea of anal-play to me. Of course, he wanted to penetrate me– which we experimented with and I’m still on the fence about, though open to further exploration– but surprisingly to me, he quite liked it the other way round as well. We haven’t actually pegged, since he’s sort of on the fence about it, but I’m more than willing to try it if he decides he’s comfortable with it. I think it would be an incredible turn-on; what can I say, the boy has an amazing ass.

    I’ve given him p-spot orgasms with my fingers quite often, so I think it’s more the size factor of using a strap-on that he’s iffy about. But I did get him an Aneros as a half-joking birthday gift; he later told me he’d used it and it was pretty great. Me being hesitant about receiving anal sex, it’s actually been encouraging to me the more he’s been open to.

    Also, for the fellows who are wondering how to broach this secret desire with their ladyfolk; why not just try talking about your fantasies with your gal and listening to some of hers as well? After our initial conversation on the subject, which was very fun and enlightening, not to mention trust-building, my husband and I periodically have checked in with each other on the subject. It’s been a great benefit to our relationship, and a good way to broach new subjects.

    Encouraging her to open up about what makes her excited– which most women will probably appreciate you taking the time to do– will make it easier for you to do the same. And it won’t be as scary as just broaching the subject of pegging by itself.

    Plus, I’m sure some women might find it an interesting diversion from the more commonly expressed male desire of wanting to do anal play on her. If she’s worth her salt, she’ll recognize that you wanting to be penetrated by her is a good thing, not a bad one! You’re clearly a fellow with an open mind.

    She might not be comfortable with the idea, sure, but if you explain to her your reasons as to why you’re interested in trying it– including talking to her about the prostate if she’s not familiar with that particular use of it– should probably go a long way. And don’t expect someone who’s conservative in bed to change over-night. Remind her that there’s no such thing as a ‘gay’ sex act, if that seems to be the problem. Obviously, you’re asking her because you want it to happen with her. And be honest, let her know it was hard for you to bring up, but hopefully you did because if you want her to be honest with you, you know you need to be honest with her and walk the walk.

    Bottom line: Be honest, be clear about your hopes/reasons/expectations, and remember to take her desires and concerns seriously. If it’s gonna be a long slow road, bring it up every so often, but don’t pester. And make sure you’re willing to make some of her fantasies come true as well 😉

    Good luck, lads!

  349. I love the woman who enjoys strap on sex a lot, and she can come hard while using it. Fortunately, more and more women today are using strap on sex with their boyfriends or husbands, and enjoy being the penetrators.

    bim

  350. I wouldn’t label or be against you for any reason. I don’t do that to people.

    What people like in bed is cool, as long as they and the person they are with are into it. I know enough to know that I like some things other people may not, and I don’t even really give other people’s preferences, if they are different from mine, a second thought. Everybody is different. One should never be judged by what kind of sex they like, as long as it is consensual.

    It was good to straighten that out.

    Take care.

    🙂

  351. Madamoiselle,

    You don’t disagree with me.

    When I said “What pleases us in sex is all good, even if what pleases one person does not please the other; that’s quite normal.” this does NOT mean forcing at all. I didn’t mean couples, but people in general. That is, all of what I meant is that we should be “tolerant” with each other’s sexuality. For instance, you should not be against me because i love being on the receiving end of anal sex. Nor should you label me as feminine or gay.

  352. So, Bin, only “wives” use this form of sex as a form of “feminizing” their men? And although you like it, you DON’T like women (wives, I guess) who do it for that reason, which appears to be most married women, who enjoy this? I don’t get it.

    You also said: “What pleases us in sex is all good, even if what pleases one person does not please the other; that’s quite normal.” I HAVE TO DISAGREE with this. NOTHING should be done in bed unless both parties agree to it and enjoy it. I agree there is a learning curve when you try something new (bondage, anal sex, certain types of power play, oral sex, even normal intercourse, in the beginning) but one partner should NEVER force or coerce the other into something they don’t want to do, and no one should do anything which they really don’t like, just to “please” the other. I am not talking about long-term relationship “Obligation Sex” which is common when you’ve been together for a while, everybody gives in and has sex to “please” their partner from time to time, when you know they really need it, I am talking certain repeatedly engaging in certain ACTS which one or the other DOESN’T like.

    I’m a “wife” and although I have nothing against this type of sex play, and know people who certainly enjoy it, my Man and I don’t partake in it. (So, that isn’t the reason I am questioning you.) In fact, I’m usually a LOT more submissive than he ever is in bed. (he’s NEVER submissive, unless you count his liking to just lie there during some blow jobs, which is really fun for both of us. It’s the closest I want to get to Topping.) There is a huge difference between consensual power play and one doing something one REALLY doesn’t like more than “to try it.”

    As for Power Play, Being the Bottom is a LOT less work! LOL! At least in my opinion. 🙂

  353. Dear Enrique,

    What you have is what I am looking forward to have. Would you please tell me the key to your success? I wonna know how did you convince your girlfriend. Just tell us everything please

  354. OK. Since the woman’s (physical) pleasure was mentioned again, I’ll give the shameless endorsement (again). My wife says the Feeldoe dildo rocks because of the simultaneous clitoris and G-spot stimulation. So needless to say, I feel good knowing that she is being satisfied on many levels while bending me over.

    BTW, as far as I know, we do not have strap on sex for a dom/sub appeal. It just feels good for both of us, and not our intent to make it our identity.

  355. Ms Elizabeth,

    I am not judging anybody nor stereotyping. This is what i’m actually against. Stereotyping is also when women expect us to be transgender just because we love strap on sex! The same as others expect us to be gays!

    I am not implying that it’s you or another woman here who is so. I was just talking in general, also because i got tired of the stereotyping i find in others.

    What pleases us in sex is all good, even if what pleases one person does not please the other; that’s quite normal.

    Maybe you didn’t read my prior posts well to get my point. I was speaking about most women i’ve found on the net who expect their husbands who love anal sex to also love cuckolding, humiliation, or even transgender. I love the woman to be somewhat masculine, but i do not expect anybody to be this or that.

    For example, even though you love pegging, i do not expect that you become a man! So, why women expect us to become women or gays? Why do they expect that we love humiliation if we love anal sex? If a woman loves to receive it in her pussy or butt, does it mean she loves to be humiliated?

    When the woman correlates pegging with humiliation, I guess the reason is because this is how she views penetration itself. That is, she views the person who receives (whether man or woman) as humble. Otherwise, she wouldn’t see pegging as humiliation.

    I read some of your posts, and i’m happy you know how to differentiate between masculinity and domination. However, my point is this: The same as you can differentiate these two, I think you should also distinguish between power/submission and humiliation.

    Pegging reflects some masculine behavior of the woman, without necessarily she being masculine. I’m talking about masculine “role” in sex, not masculine person. Likewise, the man would love to take some feminine role in sex, without necessarily being feminine in the whole life.

    Most men may say they love humiliation just for the sake to get strap on sex. They love strap on sex as i do. However, the word humiliation is wrong, because, I as just mentioned, it reflects that the woman feels humiliated if she gets screwed, and she reflects this view on her man. That’s wrong, and reflects a real retarding from the woman’s side. Again, I do not mean any person in specific.

    Let’s have sex for sex, and put all the complications behind us, if we really want to be liberal people. Peg him as much as pleases you and enjoy the power you feel, and let him enjoy the sub side he feels. Nothing else than that.

  356. well… I’m a woman who loves it just because it makes me feel powerful. Though, my man enjoys the humilation aspect of it sometimes.

    I’m not entirely sure what you mean, because usually submission involves some form of half the things you negated – humiliation, power play, etc. Not necessarily feminization. I just want to know how you all seem to KNOW what “The type” of women who enjoy this are like… Because I’m getting tired of the stereotypes.

  357. well… I’m a woman who loves it just because it makes me feel powerful. Though, my man enjoys the humilation aspect of it sometimes.

    I’m not entirely sure what you mean, because usually submission involves some form of half the things you negated – humiliation, power play, etc. Not necessarily feminization. I just want to know how you all seem to KNOW what “The type” of women who enjoy this are like… Because I’m getting tired of the stereotypes.

  358. Dear Madamoiselle L,

    You said you didn’t get my point. So let me please try to explain further. First, I strongly promote strap on sex and believe it should be common, and not something we do in the closet as if it is wrong. In fact, i prefer to have a woman who prefers this sex over the normal one: I prefer that she fucks me in the ass several times a weak, and that she gets the full pleasure of that and climax hard as she does me.

    With that said, I do not, however, like the woman to “use” strap on sex for something else. Most of the wives who use strap on sex are more into something else, such as him being fully feminine, cuckoldery, … This is not my opinion, as you said; rather, it is what i see from hundreds of sites and communications.

    I love the woman to think of strap on sex as a way to feel her power side in sex–that is being the penetrator–but not anything else. It’s ok if she dresses him in panties during sex, but this should not mean full feminization. Males love anal sex; they don’t need to become women to love being on the receiving side.

    I hope this site and others would greatly promote strap on sex.

    Submissively, bending over

    bim

  359. Not that I know a lot about this, in fact, I know very little, but “Bim” said quite a lot about “the type” of woman who supposedly likes this form of sex play, with a LOT of suppositions, but we were given no evidence that anything said was more than his/her opinion.

    Bim said: “Most wives who love strap on sex expect their husbands to become transgender or even transsexual.” END QUOTE You KNOW this? How? All I know is a few people who enjoy this, and NONE of the “wives” want their man to put on their panties and bra….

    I guess I don’t get Bim’s point.

  360. No matter how we try to divert the truth, the matter is: There are much more men who love strap on sex than there are women. I mean strap on sex for strap on sex, not for something else.

  361. That’s right, Mark. Very few women are really into strap on sex itself; otherwise, they would have appeared first, and then they would not link strap on sex with something else.

    Your gf might go for strap on sex for, as you said, “favor” for you, not favor for her too. So, she doesn’t like strap on sex, and because of this, she would expect you to do many submissive things for her to give you this favor. All of this is because she doesn’t love strap on sex.

    I wonder why all the sites about strap on sex when the woman herself doesn’t like it.

  362. First to Elizabeth:
    I’ve been thinking to show his article to her in an indirect way and find out what she thinks about this indirectly. Because if I do it directly, I’m sure she’s smart enough to realize I’m into it.

    Second to Bim:
    I totally agree with you and I am just like you and I hope that my lady would like the strapon sex just for the sake of it and that’s it. I don’t like her to expect me to cross dress or do it as a humiliation. I really liked you comments about this. I mean I’m exactly looking for a lady you are looking for and unfortunately they are rare. God I wish I could find a lady who just thinkin about penetrating me would make her wet. I wish there were some dating websites for this. I hope I’m wrong, but I’, quite sure my gf won’t like to be the penetrater. Maybe I could convince her to do this as a favour to me but if it’s a favour it’s not gonna satisfy me because it’s not satisfying to her.

  363. Hello all,

    I came across this site as i was searching for some forums on strap on sex. I read some of the posts and would like to share my opinion.

    First of all, I love strap on sex, or let me say I guess i love it even if i haven’t had any experience with it. In fact, i wish i could find a girlfriend or wife who prefers to be the penetrator most of the time we think of sex. I hope this becomes much more widespread.

    But the question is, how many women really love strap on sex without all the complications they gather around this lifestyle? Sorry if the word complications seems rude, but we need to deal with the problems if we want to spread out strap on sex.

    Strap on sex DOES give power to the woman and put the man in a submissive position. There is no harm in that: The woman has the right to be in a pwerful or submissive position, and so does the man.

    However, how many women love strap on sex for the power exchange they feel, rather than anything else?

    I mean, how many women love strap on sex ONLY because they love to be on the penetrator side.

    The answer is: Just a few.

    Most women who love strap on sex love it because of SOMETHING ELSE, such as cuckolding, lesbianism, sado-masochism, or humiliation (is it self-reflection). Few love it just for sexual power and satisfaction.

    Most wives who love strap on sex expect their husbands to become transgender or even transsexual. Others love strap on sex to fulfill their sadistic trends. Other love it as a humiliation, maybe because they feel so if they have free normal sexual life.

    In all these women, where is the love for strap on sex itself? Nowhere. For them, strap on sex is a medium for other lifestyles.

    In short, strap on sex is used by people from different lifestyles, such as sadomasochism and cuckolding. They are not people who love the act of penetrating itself. I hope we can differentiate between the reasons of strap on sex. For me, I love the woman who can find her power in penetrating her partner, without anything else. I mean, I love her to get wet thinking of penetrating me. I love her to “prefer” strap on sex over all other sex. It’s not just the prostate gland that makes me love strap on sex, but ALSO my submissive position bent over and penetrated.

    I hope more women “in real life” love strap on sex for itself, as the woman who posted this blog.

  364. Why don’t you just show her this article?? I mean… You probably shouldn’t show her the comment section, but read the article and ask her what she thinks. Seems like a good idea.

    Second Mark… I’m guessing you’re not the same as the first mark, but anyways- Just because it was negative for you doesn’t mean it’s negative for everyone. And it sounds like your wife had a bit of a Domme in her… Which is often really hard for women to deal with (precisely because people equate dominance with masculinity. Such BS). Sorry, but you sound rather uncaring in that situation. She wanted to fulfill a fantasy, and it’s OKAY if you didn’t enjoy it. But saying shiz like “do you realize you’re doing exactly what women have been complaining about for thousands of years”… First off – yeah, maybe she did. Maybe if more women treated guys like meat they’d stop doing the same to us. And Secondly – it’s a SEXUAL FANTASY. It’s not saying things she particularly wishes or agrees with… If she has a dominate side, she was expressing it in a way she felt comfortable doing so. AND some guys (and girls!) LIKE that kind of stuff. She should have expressed to you her entire desires there but she probably didn’t realize them. How about some understanding, instead of just judgement?

  365. I did that once with my former wife and WOW was it a negative experience. After she tried for months to get me to do it I finally did. I tried to get into it, I tried to enjoy it and when I did she did everything she possibly could to make me feel like a piece of garbage. I almost laughed. I thought “do you realize that you are now doing exactly what women have been complaining about for thousands of years”? But I didn’t say that. We are no longer together and I learned my lesson to never do that again.

    My advice to guys? Don’t ever do that ever, ever, ever unless you either think you are Gay or Bisexual and that is what she wants.

  366. Mark/Elizabeth
    I wasn’t even sure to bring up the masculine/submissive stuff ‘cept Mark mentioned how his girl was so anti gay. I don’t know what’s in her head. So you’re both right. (It isn’t either masculine feminine sub dom or any of that! I did not intend to infer that) It’s about male prostate orgasm and all the nerves in that area.

    I really wanted to point out that the way to get to that level of sex play is prostate play, other things can happen later. Took me 8 years.

    And to remind beginners to be careful about being really clean about it. (Scat is just such a turn off you probably mize well consider it your first and last time you get to do this.)

    Good luck Mark, I just can say it took time and that’s how I got there.

  367. I totally agree with you Elizabeth. I am a really masculine guy and I hate cross dressing or do anything that women like to do. But, I want to be really submissive when it comes to sex.

    But, unfortunately alot of people can’t seperate dominance/submissiveness with femininity/masculinity. All I’m afraid to bring this up with my girlfriend is the fear of this issue. Cause I’m pretty sure she’s not like you Elizabeth and she can’t differentiate between these two whole different subject.

    I am really scared stiff to bring this up with her. I love her too much and I just don’t wonna lose her for this pegging bullshit. I don’t know, but I just think in her point of view it’s too much to ask and I assume if I tell her about this, she’s gonna get mad at me. So, I’m thinking of some indirect ways to find out what she really thinks about pegging.

    Any lady here who didn’t like pegging or didn’t even know about it, but now she would give it a shot has any idea for me on how to introduce this concept to my girl?

  368. I really wish people would stop equating dominance to masculinity and submissiveness to feminity. I am (mainly) a dominant female. And in no way am I particularly masculine. Even when I’m pegging him, it’s NOT about making him FEMININE. It’s submissive. Ugh. Dominance/Submissive is not related to a particular gender!

    Oh … and NEVER EVER EVER will I be okay with scat play. Sorry, that’s unsanitary, gross and just yucky. Not every girl who’s into that kind of stuff will ever be into scat play.

  369. Mark, your question tweaked me.

    I think every guy on this list that hasn’t been pegged is thinking how the f@#k do I bring this up?

    I know, I’ve been there.

    It maybe took 8 years before we were in a sex shop and I was looking at a display and the conversation was along the lines of “whatta ya think?” “Really!!!??, I mean you want to do that???” And the amazing thing is we worked up to this point by her fisting me. (She’s got tiny hands!) My wife is not dominate enough to get off on the acting power play that pegging provides. She is GGG enough to realize there are g spots for girls and p spots for men and she loves to make me crazy. So butt play for us (and I have rarely entered hers) has been focused on prostate stimulation. (Sometime I wonder what it would be like to find a very dom woman and well, I’m married and wouldn’t stray like that. (But a guy can fantasize!) Getting pegged is very personal act and very trusting of your partner. Like she’s not going to blab about it to your friends.)

    Where do we go from there?

    Does your girl like to act masculine? The entire anti gay etc thing sounds like a bunch of “this is what I stand for, I must be … I wanted to write republican or something but don’t mean to offend… type thinking.” Perhaps she’s somewhat submissive side and perhaps equates a gay male as not masculine enough to “take her.” I don’t know, I really can’t read her mind.

    I will suggest, and this goes to all the guys wondering how the hell to get pegged, is that you some how get the knowledge in front of your significant other, that you have a prostate that is really really sensitive to stimulation. Butt plugs, and all sorts of massages can ensue.

    Here are some big words of warning. Be clean. And I’m not talking gloves or any other dental damns etc. If you think this might happen tonight, I’d personally suggest you don’t eat a damn solid piece of food all day. Soup is good for a soul. Bowel movements till you can’t do it any more. Drink your dinner is a fun way to go. You’ll be loose and ready. The result is if your first time isn’t a major “ugh, I’m not playing with your scat!” I’d bet it happens again on some kinky night. (Save the accident for some other time. It will happen.)

    And one day, you’ll be looking at the Good Vibrations website with your girl and all I’ll say is you can take a bigger one up your you know what than you think, make sure she’s happy with the harness or however its affixed, bucket of lube, seriously, and … congrats. You’re not her bitch, she’s just fucking you in a really kinky way.

  370. Wow, this was the greatest article I had ever read. But I wish I could read the same article from a man points of view who convinces his wife or girlfriend to do this with him.

    I have never tried this pegging stuff before. But I am really curious to give it a shot. I have no idea how to bring this up to my girlfriend. I totally love her and I’m scared bringing up such a fantasy to scare him off and think I am gay.

    She hates gays and crossdressers and she has told me she likes masculine men. That’s why I’m scared to ask her to peg me.

    Any idea?

  371. My man just told me that he enjoys wearing my bra; has his own silk panties, and wants me to have lesbian play with him. I use to be bisexual and this made it easier for him to admit it to me. I am going to go ahead and try it out the next time we are together. Reading these stories has me just horny as hell! I need to read a little more so I know what to do; but I am excited because it has actually been one of my fantasies for years… I had one boyfriend that explored with me when we were young; and we did just as my man now wants to. He is feminine and I am a tomboy; I guess it makes sense now that when he kisses me and makes love to me and caresses me so gently; its because it is what he wants in return. He calls himself a lesbian in a mans body; but he is very much a man. This is a great forum; I can’t wait to learn more 🙂

  372. Funny, this might be one of the top two fantasies for perfectly hetero guys. Its not about being bi or gay, its about understanding what a woman feels and about the whole prostate thing. A prostate centered orgasm is unbelievable. It would be a blast – too bad I can’t figure out how to approach my conservative sweetie to try it.

  373. i would like to shave and wax myself, wear false breasts, then a vstring and put on all female dress and act as a complete woman. this is my fantasy. then my wife should dress as a man and pamper me as “his” woman and enjoy me forcefully, penetrate me or do anything that can be done to a real woman.

  374. Wow, that is hot. My wife got me into anal sex. Moved on from the strap on and have actually had the real thing. I love it. There is no more intense orgasm than when a dick (real or fake) is hitting my prostate.

  375. Ive always wanted to get my wife a girlfriend, shes reluctant unless I agree to her finding me a boyfriend. Thats one way to shut a guy up.

    As far as that kind of kinky sex, she did do that digitally to me once. It was..a unique experience. Sure kept me from cutting loose for a long time.

  376. I am not gay, But I could only dream of my wife touching or even entertaining that thought of performing such things. I’m not even allowed to touch her butt crack let alone anything else. 🙁

  377. I decided to let my girlfriend know that I was curious to see what it felt like. She was pretty surprised but she decided to give it a shot with me. I have to say, It was the best experience ever, lol. Better yet, she refuses to let me do her in butt! She doesn’t want it because she has nothing there to make it feel good. Whatever, everyone has there own choice. She likes doing me though!

  378. My wife uses a Feeldoe dildo and says that she cums really hard. I am pretty sure she has squirted while doing me. It is a little pricy, but it is so much better when both get off.

  379. My wife and I have tried this. We both really liked it and want to do it again.

    After a few years of me performing anal play on her, she recently suggested doing anal play on me. I didn’t take her seriously at first, but when I realized she was serious I agreed.

    The first time, I inserted a well-lubed vibrating bullet into myself and handed her the controller. I had used the vibe on her before. She turned the vibe up and down and we took turns jerking me off until I came. It took a little longer than usual because the bullet felt odd (good, but odd).

    Over then next couple of weeks we did that again twice and decided we wanted to go further. She and I shopped around online and bought a strap-on harness with a beautiful glass dildo.

    A few days later, first I slowly worked the glass dildo up my ass, then she worked it for a while, then she put on the harness with the glass dildo in it and she had me bend over the bed and smoothly slid herself into me. I couldn’t believe how powerful she seemed!

    Slowly, then pretty hard, finally really hard, she fucked me from behind while I jacked off. She really got into it. I was tense at first but soon I just let go and accepted it. After a few minutes, she bent forward, pressing her front against my back. When I felt her breasts touch my shoulder blades and her tongue go into my ear, it sent me over the edge. She stayed still inside me until I completely finished cumming, then gently and slowly pulled out. She took off the strap-on and then we kissed and spooned off to sleep.

    That was about a month ago. Maybe I’m imagining it, but it feels like we are closer to each other than before. We both want to do it again.

    To Drew who asked how: if your girlfriend likes receiving oral, and if she likes being fingered while receiving it, start making it a habit to let your pinkie brush against her taint and anus while you’re pleasuring her. Don’t make it the main attraction, but just a little spice. It will add a lot to her pleasure (my wife orgasms sometimes with only clitoral + anal stimulation) and I doubt she’ll object. If she does object, back off and come back to it more gently later when she’s totally enjoying herself.

    After she accepts that, you can press more firmly on her anus with a well-lubricated finger and/or tongue her a little down there. Try just a little at first, switch the focus back to just her vagina and then back to the vagina + anus.

    When she’s comfortable with that, you can tongue her ass more directly and/or insert a finger partially inside her. From there, work up to tongue fucking her ass deeply for a longer time and putting a finger all the way in. After she is enjoying these things, two fingers and then your cock. Be patient! This process took me over a year with my wife. The wait was worth it!

    Also – hopefully she loves your cock like my wife loves mine. Rub it gently across her crack and against her anus sometimes before inserting it in her vagina from behind. Slide it between her cheeks and have her squeeze you between her cheeks.

    Of course, be sure to find out what she wants (favorites and fantasies) and give it to her! Hopefully she’ll want to give back.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing this and to everyone for the great discussion…

  380. Reading this, I realised I was in an INCREDIBLY similar situation.
    My real name is zarina, so that made it even more shocking.

    I’ve always wanted to perform anal actions on my husband Raju, and infact we agreed mutually, which enhance sexual performances.

    I finally convinced him in a similar way, and during the week days like saturdays etc. we have nice drinks and food and after that he gives me a chance to strap on which is about 8* and i have selected the same for him and i just removes the clothes and strap on and raps him with little lub in his anal , during that night we enjoy a lot and he acts as my wife and i as a husband , this secenarion he has agreed to continue for all the days / nights at home only so now i am the bos and he is my slave wife, we will enjoy this for a while and later on think about having a baby with me ofcourse.

  381. Wow, what a hotbed of views! On a more serious note though, I firmly believe that there are deeper issues for any couple to address here.

    Firstly allow me to clarify that I am not homophobic, nor do I have any unresolved “gay issues” (a term which in itself I find rather offensive).

    The issue of submissive male penetration is one of the very last heterosexual taboos, and while pleasurable, has to occur within certain boundaries in a relationship.

    To give you a little bit of background, I am a very happily married man, a father of 3 beautiful daughters, and fortunately, somewhat open-minded when it comes to the issue of sexuality.

    Prior to my marriage I had several sexual experiences and relationships with transgender women (or shemales for those that wish to offend) which often, though by no means always, involved being penetrated by my partner.

    My experiences with transgender women were an important part of both discovering, and accepting, my own sexuality. After these experiences and relationships, I was able to understand that, while I enjoyed a good many aspects of “homosexual” sex, and enjoyed a strong sexual attraction toward transgender women, I did not have the same romantic attraction to other men, or transgender women, that I have always held toward women.

    And for me, there-in lies the crux of this issue. Sex is, put simply, an adults playground. Some rides we love, other’s we hate, and some we like without wishing to admit so.

    My wife and I have enjoyed, on a good few occasions, her use of a strap on, on me. The important thing is that she and I both understand that there is a difference between sexual enjoyment, and romantic interest, and for whoever may read this, that is the most important thing for you to decide.

    As I stated earlier in this post, I have not had simple sexual encounters with transgender women, but on 3 separate occasions, committed and faithful relationships (as far as I know..lol!) with transgender women.

    While these relationships offered me the opportunity to realize some of my “non-hetero” sexual desires, they confirmed for me that I was not gay, nor was I romantically attracted toward men.

    There is no shame in enjoying any sexual fantasy you desire (frankly I look at many of the acts performed in the BDSM scene, and wonder how on earth anyone can enjoy that!), the point is, not to judge, and to be comfortable with whatever makes you feel good! (even if that means taking a cock in your ass!).

  382. Ladies, as much as Paul’s comment above about surprising your boy with a strap on is incredibly sexy, my advice would be to tease a bit during the day or maybe the week before saying “you’d better be ready, I’m gonna do ya” just so he can “prep” himself.

    I personally don’t eat much in the way of solids during the day leading up to anal sex. We generally have less … shall we say … problems … when we do it.

    God, I wish/hope she does me tonight.

  383. My wife used to finger me. So, one day she asked me if I would like she buys an strapon. I got an inmediate erection smiled and said: Yes! After about one month we were near to a sex shop and I inveted her to come in. Now, let’s but the sttrapon, I said. She choose a big one, and I said “do you wanna kill me?” So, we bougt one about 18 cm.
    GOd, I love it. I love to see her useng a mini dress with it hidden, we make a scene, pretend I dont know or she really makes a surprise, and after a lot of prelimiraries, she says: “turn back”, and she does me. I have incredible orgasms and scream a lot. Now, I have 4 dildoes one of them is about 23 cm, and I like them all. I love see her wearing that strapon, specially because she’s very angelical and it’ is the great contrast.
    An advice: If you wanna do your partner, do not ask him: buy an strapon, and make him a surprise under pants, skirt or dress. If you are sure he loves you, and you love him, there are no limits and he will accept your fantasy or try his.

  384. just tie him and blow him start rubbing his asshole and start pushing using lube and he wont stop you trust me thats how she started fucking my ass now she has a 10 inch strap on we love it. but i had to give up some power for it to work

  385. I use a strapon on my husband and he loves it.I call him my little dick bitchboy.He loves me to take control in the bedroom.And if we have a fight it always seems to make everything better.

  386. After weeks of asking my boyfriend finally gave in today!! and when I commenced anal research, I found this article! amazing! I’m so happy he trusts me enough to do this since he is a taurus and extremely stubborn and guess what…..the reason he is doing this is because he thought i was joking all along. Can’t believe he will do this since he considers himself to be a real mans’ man ……so out of character but that goes to show how much he loves me 🙂
    I love my cabz

  387. My girlfriend is and has always been strongly against anthing anal. No matter any subtle hints or serious conversations about it, she always says no. Not only do I want to do her in the back, but I also wouldnt mind her doing me in the back every now and then with a strap-on. Any suggestions or ways anyone thinks I could get her just to try it??

  388. okay, now i just think you’re an idiot.

    you actually ranted about being sick of your boyfriend always wanting to come on your face, always asking about threesomes, how tiresome it all becomes…
    Only to harass your boyfriend into ass fucking him?
    Now who’s the object?
    No kidding you only want things on ‘your terms’.

    I bet you still bitch when he wants to blow his load on your face you hypocritical douche.

  389. I wish more girls were into strapons. Can all you girls who are into it, tell your girlfriends how fun it is and convince them that it is OK to do to their husbands. To many women are afraid their man is gay, when ITS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH THAT! It has everything to do with the incredible sensation of having our g-spot rubbed just right and exploding. I found out with my ex-gf that I actually love the sensation of her behind me. It is amazing. But I am a bit to embarrassed to be able to bring that up again with a new gf, because I know she wouldn’t be into it.

  390. Dear James, you say:- I wonder what happens in his mind, and in your mind, when you both get confronted by a horny guy that finds himself turned on by your husband and gets a boner while looking at him.
    Colline:-“We don’t dress sexy or to attract attention, but it could be flattering for ’Sandra’s’ ego to feel reassured that she is attractively ’Passable’ dressed en-femme especially by a ’Wolf whistle’, etc.”
    J.Will your husband blush?,
    C.“Yes, Sandra does.”
    J.will he like advances?
    C.“Yes and no, it is flattering to know you’re attractive but it is potentially dangerous and makes Sandra very nervous and unsure.”
    J.will he like the fact that he makes men horny?
    C.’Like‘. “Not really, flattering and amusing maybe. You must understand we do not dress provocatively.”
    J.Or would he get upset and offended?
    C.“Amused, and definitely entertained if the approach was passive. Offended and afraid, only if too confronted, especially aggressively or persistently. This has not and will not happen.”
    J.About you, will you enjoy looking at men getting horny at your husband dressed as a girl?
    C.“Do men really get that horny just looking at women? Again you try to push our buttons by your somewhat extreme sexism. To try to answer you. Only if I could stop laughing at something so absurd. If they became serious I might be afraid or even angry or jealous. I assure you this is not going to happen.”
    J.Would you enjoy looking at your husband being treated as a girl by these men?
    C.“I would be pleased to see Sandra enjoy herself as a ‘Woman’ as long as she does not lead men on, or try to start a relationship, but I feel sure that he, as/she would never be so stupid.”
    J.Would you accept and enjoy looking at your husband acting feminine while becoming the object of sexual desires by men?
    C.“Yes, I would accept and be relieved and pleased to see Sandra so well accepted, but this is potentially very dangerous ground, so we do not seek male company – This is where you don’t seem to comprehend the lines are currently drawn, and so obviously must be for safety reasons. If Sandra ever desired a man sexually, he- the man you are so determined to bring into your equation, would have to be fully aware of her male ‘Attributes‘, and comfortable in accepting her limitations. Again we do not seek to be sexual, in any case, I do not believe my husband would ever use anal sex as we would both be afraid of hygiene issues, of doing serious internal damage and of incredibly serious internal infections occurring.”
    J.Like I said before, if he is gay, he will do this with you or alone. If he is not, you are not helping him in supporting him in this adventure.
    C.“Not helping! I must disagree, I now firmly believe that all men need some escape from this extinct ‘Macho’ stance, born from prehistoric times when men had to fight each other for woman. Men have buried their emotional side at puberty. Men are clearly the same soft ‘Pink Bipeds’ as women but most men have evolved into either ‘Red Necks’, or those so often business suited, or other uniform robots, incapable of crying, hugging each other, or being genuinely comforting or sympathetic, which is alien to our evolution as intelligent beings. We think the current uniformed, ‘Macho Male’ will be dead and gone, in a few hundred years, and we‘ll all either be wearing a practical ‘Thobe and Gutra‘ type of dress code just like the Saudi‘ Princes, or all be wearing ‘whatever we like’ to express our personalities regardless of sexual orientations. I think, I hope, the latter……”
    J.One thing is a man that says he enjoys the feel of feminine cloths on his skin, but it is another to go in public, and become the sexual object and the lust of men.
    J.Are you ready to see that in front of you?
    C.“Again you try to make a point by creating a highly sexual question, but dressed as Sandra, she would not wish to attract attention and would never be dressed so aggressively sexual, as a ‘Tart’ etc. Sandra’s – our focus is on smart casual clothing, to blend in with normal women out on a shopping expedition, and never in an overtly sexual manner. For example handbags are extremely useful but not the least sexy. I wonder why you don’t see any men brave enough to carry one! Why do you suppose you are so afraid of being so easily seen as ‘Femme’, are you all cowards or what? Why does it take such a lot of courage for a man to carry something so useful as a handbag – never mind being seen in a store looking for suitable and also highly practical women’s tights and underwear, but to get off my soap box and try to answer your question.
    I think Sandra is amazingly attractive dressed as a young woman, I have caught men looking, it is part of being a woman and also I find her desirable and sexy. So to your question. Messing around, or ‘Flirting’ with an attractive male is a fantasy of many women and I must accept it could well be a thrill for Sandra to show some leg and tease someone in a safe setting, but it must be someone safe, or otherwise friendly and certainly not someone unknown ‘Macho’male from a bar or other public ‘Pick-up’, which would be unacceptably dangerous for any intelligent women never mind a newbie cross dresser. Don’t you agree?
    Surely you can now see how invalid some of your arguments are! Although to try to be fair to your arguments, if cross dressing is the only way a homosexual guy can ‘Come on’ to another guy that would have to be a cross dresser who could submit to oral or anal sex which while acceptable between homo males, would surely be far too much of a shock to most flirting males who expecting a woman, only to find something other than a woman’s equipment tucked away, could create a very nasty incident. This must be why homo men wishing to attract men do not pass themselves off as women. So cross dressing as a woman for the sexual purposes you suppose is not the valid argument you suggest. Probably more common are two cross dressers getting together for fun and games, but my husband seems very happy with me so far and I hope for a long time ahead.
    Thank you for your letters James. Anything you can tell me about men’s desires in this arena would be well accepted and well read. I thank you for your ideas which have provoked much thought and have been helpful in spite of disagreements. I wondered if all men were dressed more feminine, and became much more sensitive in bed would the lesbian population diminish? My husband is not the same man while cross dressed. He becomes more like me. Sensitive, extrovert, giggly, emotional, focussed on peoples feelings, more caring, and so much more fun to go shopping with, which as every woman knows is far more important than the sex that James sees as key to everything. We are spending some time on Sandra’s voice and mannerisms and we are hopeful this is improving. She slips into her role so easily but her conversation seems a little too soft to me, so at the moment I do all the talking while we are out together. No one else seems to notice anything odd but it is strange for me to hear her soft gentle voice, I find strangely off kilter..….Sandra wants a tape recorder but a friend says don’t it as it will make him too self-conscious…..end – for now….

  391. Holy shit.
    Reading this, I realised I was in an INCREDIBLY similar situation.

    I’ve always wanted to perform anal actions on my boyfriend, but he’s always said the EXACT same things yours has.

    I finally convinced him in a similar way, but we haven’t yet.

    Haha, I hope it turns out like the end of yours.

  392. My wife is 6’2″ 190 lbs. strong, athletic and a farm girl, I on the other hand am 5’9″ 165 lbs. and from the city. My wife took me over her knee on our honeymoon for my first bare bottomed spanking and have received many, many more. On my 50th b’day she spanked me. On her 50th she spanked me then bent me over and rode me to our mutual satisfaction. Usually when she is in one of her moods she will lay me on my back on our bed, enter me and cream me till I lose control the whole time she tells me if I’m not a good little boy and do what she says she will turn me over her knee out in the backyard so all of the neighbors can see for themselves who wears the pants (and who doesn’t) in our house.

  393. What a lucky fella — I would love my wife ( or some other lady) to take me with a strao-on — It is my fantasy

  394. What a lucky fella you man is — I would loved my wife to give me a good rogering with a Strap-On — or some other lady for that matter — I fantasise about it often

  395. Colline – I fully believe that you should participate as long as you feel comfortable. And like I said, my advice is not to randomly put the brakes on this activity with your husband, like some others on here – because it would likely cause him to feel alienated and ashamed. From your comments, I seriously doubt, even in discomfort, that you would like for your husband to feel that way. I know that my guy and I keep an open communication about sex, including things which may make either of us feel uncomfortable. My guy is submissive – rather than feminine (which, btw, is not the same thing) – but there are some acts that he enjoys that make me uncomfortable. Because he loves me, and he is a healthy person with healthy sexual expression, he can (and does) very easily decide that he can forego those particular pleasures for my comfort. While I have never met your husband, I seriously doubt he wants to go so far as to make you uncomfortable. So, when you get to a point that you do not want to go any farther – let him know. And keep up a discussion as to how your adventures together make both of you feel.

  396. Dear James, I accept my partner is a feminine man who enjoys cross dressing. If he does take feminizing further I will support him as long as he is faithful and respectful of my feelings. I accept I had a crush on a girl once so I am a little ‘Butch’ and part of me enjoys having a ‘Girlfriend’ to play with and enjoy shopping with. There is no doubt we have awakened a sleeping Trans Gender issue perhaps in us both. We only met a little over a year ago, are newly married and I was already aware of his cross dressing issue as my boyfriend – my first letter clearly shows. I love his gentleness and femme side and I have accepted now that he needs to release feminine feelings that have been bottled up for years in order to be content. I am sure he is not attracted to men. I do wonder if all men have been indoctrinated at a young age to strike a ‘Macho’ pose to avoid being ridiculed and picked on at school etc., and dressing femme releases them from that burden. My husband feels like a burden has been lifted when dressed/transformed as Sandra. The fact that men act Macho in the company of other men, always masking their emotions, suppressing any show of softness, never crying etc, and have evolved an almost uniform dress code, thus suppressing any femme attributes. This would suggest all men have a suppressed femme side, that is the truth of it. These hidden emotions are surely not healthy. I had hoped to discuss men’s hidden needs rather than labelling people or categorising people. We are all different to a degree but not so very different. I do worry if there is some brake I need to put on and say “I am uncomfortable, no more, we stop here”, but at what point would it be necessary. We are really enjoying what we are doing now, so tender and sensitive, like two lesbians when making love.

  397. James – Look, I called you sexist because your statements were. You said that because that poster’s guy dressed up as a woman, he became a sexual object for the men that saw him. That statement has some pretty heavy implications – specifically, that women, in general, are sex objects, regardless of the situation they are in. I realize that you explain that you meant a man might desire her husband in a sexual way – which is different, I suppose, but… for me at least, if I am not in a situation where I am looking to attract a man, if some random guy starts subtly trying to convey that he wants to screw me – I’m going to be offended. You have absolutely no idea as to what this woman’s husband is wanting by cross dressing in public. I didn’t try to throw her off a cliff, because I said she needs to talk to HIM not YOU.

    And people in general have called you homophobic because, sir, when you act like a man realizing his homosexual desires or deciding to experiment with other men is the end of his life. You know, like he was being thrown off a cliff. You act like if a man decides to experiment with his sexuality, he will never find a woman who loves him. People have called you homophobic because you mention that a married couple is fine in this situation because the wife will have to “live with what she has created”. Do YOU see the inflammatory language you are using there? The things you are saying make it sound like you believe homosexuality or bisexual desires, at least in men, are completely disgusting.

    You are making generalising statements about women’s sexual desires that you cannot possibly know (well, I’m guessing you’re a man, I’ve never met a woman named James). And then, making generalizing statements about women who enjoy this type of sexual act. I’m sorry, but because I enjoy some SD play and the occassional strap on fun, I’m a prostitute? Yes, I know you did not say that in so many words, but by saying that “real” women never want to do this, that sounds like what you’re saying. The women on this site seem to be normal, well adjusted women. Not sex fiends who charge men to do them with a strap on. Oh – and related to that – um, post an ad on any “normal dating site” that claims you want ANY specific sex act, and you are probably not going to get many replies. That’s kind of a red flag that screams “he’ll do you and never call you again”.

    And – to end on – I read every single response on this page in whole. Including yours. Heck, I even just went back and re-read them… and still have the same opinion of you. And yes, I fully see where you don’t label people… you just accuse them (me) of enjoying ruining people’s lives for my own personal entertainment. Yeah… That’s what I like to do… I’m just sadistic like that.

  398. That is funny Dave. I am non religious 100%. But that is ok, I did my part, I hope the ones that read my posts and want to take the advise will benefit from it.

    Those that do not want to read any opinions that are not what they profess can ignore it.

    I now all the jargon, anything that calls for caution is turned as anti gay, or anything that I say you want to make it look like I said a guy will turn gay.

    I suggest you read my post not in part, but completely, and perhaps you need to read those posts several times, because the statements you are making are false, contrary to what I wrote, and seem reactive.

    Religious, creationist, anti gay, homophobic, you and Elizabeth seem to like labeling those you do not agree with.

    I am not going to go that route….not worth my time, I am here to help people, not to defend a point of view with labeling and miscrontruction of other’s postings.

  399. You’re probably right Dave. I apologize to everyone else for losing my head. I was just more than a little offended at James’ positing that women, in general, are sexual objects for the pleasure of men and just went off. It really just encouraged more sexist, offensive remarks. Guess I should go back to pushing people off cliffs! 😉

  400. I think it’s best for us just to ignore James. He’s probably some flavor of religious conservative, as evidenced by his early mention of a married couple(which contradicted his viewpoint). And he probably wandered in here and is trying to spread his idea of morality. But scientific thinking clearly is not his forte. Not once in his bizarre analogy of the soldier did he mention PTSD. Frankly, his posts read like a trailer for “Reefer Madness”. Ooooooh fellas, don’t discover the forbidden, devilish pleasure which is anal play! Even if it doesn’t turn you gay, you’ll morph into a homo-erotic fiend with no self-control!! Puh-lease. James, you’d be a better fit in a Creation Science blog. If we ignore him, maybe he’ll just go away. I’ve said my piece, and now that’s what I’m going to do.

  401. Elizabeth.

    About men lusting, I am a man, and all men that look at a woman they like lust. It would be very boorish for a guy to show an erection and act in a rude manner, but men and women know how to act “subtly” and the message is delivered clearly.
    A man that is straight, and is playing with cross dressing for his GF or in private to “feel” the clothes on his skin will not find this subtle messages alluring, unless, off course, we were talking about a real homosexual man.
    You say you would be offended at a guy that would show a boner at you, I understand. That is not what I mean, the sbutle messages played between men and women tell one and the other the state of arrousal he/she is in w/o resorting to vulgarity. Yet, these messages are clear.
    Only Colline and her boy friend can respond to the questions I submitted, so please let people speak for themselves.

    About the gay issue you are submitting, I said clearly we do not know if the person is gay or not, but what you do not seem to want to understand is that the risk in this practice is all on the side of the man. The woman has nothing but a new experience to enjoy . The guy is the one that will have to deal with the issues, hence my call for caution.

    About women and strap ons in real life, again, I am on the side of preventing catastrophies, unlike what you seem to go for, which is to throw people off a cliff for your amusement. You want to make men believe there are a lot of women practicing this strap on over men deal. That is not true at all. Go to any regular dating site and post something like that, I am a guy looking for a woman to use a strap on with me. Or go to a party and openly disclose to others that you want a woman to use a strap on over you.
    Most women would think the guy is feminine at least, or has homosexual tendencies. I am not sayiong this to mean that all men that are submitted to strap on sex are gay, not at all, but what I mean to say is that it will be very, very difficult to find a woman that will be a GF and a strap on partner as well. There are plenty of dominatrixes and sex for money girls out there that would do it, but it will be very difficult for that guy to be able to satisfy his newly acquired desire.
    About my comments on Collines relationship, I am a human being and before trying to throw people off a cliff for entertainment, I try to safe people from committing a mistake that can ruin their lives. It is good advise to try to instill caution and to make people think about the consecuences of their acts before they engage in those practices, something it apears you think is un necessary. You seem to think that a guy going from cross dressing in the privacy of his home, progressing to doing it outdoors , putting at risk so many things in his life, warrants no caution whatsoever.
    We are talking about human beings, we are not dealing with pets here.

  402. Nikki – use lots and lots and lots of lube. Too much is nearly enough. We use a lube that is made specifically for anal play. Have him shower first and make sure he’s got enough fiber in his diet… unless you don’t mind rather uh… awkward moments. Sometimes it is easier to start with fingers, rather than just jumping to dildos, but that’s up to you guys. Some guys do orgasm without a hardon (or so I hear), but mine prefers hand stimulation with it… Ask your guy what he prefers. My guy and I have never had any angle issues, but if it’s uncomfortable for your guy in a certain position or something – he should let you know during the act. And while I have no idea what it actually feels like, I doubt he’s going to never want to have “regular” sex again… or even less often. My guy says it’s awesome, but sex in general is awesome. It’s just a different trick.

  403. James – so, are all women sexual lust objects for men, then? Because that’s exactly what it sounds like you’re saying. See, I’m a woman, and if some random guy got a boner because he saw me in some normal dress in a mall and acted like it was okay – I would be upset and offended. Because I am a woman, a person, NOT some walking, breathing sex toy, regardless of what I’m wearing.

    You know what else offends me? The sexist, homophobic garbage you are spewing. People don’t “catch” gay, and people don’t “turn” gay. They are gay, or they aren’t gay. And realizing that certain nerve endings feel good when they are stimulated isn’t going to make some sudden attraction to other men occur.

    Also – do single guys sit around talking about how they miss specific sexual acts with each other? Because, see, I’ve seen/heard the “Dude, I just wanna get laid” conversations… and they usually don’t have random “Man, I really miss having a girlfriend because none of these one nighters will (do reverse cowgirl/tie me up/have anal sex with me/whatever his favorite act is)” Most of the guys I know don’t actually discuss what kind of sex they like with each other – regardless of what kind of sex it is. With the possible exception of BJs.

    As I said on Emandlo’s refutation – It is not nearly as rare as you assume to find a woman who enjoys strap on play. I’m talking in real life, not online. Stop making dumba**, sexist assumptions about women that you are in no way qualified to make. I’m actually pretty sure quite a few women I know would relish the opportunity to be on the other side of the equation for once. But because of men like YOU who perpetuate this unintelligent idea that there is something homosexual about ass play – they are too worried of what their men would think to bring it up. So if a guy gets addicted or something – hell, I’ll tell him a few names of women who would love to give it a go.

    And finally – Stop trying to advise that poor woman Colline. Unless you have various degrees in psychology and counseling – you are in no way qualified to decide whether he is secretly gay, or if he just wants to play dress up. And if he does just want to play dress up – you are again, in no way, qualified to decide whether or not this is good for his psyche or their relationship. If Colline is worried as to what this means for her relationship she should be advised to talk to HIM about it, rather than just cutting off something that her man enjoys without a discussion.

  404. Colline.

    I think you are playing with fire here. With all due respect, I think there are 2 posibilities:
    1) Your husband is secretly gay.
    2) Your husband is not gay but is feminine at least.

    If he is gay, you will find out soon. If he is not, just cross dressing, I wonder what happens in his mind, and in your mind, when you both get confronted by a horny guy that finds himself turned on by your husband and gets a boner while looking at him.

    Will your husband blush?, will he like the advances? will he like the fact that he makes men horny? Or would he get upset and offended?

    About you, will you enjoy looking at men getting horny at your husband dressed as a girl? Would yopu enjoy looking at your husband being treated as a girl by these men?
    Would you accept and enjoy looking at your husband acting feminine while becoming the object of sexual desires by men?

    Like I said before, if he is gay, he will do this with you or alone. If he is not, you are not helping him in supporting him in this adventure.

    One thing is a man that says he enjoys the feel of feminine cloths on his skin, but it is another to go in public, and become the sexual object and the lust of men.

    Are you ready to see that in front of you?