Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
So I’m a girl , I had a dream last night that I was with another girl, we did a lot of stuff that lesbians would do. This girl is someone I know, but not someone that I’m really close to. We used to be really close, but not anymore. Anyways, last night my dream was about me and her in a bed, she was doing stuff to me.. then I started to touch her and when I went to eat her out we got interrupted by a bunch of guys that were drunk, then she got up and started to drink with them and I left. Does this mean I like girls? I’ve always wondered if I do. But is this dream telling me I actually do like them ?
Lauri: I believe this dream may be more about your relationship with this girl rather than about your sexuality. I believe, through this dream, you are expressing a desire to be close to her again AND you are trying to figure out what went wrong.
See, the thing about sexual activity in a dream is that it is more symbolic of “coming together” on some emotional or psychological level than it is about “coming together” on a physical level. So the intimacy in this dream is more about the intimacy of the friendship you used to have.
Now, notice how — when describing the actions in this dream — you said, “She was doing stuff to me… then I started to touch her and when I went to eat her out we got interrupted…” Does this seem eerily similar to what went down in real life as far as your sort-of break-up is concerned? Was she “doing stuff to you,” such as saying mean things or doing things that upset you? And were you ready to really let her have it, you know, “chew her out,” but something stopped you?
The interruptions by the drunks could also symbolize the interruption of your friendship. Whatever it was that caused you to not be so close anymore is being shown to you in the form of drunks to let you know that — whatever it was — it was most likely caused by distortions of the truth or not thinking clearly. You guys allowed something to cloud the truth of your friendship just like alcohol clouds one’s judgment.
It seems that deep down you miss her. Maybe this dream could be a good conversation starter! Or maybe not… It could freak her out. Nonetheless, give this some good thought, because good friends are hard to come by.
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