Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
In real-life, I was seeing my now-ex and my current boyfriend at the same time — they both knew about each other. The now-ex just got fed up and left. Lately, I’ve been wondering if I made the right choice in letting him go. He’s happy now and has had a girlfriend for 5 months. My first ex-related dream was about two weeks ago: in it, I was pregnant with his baby and he was happy. The second one was last night: we were fooling around and hooking up throughout it. There was someone watching us during this dream but we ignored them so I don’t know who they were or what they were trying to say. What does all of this mean?!
Lauri: We dream about what is troubling us the most… and it seems that letting him go is what is troubling you. The dream where you are pregnant suggests that your thoughts about him are – like a pregnancy – growing bigger and stronger inside of you. The second dream where you are fooling around and hooking up with him suggests you are “fooling around” with the idea of reconnecting.
Deep down you know this is not a good idea: he is in a happy relationship and so are you (aren’t you?) and you know better than to disrupt that. I believe that is what the other person in your dream represents: the part of you that knows better. To a degree, you are ignoring this part of you just as you were ignoring the person in the dream. As long as you continue to allow yourself to wonder “what if,” these dreams will continue, and it sounds like they are only just beginning. This could be the start of a vicious cycle if you let it, where the thoughts of him trigger the dreams and then the dreams cause the thoughts to continue and it grows and grows – like a pregnancy. Ugh! You don’t want to go there. It’s not healthy.
So take control of your thoughts. Keep telling yourself that it does not matter. He moved on and is happy. You should move on and be happy, too. And if you’re still into your current boyfriend, start placing him into those dreams and thoughts, and start being a little more adventurous with him, in the bedroom and out of it. Before you know it, those nagging thoughts of the ex will be as extinct as a dinosaur.
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