Poll: What Do You Call a Female Cuckold?

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An article in last weekend’s NY Times Magazine about “cuckold wives” in politics notes, “I can find nothing in the dictionary that applies to sexually betrayed women, though you would think Webster would have added one by now.” Actually, according to Wikipedia, the female equivalent cuckquean first appeared in English literature in 1562. Though clearly that moniker never caught on — and after four and a half centuries, we don’t think that’s going to change. (Perhaps because the term cuckquean sounds like it belongs in the fetish world.)

Who knows why it never caught on — perhaps because a cuckold is often meant as a term of derision, and we’re more likely to feel sorry for a cheated-on wife than we are to ridicule her. Then again, remember all the Hillary haters back in the late nineties, circa Monica-gate? We guess sometimes we like to ridicule the cheated-on wife, too. Those bent on derision back then were forced to use the term “female cuckold.”

And what about all those men who’ve been cheated on who deserve our sympathy? How come they get saddled with the insult “cuckold,” as if it were someone their fault? The way “cuckold” is thrown around, you’d think a deficit of masculinity — rather than a female wandering eye — was to blame.

Well, we think we need it’s about time we came up with a new term for someone who’s been cheated on. Something that’s both gender- and judgment neutral. “Jenny Sanford” will date too quickly (and besides, we think most men who’ve been cheated on would rather be called a cuckold than a Jenny Sanford). “Cheatee” is too clunky.

Any suggestions, dear readers? What would you call a man or woman who has been cheated on? Give it your best shot in the comments section below and we’ll follow up with a poll of our favorites next week.

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There’s not a name for it because it’s more standard. How about “womanized?”


How about “adulteree”?


Ok, first of all, Elton Andersyn, I like the way you think. Second of all, Robert is an idiot. Robert, how are you capable of replying without even reading the title of the f*cking post?? I’m in awe. We all know what a cuckold is. You don’t have to define that. And the question you asked, what is the female equivalent? THAT’S WHAT THIS WHOLE DAMN BLOG IS TRYING TO FIGURE OUT!

I’ve been in a mixed relationship for just over a year now with two women of different age groups and of european origin while I’m of british Caribbean origin. One calls me Master she is in her 30s the other calls me husband she is in her 20s. She (the older woman) enjoys watching me having sex with my younger partner and refers to her as Mistress. And has also made reference of including more females in the future. She (the older woman) also enjoys being a sub and being humiliated by me and her younger Mistress. Would she (the… Read more »

Not simply a man who’s wife/girlfriend cheats on him, but rather a man who actually gets aroused by knowing or seeing her in sexual situations with other men, such as flirting, kissing, fondling, or sex. In particular, situations where he is NOT participating but instead marginalized, just observing, or even completely ignored.


Do u not get the question? I’m a female in a commited relationship with another woman. I’m bi…she’s bi, i crave her with a “stunt” dick. Right down to tasting her and and switching some nights so she can do the same. Name that tune?

A cuckold is a man who either permits or accepts his wife fooling around without hiding it or..a man who likes to watch his wife be taken by other men or..a man in a relationship who’s wife makes him watch her be taken by another man or men whether he likes it or not and may make him participate in a derogatory way. There is a whole lifestyle and porn around this and even has a hit of domination to it. My question to you all is: what is a woman called who is in this situation. Note the above… Read more »