Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Much of a Factor Is Height in Male Attractiveness?

photo by Ranjit Laxman Photography We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Tell Him I Don’t Like His Weight Gain?

photo via IMDB We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.   Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, My husband and […]

Pop Culture
You’re More Attractive (to Twitter Users) If…

photo via flickr Sometimes the hash tags that trend on Twitter can make you hate humankind (#fatfilms this week, really, people? Are we back in junior high? What’s next, awards for “Most Outgoing” Twitter feed?!)… and sometimes they just make you want to reach out and hug someone. And sometimes they do both, as with this […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Harmless Flirtation?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a woman asks, “Is there such a thing as harmless flirtation? When does it cross the line? Is the line different for men and women?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure – there are plenty of harmless flirtations. Most flirtations, I think, are harmless. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: He’s Mr. Perfect. Except for the Sex

photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, This may sound pathetic, but the guy I am dating is perfect for me, I love him and want him as my husband, but I don’t really enjoy our sex life.  It’s two and a half years in and I don’t think it’s going to get much better.  […]

Mate Poaching Study: Wedding Ring = Excellent Pickup Device

photo by adactio We’ve always heard from our less-than-scrupulous guy friends that a wedding band lures single women in like flies to honey — apparently it works better even than a cute puppy or a baby bjorn. Though, we suppose if we’re going to be really fair, we should save the word “unscrupulous” for the […]

"Classy Professionals" Seek Wingwomen for $35/Hour

photo by colorcritical Let’s say you’ve got enough disposable income — even in the middle of a recession — to call yourself a “classy professional” who drinks in “upscale bars.” And let’s say that — despite the recession — all this disposable income doesn’t seem to be working on the ladies like you’d hoped it […]

Scientists Debunk Beer Goggles Theory

photo by twodolla Turns out you can no longer blame booze the next time you wake up in a coyote ugly situation. In fact, researchers at the University of Leicester in England found that drinking alcohol actually reduces the attractiveness of the opposite sex. Participants in the study, in various stages of intoxication, were shown […]

Pop Culture
Andrew Trees on Decoding Love

photo via Decoding If your Magic 8 Ball is a less-than-reliable dating guide, then author Andrew Trees has a better idea: Why not turn to the latest studies in economics, neurochemistry and game theory instead? We chatted with him about his latest book, Decoding Love: Why It Takes Twelve Frogs to Find a Prince […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Ugly Guys Make Better Booty Calls

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… I’m not attracted to attractive guys. Those Burberry-wearing, BMW-driving, weight-lifting, business-studying, fraternity hunks just don’t do it for me. At the end of the night, I know I’m booty-calling my chunky, red-haired, 800-dollar-car-driving, engineer boy — […]