Libido
How To
8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

Dream Interpretation
My Wife Won’t Have Sex with Me, But She Still Has Sex Dreams

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: My wife refuses sex, saying she doesn’t like sex any more. (We have 2 kids; we […]

Confessions
Why Some Men Aren’t Interested in Women’s Pleasure

Jenny Bean had a thoughtful (and somewhat depressing) response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm“: I think society tells us girls early in life that we shouldn’t want sex, sex is bad. Girls that do like sex or God forbid have a sex drive [are] slu**s, who**s, etc. Men […]

How To
Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

How To
6 Ways to Address Waning Sex in a Relationship

Today’s Comment of the Week comes from two different readers who had such wise advice on the topic of one partner’s decreasing libido in a fairly new relationship, we combined them into a top 5 list!:  [From “J”] It is normal for passion and sex to decrease as a relationship progresses. Our bodies and brains […]

Your Call
Is It Normal for a Guy’s Libido to Decrease in a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, Does a man’s interest in […]

Sex Poetry
For England’s War Poet Rupert Brooke, Sex Was a Battlefield, Too

Rupert Brooke (1887-1915) was a World War One poet best known for his sonnet “The Soldier,” which opened with these lines: “If I should die, think only this of me: / That there’s some corner of a foreign field / That is forever England.” The New Yorker describes him this way: “Upper-class and stiff-upper-lipped, blond-haired and […]

How To
15 Things You Can Change About Your Sex Life

A few weeks back, we told you about six things you can’t change about your sex life, and we encouraged an attitude of serenity and acceptance. But luckily there are plenty of things that you can change about your sex life, too! Here are fifteen to get you started… 1. Your sexual IQ. Bodies don’t come […]

Your Call
Your Call: Is It Normal for Sex to Wane In a Relationship?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Does a man’s interest in having sex decrease as […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Libido Makes Me Sleep with Mr. Wrong

Dear Em & Lo, I feel like I’m stuck right now. I meet plenty of young men that are very interesting, and eventually, after spending some time with them, I get attached. Something that sounds very normal but turns out to be very painful in the end. So here’s my problem: no matter how hard […]