Marriage
How We (Finally!) Got to Marriage Equality

by Nathaniel Frank for Slate When I was in college and first realized I might be gay, I was terrified. I pictured living in a remote cabin with a dog, the better to avoid the rejection of a society where I didn’t feel I could ever belong. My shame—my wish to flee instead of to […]

10 Things to Say to Your Partner Instead of “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check […]

I Married a Slob and She Won’t Do Anything Around the House

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, When my wife and […]

Sheryl Sandberg’s Post Will Make You Want to Lean In…To a Loved One

One month ago, Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, author of the bestselling book Lean In, and the woman behind the “Ban Bossy” campaign, lost her husband, Dave Goldberg. He died suddenly while they were vacationing in Mexico. The eulogy she posted on Facebook a few days later was a stirring tribute to a partnership that […]

Why a Wife Bonus Isn’t As Bad As You Think

MVP commenter Johnny wrote the following in response to our post “The Best of #WifeBonus on Twitter”: Is there not just a touch of sour grapes about all this? Because I’ll tell you my main feeling on the matter: envy. Green, ugly envy. I wish I had as much money as those people. I wish […]

13 Ways of Looking at a “Wife Bonus”

In case you’ve been living under a rock the past few days, it turns out that some Upper East Side stay-at-home moms, married to hedge fund managers (etc.), apparently get end of year “wife bonuses” for good housekeeping. Yeah. We know. What these women receive bonuses for: domestic budgeting, getting the kids into the right […]

How Cheating May Actually Improve Your Relationship

by Sarah Harrison for YourTango We didn’t believe it at first either … Unless you’re inclined toward polyamory, extramarital relations are generally frowned upon. Marriages accept and expect monogamy; infidelity is harmful! Right? Not so fast, says Michael J. Formica, a Psychology Today blogger. In a post on the “Enlightened Living” blog, Formica makes the case that thinking about cheating—and even stepping […]

Wedding Gift Idea: Intimate Art Kit

This has been around for a few years, but the unique product launching site The Grommet just re-featured it in a recent newsletter: The Love Is Art Kit — a way for couples to make abstract art with their naked bodies while they get it on. Jeremy Brown, the South African-born artist who’s created the kit, has been […]

Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence […]

6 Fun Ways to Seduce Your Husband

photo via Flickr Let’s face it: seducing straight guys ain’t that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge comes after 10 years of marriage, when a lot of the mystery is gone and Internet porn never has a headache. What follows are six classic approaches to seduction […]