Oral Sex
Advice
The Unbearable Lightness of Blowjobs

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Popping her cherry” “Swiping my V-card” “Going all the way” All of these phrases — and countless more — connote one single, sexual act: intercourse. Given its reproductive implications, our […]

Confessions
The Negative Power of Porn

Porn is a tricky thing. On the one hand, you can’t legislate people’s fantasies, especially when pornography may be the one sexual outlet they have.  As sexual liberator, educator or tension reliever, it can be a positive thing. But, it can also be a destructive thing: ruining relationships, setting up unrealistic expectations, perpetuating misogyny. Certainly some porn […]

Confessions
“Stop Relying on Your Dick to Please a Woman”

Apologies if we seem to be beating off a dead horse here: our last Comment of the Week was related to penis size, as well. But we can’t help it! This topic gets some of the best, most thoughtful and helpful responses from our amazingly enlightened readers. Behold,  RodR‘s smart reconceptualization of sex: I think […]

How To
7 Tips for Getting Over a Sexual Hang-Up

Even though you’ve heard for years that all people love [fill in the blank], you just don’t. You — or your partner — think (or at least hope) you’ll eventually grow to like it, or even love it.  You want to love it. You want to make your partner happy and give them the pleasure they desire. But maybe […]

Wise Guys
Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]

How To
Oral Sex Etiquette: 12 Golden Rules for Going Down

The following list of tips is intended for both women and men: The golden rule of manners as it pertains to dining downtown is this: consider it the equivalent of a free meal at a Gordon Ramsay restaurant. It’s a sheer delight simply to be there! So act like it. When the best chefs in […]

Wise Guys
Do Men Appreciate Directions When They’re Going Down on a Woman?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do you feel about being given directions while you’re going downtown? Do you appreciate instructions on what works for that particular woman, or do you feel like it’s backseat driving, or that you’re just a tool or a servant? Is there […]

Dear Em & Lo
How to Help Your Vagina Taste and Smell Better

Dear Em & Lo, My husband and I have been been sexually active with one another for five years.  I’ve been smoking cigarettes for four years. I slowed down dramatically when I got pregnant in 2007 (from needing my own pack to two cigarettes a day or none at all). My husband didn’t know about […]

How To
10 Considerations for Adult Virgins Who Date

We often get advice questions from virgins (usually straight and female) asking how long they can make a guy wait, if it’s realistic to hold out for the right person, and whether or not there are straight non-virgin guys out there who are willing to wait. To them, we offer these 10 inquisitive ruminations on virginity […]

How To
6 Steps to Giving the Best Blowjob of Your Life

by Sean Jameson for YourTango Next time you go down on your guy, he’ll be in for quite a surprise. Today, I am going to show you 6 techniques to help you give your man the most enjoyable oral sex he has ever received. Perfect for keeping him happy and getting him to return the favor! (If […]