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Dear Em & Lo: I’m Put Out About His Porn

There is a long-standing debate over whether porn is good for you or bad for you. We received two questions from straight women decidedly in the “bad for you” camp. So we “remixed” our Wise Guys’ thoughts on the topic with some of our own to come up with advice for straight women disturbed by […]

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Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re in a Relationship?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This time they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable (though over the long-term, factors which usually have nothing to […]

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Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of […]

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Guys Dish on What Makes a Woman Good in Bed (Their Answers Might Surprise You!)

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango We asked a group of men to tell us what makes a woman good in bed. Is someone’s sex skill level a thing you can clock? Aside from a big ol’ orgasm, what to surprises and delights you in bed with the right partner? These guys were maybe far too happy […]

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Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?“ Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery […]

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What Do Men Think About Sex Toys in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How do most guys feel when a woman brings her favorite sex toy into the bedroom? Threatened? Excited? Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos): Unless it’s the Jackhammer Jesus, or obscenely elephantine, I think it’s generally safe — educationally thrilling even — to […]

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Wise Guys: What’s the Appeal of Bare Down There?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What is the appeal (or not) of a woman who’s completely bare down there?” Click here to ask the guys your own question. Straight Married Guy (Mike): I grew up in a world of topshelf Playboy (and god forbid) Penthouse magazines. In Playboy, […]

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Wise Guys: How to Win Over His Mother at Thanksgiving

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When a guy brings his girlfriend home for Thanksgiving, how can she win over his mother?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): Step one: be spectacularly helpful. Nothing wins over moms like someone volunteering […]

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What Guys Really Think About Short Hair

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Short hair vs. long hair? We’ve heard porno stars give advice to women like, “Never cut your hair short,” but then, they’re porn stars. What’s the real deal? Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I truly run the gamut on this one. I […]

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Do Men Snoop On Their Partners As Much As Women?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do men snoop on their partners? (E.g. reading their texts or emails when they’re in the shower, listening in on phone calls, etc.)” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Single Guy (Colin): Unless it’s an emergency situation, we just don’t want […]

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Why Do Men Like to Spank in Bed?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do guys like to spank their partners in bed?” Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I really took one for the team here. In the interest of sexual science and sound advice, I carried out […]

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My Boyfriend Ogles Other Women But Is Jealous When I Look at Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My boyfriend claims it means nothing when he looks at other women, and yet he gets jealous when I look at other men. Why is that?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of […]

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What Does Bad Sex Look Like (According to Guys)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the definition of bad sex?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris): Good sex is a function of the physical and the mental. For women, the mental part may be much more about nurturing and safety, or so I’ve read. For men, I would […]

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Yes, Guys Fake Orgasms Too — Here’s How to Tell

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer, quite diversely, the following: Do guys fake orgasms? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Of course! We probably don’t faux the Big O as much as women do, but every now and then the circumstances might call for us to fake. If our endurance is flagging […]

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Why Men Cat-Call, According to Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week, they answer the following: Why do men cat-call? Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Oh boy, where did I just see a link to a TV clip of a woman walking up to men who cat-called her and asked them why?  (You can answer in comments if you’ve […]

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What Men Want You to Do with Their Nipples

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What’s up with men’s nipples? Should I play with them or ignore them?” Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): When it comes to nipple play and men, it’s very easy.  Some love it, some hate it, and some will ask you, during said act, and in […]