What Guys Really Think About Short Hair

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Short hair vs. long hair? We’ve heard porno stars give advice to women like, “Never cut your hair short,” but then, they’re porn stars. What’s the real deal?

mark_luczak_100Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I truly run the gamut on this one. I dated a girl who was a competitive dancer since childhood and was always required to have her hair long uniformly with everyone else — she now keeps it super-short and she’s adorable, cute as a button. I even had a long relationship with a girl who lost her battle with cancer — she was as beautiful to me when the radiation and chemo took her hair as she was when she still had her signature long, curly locks. But I gotta say I do dig the long hair for the most part. All done up to go with a formal ensemble, or held up with a pencil and ready to fall at a moment’s notice, or just simply pulled back with a hair tie for comfort and convenience? Yes please! I’m a runner, so if I see a girl on the street with a pony tail bounding behind her, that sexy/sporty look really resonates with me. Put that pony tail through the back of a cap and couple it with a sports jersey, and it’s a home run. So, while beauty can come in all cuts and styles, keeping it long gets my vote…by a [groan] hair.

daniel_100Gay Single Guy (Daniel): I honestly think the question of hair length is secondary to general hair aesthetic – meaning, it’s more important that one’s hair has an appealing cut, shine, and feel. Think about all those makeover shows when Jane McDull-looks is unveiled at the end to her husband/boyfriend/oddly close brother and they marvel at the usually chopped off hair. See, these “before” women stopped caring about split-end maintenance, hot oil treatments, and, well, brushing. What should men think about a woman who doesn’t even bother to take care of her own hair? But if you’re already split-end free with a killer $150 cut and you just wonder what turns your mate on more — short or long hair — the only thing to do is ask him, “Honey, do you like my hair longer or shorter?”

However, if a woman is trying to decide to wear her hair long or short just to attract a man, then she needs to take a step back and remember she needs to look good for herself first and she shouldn’t let theoretical men “out there” dictate what she should look like. Think of it analogously to this: if straight men prefer large breasts, how far are you willing to go to stay aligned with that preference?

anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Fred): What’s this about guys not liking short hair? I think everyone can agree Carrie-Anne Moss looked pretty freakin’ good in The Matrix. I don’t give a crap what length of hair a woman has; if it looks good, I like it. Okay, everyone has their own preferences, blah blah. This is a perfect time to mention my number one tip for women in monogamous relationships: It’s unfortunate, but guys crave variety. So give him some! If you have long hair, cut it! If you have long hair and you don’t want to cut it, wear a short wig one night. If you have short hair, wear a long wig one night. Choose a wig that is a different color from your own. I think you get the idea. He gets the thrill of someone new, but it’s you! So, short hair vs. long hair? I say both!

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University; and our straight married guy is shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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common man

a girl might be able to pull off short hair (and when i say short i mean above shoulder length) but girls with short hair are EXTREMELY less attractive than they would be otherwise HANDS DOWN.

First of all, I’m straight and a girl. Personally, I prefer girls having short hair (and remember I’m straight) because I see too many girls everywhere with long hair. Though I don’t think girls should just cut it off randomly to such a short length (Emma Watson) because some girls just can’t pull it off if they’re aren’t attractive enough (yes I think this is an issue). Some girls (with chubby faces) just look bad with it because it highlights their negative (basically it makes them look fatter). Girls with thin faces look better because it emphasizes this trait). I… Read more »

@Vixxy I know what you mean when you say other girl’s long hair rattled your confidence. Mine is shrinking everyday.


short hair looks hot on somepeople and then others should stick with there long hair

I went short in 2003. I was really bold when I was 18. I cut 10 inches off of my hair. I was young, hot, and had the face shape to pull it off. It was an interesting experience. I guess the small unfashionable area in northern Fl where i’m from wasn’t ready. I found my best friends saying things like “Wow..I just have to get used to “this” being you now” or “I need time to adjust” When I would go out in public some people were very rude to me. I over heard people saying things within ear… Read more »
I have Natural hair and I feel I’m not pretty enough unless I have long hair. I started wearing my hair in a slightly “natural-Afro” style with a headband-thingy and I actually look cute. But, when I go outside and see Ads and posters with black girls with weave/long hair (and that annoying natural hair twisty-thing) I feel less pretty. I’m on a mission to grow my hair long, but for now I’m trying hard to accept my hair the way it is now. This is a very touchy subject for black women and black teenager girls such as myself.… Read more »

I know that men like long hair for a fact most of the time.
But I never got any attention when my hair was long – NONE whatsoever.

But now I cut it short and i actually turns heads! I think I pull it off really well and it makes me look cleaner and more gorgeous than I already am.