8/18/09
Your Call: Can a Bad Boyfriend Make a Good Booty Call?

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Dear Em & Lo,
I am in a situation where I can’t let go of my ex boyfriend. We dated for almost a year and in the beginning I felt loved, but as time went on he stopped calling. He wouldn’t answer my calls, didn’t reply to my texts — and that went on for 6 months. I broke up with him and then, three days later, went back to him. Currently I have a boyfriend and when things don’t go well in our relationship I always go to my ex for comfort. As much as I hate to admit it, I still love him and feel like he is the only person who gets me. So I thought maybe we could be friends with benefits, because he’s not a good boyfriend. What should I do?
–Pining


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8 Comments on "Your Call: Can a Bad Boyfriend Make a Good Booty Call?"


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LR
6 years 5 months ago

Honestly, I’m in the same situation. Except I was with him for over 7 and a half yrs. I left him because I was feeling neglected and other stupid crap. Now I want him back and he doesn’t want it. We live in two different cities now so its kind of hard to get him back. He got a taste of freedom I guess. We still talk and believe me he was the best sex I’ve ever had. I would want to have him as a fwb too but we both know I want more than that and since he… Read more »

kb
6 years 5 months ago

figleaf said it all. Don’t go for booty call or fwb if you want more. He probably won’t change his mind. that said, the reason some of my booty calls/fwbs aren’t boyfriends is because I know they’d make bad ones.

TS
6 years 5 months ago

Unfortunately, it seems the best sex I’ve had has been with the WORST boyfriends. Men who weren’t even boyfriend material. Maybe it’s the passion of the forbidden fruit, that they’re unavailable. Men who are bad boyfriends are often a bit promiscuous, so they have lots of experience.

But most importantly, it’s nice to have a booty call with someone you’re familiar with, who knows your body and who you don’t have to act like strangers after. Hmmm, maybe I should make some calls…

Rei
6 years 5 months ago

Did I read this right? A current boyfriend, and wants to have sex with her ex-boyfriend. Uh, cheating, great you stoooopid girl!!!

Sarah
6 years 5 months ago

You are about to enter a world of pain. Sincerely. FWB is really great when you don’t want more. Bootycall is great when you simply want the sex. But this sounds like you want the person more than anything.

Dave W
6 years 5 months ago

Not answering your calls or texts for 6 months? Sounds like he’s just not that into you, and was too chicken to break up. The FWB thing probably works just fine for him, but I see heart pains down the road for you in this current situation.

SC
6 years 5 months ago

Everyone in this scenario needs to stop what they are doing and go buy a gross of condoms right NOW; Old BF, New BF and especially Pining. Someone is going to get pregnant and 20 years from now our kids are going to be reading the same questions. Someone is going to get an STD (if they haven;t already – where was Old BF when he wasn’t returning the calls from Pining? and does New BF know he’s partaking in a little bit of Old BF every time he gets together with Pining?). Pining, you have a New BF! Everyone… Read more »

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