When you’re deep in the doldrums of a recent breakup, it’s tempting to jump head-first into your next relationship. You might find yourself wanting to replicate the intimacy and comfort of that lost relationship. You might even find yourself trying to spoon a one-night stand! Here are six reasons why you should allow yourself a […]
1. Get your hands out of your face. When you’re talking about your romantic feelings to the object of your affection, don’t constantly touch your face and cover your mouth and slur — it makes it seem like you’re hiding something…like you’re a liar and this is your tell (Nick). 2. Have some dignity when […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Dear Em & Lo, OK, I have to […]
Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as Independence Day is coming up, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]
The vagina is a sensitive little thing, but there are some easy ways to nurture it – while these tips aren’t guaranteed to ward off problems like yeast infections and UTIs, they’ll certainly help: 1. Always Pee Right After Sex Especially if you’re prone to urinary tract infections. If you’re especially prone, consider showering after […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Dear Em & Lo, I am afraid that […]
Freud really screwed things up. Add ass play to the long list of fun sex acts he turned into big social no-no’s. Sure, he said fascination with your own bum was an important and necessary part of a child’s development, but then he diagnosed that same pleasure in adults as immature and dysfunctional. Why should […]
Ladies, you know how you feel when you’re overweight and even your fat jeans don’t fit anymore? Or you’re having a bad hair month at the same time your best friend scores a role in a shampoo commercial? Or what about when you’re finally forced to admit that you’re not, in fact, a B-cup bra […]
For a lot of women, intercourse is not always like pizza: i.e. even when it’s bad it’s good. Nope: when intercourse is bad due to pain, it’s really bad. There are many reasons why intercourse can hurt: an infection, an STD, vaginitis, vulvodynia, PTSD (perhaps due to a previous sexual assault)… But if you’ve ruled these […]
by Julie Orlav for YourTango Words are POWERFUL. Words can cut you, heal you and even inspire you. Learning the language of relationships and marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage. Here are five words that are destined to damage your relationship: 1. “Never” Never implies a sense […]
Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys care about what a woman wears, or is she basically just dressing to impress herself and her fellow females (and perhaps her gay friends)?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris DiClerico): Yes we do. We don’t necessarily care about brand names, the […]
Saying “I love you” can become a form of punctuation in a long-term relationship. People say it at the end of a phone call, or on their way out the door, or as they’re falling asleep at night. And there’s nothing wrong with this. Expressing love often is a good thing! And it’s a nice way to check […]
When you move in together, what you lose in mystery you make up for in intimacy. But lack of mystery can kill romance and passion. So here are 7 steps to make sure living together doesn’t ruin good lovin’. 1. Be courteous. People often assume that manners are meant to govern the interactions of strangers […]
We often get advice questions from virgins (usually straight and female) asking how long they can make a guy wait, if it’s realistic to hold out for the right person, and whether or not there are straight non-virgin guys out there who are willing to wait. To them, we offer these 10 inquisitive ruminations on virginity […]
If you constantly have to talk about how smart/cool/deep you are to your date, then you are none of those things. As your 9th grade English teacher at Deerfield should have taught you: show, don’t tell. PDA should have some limits. Yes, you’re out and about on an amazing date in a cool […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Dear Em & Lo, I have been on […]















