Do Men Even Notice What Women Wear?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys care about what a woman wears, or is she basically just dressing to impress herself and her fellow females (and perhaps her gay friends)?

Straight Single Guy (Chris DiClerico): Yes we do. We don’t necessarily care about brand names, the latest or most expensive bags and shoes, or the subtleties of this seasons’ whatevers. We do however, care how our partner looks, what type of style she has, what people think of her, and of course, her sexiness vs. librarian-ness. I think we all want our partners to look attractive to other people, but not appear to be auditioning to be Hugh Hefner’s next girlfriend.  We appreciate a girl who can dress appropriately as the situation requires — everything from the right clothes to wear to a football game to the right thing to wear out to a nice restaurant. That means dressing up and dressing down, all while maintaining the right balance between sexy and conservative. (I hate the word “classy” by the way.) There is nothing worse than someone who takes hours to get ready, only to be way too dressed up for the situation. And GOD FORBID you try to tell her…

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): A little from column A, a little from column B. Guys do care about what a woman wears, but the most attractive women don’t care what men (or anyone else) think — they dress for themselves. And I don’t mean the frumps who’ve resigned themselves to a life in sweats and sneaks. No, the best dressed (and therefore hottest) women are well aware of the signals their clothes send out — they just use them to broadcast something different. I’m a sucker for sharp masculine tailoring, the pierced pin-up look… anything that says, “I’m my own person, I don’t need you — but if we got together it could be interesting.”

Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): Honey, ladies ain’t spending billions on sexy get-ups every year to impress their girlfriends (unless they’re lesbians, and even then. . .). Yes, some women dress to impress for everyone, but others (many) are aiming to attract people of the xy persuasion, and we men are taking notice. Sure, most men may not notice that fabulous contrasting trim on your blouse or how amazing your bag and shoes look together, but they can tell when a woman puts effort into her appearance, and they appreciate it. Granted, I am that “gay friend,” so I’m probably not the most reliable source on this topic.

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Manflet, our Straight Single Guy is Chris DiClerico, and our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. Agreed with the general consensus: while men might not be sensitive to the nuances of your outfit, we definitely see the big picture. We notice whether your clothes make your body look good, whether they’re appropriate for the situation, whether they style and color you’ve chosen suits you

    I’ll give you an example: every once in a while I sit through a re-run of Sex and the City with my girl. Lots of fashion on that show. Sara Jessica Parker wears all kinds of clothing. I have NO IDEA what they’re talking about when she and her friends go on and on about clothes, but I do have an opinion on whether her outfit makes her look hot or whether she looks ridiculous.

      1. I haven’t sat through enough episodes to form an over-all opinion (maybe like five ever?) . I think she’s very hot, so that probably skews things in her favor once in a while.

        A couple times per episode she wears something that is not meant to attract men, but is meant to blow design-savvy womens’ minds.

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