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10 Worst Things About Married Sex

Before all the married people out there take offense, we should note that we are both married, and happily so. We’re not curmudgeons; we already listed the 10 Best Things About Married Sex — and for the record, those ten things were way easier to come up with! — but we believe firmly in looking at both sides […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: The Relationship Is Great, the Sex Not So Much

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

How To
5 Ways the Meyer Briggs Test Can Improve Your Relationship

Having different personality types affects your relationship more than you realize. Are you like me? In a relationship with someone vastly different from you? Whenever I am planning a trip, I start thinking about what I am going to pack at least three weeks ahead of time. I have created a master packing list of […]

Dream Interpretation
How to Figure Out What Your Sex Dream Means

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Last night I had a dream […]

How To
How to Make Your Ravishment Fantasy Come True

There is perhaps no sexual fantasy that disturbs people more than the rape fantasy.  Even people in committed, loving relationships who have successfully navigated such a fantasy with massive amounts of communication and trust can feel weird about it. Readers often ask us, “What’s wrong with me that I’m into this?” Well, as we have […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think When a Woman Has Sex on the First Date

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Does sleeping with a guy on a first date really ruin my chances for a future relationship with him? What if it’s obvious we really like each other, the chemistry’s great, we have a lot in common, and we’re both horny?” Straight […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband Won’t Give Me Oral

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I’m Gay But Keep Dreaming About My Straight Friend

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I’m a gay guy, 23, and […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: An Easy Trick to Avoid Ruining Your Relationship Forever

photo via flickr One reader emailed us their best relationship advice, not in response to a specific post, but just ’cause. So we wanted to share: Me and my girl broke up after 8 years together. She was wonderful and I was a fool. I did everything wrong. So my advice is:  if you’re thinking […]

How To
10 Best Things About Married Sex

Married sex is like the redheaded stepchild of the booty world — at least, according to TV and movies. In that world, married sex is overly lit and played for laughs, whereas all the other kinds of sex — casual sex, new sex, cheating sex, ex sex — get the sultry soundtrack and rumpled sheets. […]

Wise Guys
How to Convince Two (Straight) Guys to Have a Threeway

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How can I can convince two hetero dudes to have a threeway with me?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): What you really need to do is figure out if the MMF threeway is a “Yes,” a “No,” or a “Maybe” for these guys. Yes? […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is It Fine for a Grown, Non-Religious Man to Be Celibate?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Why Do I Cheat On My Boyfriend in My Dreams?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I keep having dreams that I cheat on my […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Care If Their Girlfriend Has a Higher Body Count?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does the average hetero guy really care if his girlfriend/wife has had sex with more people than he has? And if so, why? Straight Married Guy (Jamie): I may be somewhat in the minority here in that, while I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Where Can We Swing with Other Grownups (Minus the A-Holes)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Some days, we simply don’t have the time, and others — like today — we don’t have a clue. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Yay for crowd-sourcing grownup swinging! […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Am I Being Too Selfish In Bed?

Dear Em & Lo, Every time my boyfriend and I “engage,” he turns me on then asks me to give him a BJ. After I do, I’m not as interested anymore. It happens every time. I’m very uncomfortable when I perform a BJ, and it takes away from the pleasure. I want to know if […]