Comment of the Week: The Push and Pull of Love

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Reader Lily had this to say in response to “Your Call: Can a Relationship Work If One Person Is More Into It?”:

Relationships seem to have a subtle but brilliant push/pull mechanism that make them ‘work’ in the beginning. Then after a while you have to consciously chip in in order to keep it afloat.  If you’re not willing to be part of that, don’t enroll. This is where it usually ends, when one partner feels, accurately or not, that they are doing all the work. When it comes to love in a spiritual sense, I wonder if it isn’t the same thing: it usually ends if one person feels like he or she is doing all the loving.