Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make.
My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit it — and now I want to stick something in it. A strap-on dildo to be exact. I want to bend that boy over, face down, bum up, and do him in the most dirty of ways. I want to make his prostate gland giddy with anal afternoon delight.
So last November I said to him, “I want to do you in the butt with a strap-on. I think it’s only fair.” He’s not only put his peen in my vajayjay, he’s poked me in the tush too.
“Um, no.” He laughed nervously and changed the subject. Needless to say, this no-bullshit approach did not work.
Unwavering in my attempt to stick my strap-on dildo where the sun don’t shine, I approached him again in December with a more sensitive strategy: “Just because I want to pack your fudge and you let me doesn’t mean you are a fudge packer, baby.” I thought assuring him I wouldn’t think he was gay, but rather a try-anything-sexual would work for sure. Sadly, this simply wasn’t the case.
“I know,” he replied, “I just don’t want a dick in my butt. It’s not going to feel good.”
With this important information, I devised a more detailed put-it-in-the-pooper plan. In January, sounding oh so scientific (and as cute as can be), I spouted off some knowledge gleaned from this very site:
“The prostate gland is similar in size and shape to a walnut. It is located at the base of the bladder and surrounds the ejaculatory ducts and urethra. It is essentially the equivalent of the female G-spot, hence it’s called the P-spot. When stimulated during anal sex, it can produce orgasms. The P-spot is your best friend and you’re ignoring him. That’s not very nice, now is it? From what I hear he is very fun to hang out with. Perhaps you should make a play date.”
Silence…more silence…then finally, what my pretty little ears have always wanted to hear. “Maybe…”
After a month of many talks about how to travel the brown brick road, we agreed that purchasing a vibrating anal plug would be the best way to get things started. February arrived and with it a text message from my boyfriend that read, “I’m really excited for you to do me in the butt. Wanna buy a butt plug today?” Hell yes I do. Butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow!
Last week we went to Fascinations, a local sex shop, and purchased our very first 4-inch blue butt plug. We rushed home, stripped off our clothes and jumped into bed. He looked a bit uneasy.
“Are you sure you want to do this?” I asked him. “I only want to do this if you’re comfortable with it.”
“It’s probably going to feel like a turd,” he laughed. Not the response I was hoping for, but he bent over, face down, bum up, just as I’d imagined, and after applying a little lube I eased that blue puppy in.
I started slow and soft, in and out, in and out, then applied a bit more pressure. After a few minutes I turned on the vibrator located inside the butt plug. It was loud. Very loud. The longer I sat there on my knees behind him, the more I felt like I should be wearing latex gloves and a lab coat; perhaps throw in a clipboard and stethoscope as well. Probing is the word that came to mind. It felt far too formal for my liking, and I could tell by his silence and his face in the mirror behind our bed that he was not enjoying the ride.
“Okay,” I said. “Let’s try a different approach.” We sat for a few minutes and discussed what would feel good. We agreed that foreplay first without the butt plug was a good idea.
Some plug-free fondling led to some plug-free fellatio. And when he was good and ready, I popped the plug back in. He liked this combination of front and back attention much better, as did I. But after a while my mouth and hands needed a break, so we resumed the prostate exploration in the spooning position. I inserted the butt plug half-way in and angled it up towards his belly button to start. “That feels really good. It’s vibrating my balls.” Then I pushed the plug all the way in and started feeling around left to right. “That doesn’t feel so good,” he said. So I started making soft, slow circles inside. He liked that a lot.
After about an hour our anal endeavor was over and the search for his prostate gland was called off. He didn’t orgasm and he was strangely quiet as we lay there. It occurred to me that maybe I was asking too much. Maybe expecting amazing orgasms from just the push of a button was unrealistic. Maybe we should have thought of the plug as a side dish rather than the main course. Maybe P-spot stimulation just doesn’t work for some guys, just like some ladies hate having their G-spot touched…
Then he turned to me, smiling, and said, “Practice makes perfect, baby. I’m ready for round two. What about you?”
Like I said, butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow.
I have enjoyed anal sex with my boyfriend for the past couple of years. But the other day I asked him if he would let me have anal sex with him using a dildo. To my surprise he agreed and since that day he has be bending over for me when ever I want. It is a big turn on. Several times I have even pegged him to a hands free orgasm. I didn’t realize just how turned on you can get a man turned on by pegging him.
Having my girlfriend pegging myself is awesome. She asked one day if I would try it and I said yes and she has been pegging me since. It is an awesome feeling. She never fails to get me off. To anyone who hasn’t tried it I say you don’t know what you are missing.
Been doing it for years with my girlfriend. Don’t knock it until you try it.
Everyone is different. Do not force yourself to do something you hate unless you really want your husband to be enjoying himself. If you’re uncomfortable, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing it.
That said, discomfort fades with familiarity. The more often you’re around it or try it, the less awkward and uncomfortable it becomes. You may come to love it, you might come to just tolerate it, but if you want to keep trying for your husband then persist. If it’s causing too much of a toll on you, desist! Keep honest in your communication with him and maybe you can work out a compromise.
Husband loves this, but I am having a rough time and it’s causing us alot of issues, How do you just get into it, it doesn’t turn me on and I’m going to check out his feeldoe and see if thisis what we need , we’ve tried a couple of times, but it is terrible for me. HOW CAN I GET — USED TO THIS< PLEASE< NEED HELP FAST!!!!!!!
And plus there are so many kinky things to do to him with his legs in the air…it’s amazingly sexy.
This is the yummiest stuff ever. It may take a while for your man to love it, but I can’t imagine any man turning down a good tonguing (after shower & a bit of practical preparation). Fortunately I do love anal myself after many years of not loving it at all, so he saw how intense it was for me.
I love being able to do role reversal with a man I love. People tend to get very insecure about being behind a man, but thats where his g spot..or P spot as it’s called…is located. It just adds to your love making menu in my opinion.
I like anal play. I do not like men. there is no attraction for men. A person who is open minded with sexual activities is not gay. FemDom is wonderful. My girlfriend loves to use toys. my ultimate fanticy is to have a 3some with 2 dominate women. i can only imagin the fun that would be.
My wife and I are just starting to discover the wonders of anal stimulation and so far it’s has been very good. I’ve been married for a long time and never even thought about this but when she started to play with my ass with her fingers I realized it felt really good. So now she’s working me with a dildo and can tell she loves doing it because she can see how much I enjoy it. Maybe a strap-on soon (I hope so).
hi to all , i always wanted it but was scared to ask , now with my soul made i can have it , and she wants do to it to me to . . . .
My fiance and I are the kinkiest of the sorts I should say. We are a try anything once, and if we like it keep it going type of couple. I never had anal done before and when we did my gosh i fucking love it now xD. When he first told me about his darkest secret, I think he was more weirded out about it than I was. I was all for it. I love his ass. It’s so damn mmmmmmmm… I told him not to worry it does not make him queer. I tried it with my vibe and his reaction turned me on even more. So our next step is to get a strap on. I can’t wait. His fetish has turned into mine and i love it.
My ex-girlfriend and I would have strap-on sex four times a year. It all started when we were going to a home show. we had sex all night in the hotel room during the night before. In the morning after our showers I was still horny. We were dressed and ready to leave for the show when I pulled up her skirt pulled down her panties, applied lots of lube. I bent her over the bed and took her ass for a good twenty minutes before I shot my load inside her back door. She complained that she had to start over and get cleaned up. I pulled up her panties and pulled down her skirt. I said no you don’t, just fix your make up, brush your hair that I was tugging on, you will be fine, the skirt will hide it.
We got on the bus that took us to the convention center that the show was at. About an hour into the show, she leaned in real close and said to me softly.She said “My panties are soaked! In the back the lube and your cum has leaked out.Every step I make I can feel the dampness as my soaked panties, ass cheeks slide back and forth. My Skirt hides everything, but I know, You Know, and I know you know this secret.This secret of taboo sex we did, the fact of my situation as we walk around this show and no one else knows. I am ready to go back now to the hotel. I am so horny right now. The front of my panties is almost as wet as my back because I can’t stop thinking about it and what I want to do to you.” I told her we will leave in a little bit.But we came a long distance to see this show and get ideas for our new home. So I stretched it out another hour.I kept telling her we will leave in five minutes an whispered to her all the nasty things I was going to do to her when we get back o the hotel. It was pure torture to her. I could see it on her face.We ordered room service and spent the rest of the night in bed. We spent a few hours at the show the next day too.She realized That we could of left the show early the day before.
There is a show that comes to our area four times a year.One night before that show she got horny and decided to try the new strap-on on me. She enjoyed it very much, especially because of the anticipation since we never tried it before but had bought the toy many month earlier.I came very hard that night. I caught my cum in my hand and she licked it all off and swallowed every last drop.So started the tradition of her taking my butt with her strap-on four times a year.I tell her I do this for her, that I don’t enjoy it. (But she does get a lot of cum to enjoy when she does do me.)I told her once in her ear at the show,that”I can feel her cum(lube) dripping into my panties(fruit of the looms). That got her all excited. We left then and had great sex when we got home.She bought me some sexy underwear later on, bananana hammocks, etc. One day she did me while wearing one. I came inside it. Then we went to the show. As we walked around the show she whispered “How does it feel, walking around with your cum filled underwear?” I told her I had a surprise for her. Before we left I went to the bathroom. When we got in the car I told her I bought her something at the show.I told her I will give it to her when we got home if she was a good girl. She agreed. I told her close your eyes and open your mouth. I then inserted my underwear in her mouth. I told her she had to suck on them till we get in our house then I will give her her present. We hit traffic so it took us an hour to get to our house.So when all is said and done
switching roles, Changing asses, playing games we always use to have fun and good times.
Never crossed my mind in the past. but my wife recently has found that putting her fingers inside me really turns me on during sex. this started about a month ago. well, a couple of days ago we odered a feeldoe strapless and a strapon with a harness. they should arrive within a week and we are both reall excited about our new arrival. i just hope its going to be great for both of us and stick around ( no pun intended)
I’m glad me and my boyfriend can be open and willing to try anything. He said he loves me and would love any kind of pleasure I give him.
I love guys with a great ass, just something I’ve been attracted to but my ex thought it was gay and I didn’t even dare go near the hole.
It’s not gay, it’s another pleasure area and it doesn’t matter what your orientation is.
In fact, I bet gay guys are thinking straight guys don’t know what they are missing out on haha!
WIth the P=spot, guys can have those incredible heights that we women can.