Our contributor, a woman who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make.
My boyfriend’s butt is beautiful. It’s pretty. It’s plump. It fits in the palm of my hand. I can’t keep my hands off it, and simply touching it turns me on. I’ve spanked it, kissed it, rubbed it, grabbed it, bit it — and now I want to stick something in it. A strap-on dildo to be exact. I want to bend that boy over, face down, bum up, and do him in the most dirty of ways. I want to make his prostate gland giddy with anal afternoon delight.
So last November I said to him, “I want to do you in the butt with a strap-on. I think it’s only fair.” He’s not only put his peen in my vajayjay, he’s poked me in the tush too.
“Um, no.” He laughed nervously and changed the subject. Needless to say, this no-bullshit approach did not work.
Unwavering in my attempt to stick my strap-on dildo where the sun don’t shine, I approached him again in December with a more sensitive strategy: “Just because I want to pack your fudge and you let me doesn’t mean you are a fudge packer, baby.” I thought assuring him I wouldn’t think he was gay, but rather a try-anything-sexual would work for sure. Sadly, this simply wasn’t the case.
“I know,” he replied, “I just don’t want a dick in my butt. It’s not going to feel good.”
With this important information, I devised a more detailed put-it-in-the-pooper plan. In January, sounding oh so scientific (and as cute as can be), I spouted off some knowledge gleaned from this very site:
“The prostate gland is similar in size and shape to a walnut. It is located at the base of the bladder and surrounds the ejaculatory ducts and urethra. It is essentially the equivalent of the female G-spot, hence it’s called the P-spot. When stimulated during anal sex, it can produce orgasms. The P-spot is your best friend and you’re ignoring him. That’s not very nice, now is it? From what I hear he is very fun to hang out with. Perhaps you should make a play date.”
Silence…more silence…then finally, what my pretty little ears have always wanted to hear. “Maybe…”
After a month of many talks about how to travel the brown brick road, we agreed that purchasing a vibrating anal plug would be the best way to get things started. February arrived and with it a text message from my boyfriend that read, “I’m really excited for you to do me in the butt. Wanna buy a butt plug today?” Hell yes I do. Butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow!
Last week we went to Fascinations, a local sex shop, and purchased our very first 4-inch blue butt plug. We rushed home, stripped off our clothes and jumped into bed. He looked a bit uneasy.
“Are you sure you want to do this?” I asked him. “I only want to do this if you’re comfortable with it.”
“It’s probably going to feel like a turd,” he laughed. Not the response I was hoping for, but he bent over, face down, bum up, just as I’d imagined, and after applying a little lube I eased that blue puppy in.
I started slow and soft, in and out, in and out, then applied a bit more pressure. After a few minutes I turned on the vibrator located inside the butt plug. It was loud. Very loud. The longer I sat there on my knees behind him, the more I felt like I should be wearing latex gloves and a lab coat; perhaps throw in a clipboard and stethoscope as well. Probing is the word that came to mind. It felt far too formal for my liking, and I could tell by his silence and his face in the mirror behind our bed that he was not enjoying the ride.
“Okay,” I said. “Let’s try a different approach.” We sat for a few minutes and discussed what would feel good. We agreed that foreplay first without the butt plug was a good idea.
Some plug-free fondling led to some plug-free fellatio. And when he was good and ready, I popped the plug back in. He liked this combination of front and back attention much better, as did I. But after a while my mouth and hands needed a break, so we resumed the prostate exploration in the spooning position. I inserted the butt plug half-way in and angled it up towards his belly button to start. “That feels really good. It’s vibrating my balls.” Then I pushed the plug all the way in and started feeling around left to right. “That doesn’t feel so good,” he said. So I started making soft, slow circles inside. He liked that a lot.
After about an hour our anal endeavor was over and the search for his prostate gland was called off. He didn’t orgasm and he was strangely quiet as we lay there. It occurred to me that maybe I was asking too much. Maybe expecting amazing orgasms from just the push of a button was unrealistic. Maybe we should have thought of the plug as a side dish rather than the main course. Maybe P-spot stimulation just doesn’t work for some guys, just like some ladies hate having their G-spot touched…
Then he turned to me, smiling, and said, “Practice makes perfect, baby. I’m ready for round two. What about you?”
Like I said, butt plug today, strap-on tomorrow.
Got to try it with my wife this past month and really enjoyed it
Its tough to explain, I was relaxed when we tried it and it felt good, but it was also the idea of exploring different things sexually that turned me on to the idea
Who cares what other people think, if you like to explore, do it
Wow all you guys are so lucky to have a womans who wants to do this to you. I’d give anything to have my girlfriend of seven years be into something like that as many of you girls are. Makes me want to display my contact info.
Many couples today are into strap on sex. There is nothing wrong with that, except when we try to use it from other goals, such as sadism/masochism, or transsexuality. All of this is because strapon sex is still new and people fear it might lead to homosexuality. I don’t think it would necessarily lead to homosexuality, unless our intention from it goes besides the fun of it.
Everybody has a masculine and feminine side. I see nothing wrong or even strange in a woman penetrating her man. Only people who can’t be secure with the two sides inside him/her, and only these people try to allocate strapon sex for other things like sadomasochism or transsexuality.
tattoo, your bf gets excited by merely looking at you, maybe because he notices some masculinity in you. Many men today want women that help them live both sides of themselves, the feminine as well as the masculine, the submissive as well as the dominant. For instance, i love to be masculine in look and behavior out of bed, but quite feminine or even the woman in bed, and love to have a woman who is my counterpart.
It’s cool that you ordered your strapon and make it an integral part of your sexual life. This should become a normal sex between every couple, and hope we start we see women chasing men for strapon sex.
bim
I have a new boyfriend after getting divorced last year , & he is a very sexual man . He talked about having dreams of me using a strapon on him several times , I think he was hinting around most of the time . But it turned me on . So recently we talked about it , while he was out for the day i did some online shopping & purchased a strapon & other toys for us to use .I was so excited to order one i paid for 2-day shipping , & now i wait for my delivery today.I am so nervous & scared to do this but at the same time i am so very excited & turned on . he also likes using vibraters on me ,It’s great. After being married at the age of 18 & for so long with the same man, i have found there is so much more , My new man is younger than me 7-yrs , But he says i turn him on just by looking at me .
& now that i have read other comments about husbands & boyfriends enjoying they’re lovers using a strapon is such a turn on . I cant wait to try it .
my girl dose me all the time with a strap on i love it. its fun it feels good plus she loves it
Yes 🙂
no one pushes people to do anything we ask for it if they do it then good and if they dont feel as if that is not for them then so be it. its something that we would like to share with the people we lay next to every night thats all it is and as far as being gay i have and always will be attracted to women and thats it.
I’m really not a fan of people badgering and pushing others to do something they don’t want to do in bed. Especially with no sense of concern for what will actually feel good to the other person.
All I can say is be careful what you wish for. Plug today, gay tomorrow.
hey annie.. That go for me too?
This is written obviously by a male. I mean come on, look at the language. I hate fakes and posers like this guy. What a waste of time.
Gregory, I hope your wife gets into that, and I don’t think it’s difficult since she is open minded.
For me, I would love to have a wife who mostly prefer strapon sex. I prefer this over vaginal sex, and would love her to do me almost every day.
bim
I would love to have my wife do me with a strap-on. Unfortunately, she thinks that it is too gross. We have been married for 12 years and I think that someday she will come around. In the last couple of years, she has come around to several fantasies of mine, including allowing a stranger to watch us have sex. Anyway, I love my wife more than anything and if she never comes around, she never comes around.
hot2try, your the type of girl a guy would love to meet! have you ever mentioned it to him?
I would love to do my boyfriend with a strap one day I think it would be hot and sexy
Single bisensual male here, chiming in to say that here in my area I am not sure which web sites to post a personals ad for partners who would be willing to explore. I’ve been ridiculed and snobbed too many times to come out to a stranger I find attractive.
Where can an attractive, intelligent, bisensual guy search for love?